Unsure of sexuality....

[MummyoftheMuffins]

Hi everyone,

I didn't really know where to put this, but wanted it here so that my SIL, *Josh&Avasmummy* doesn't read it.... Don't really want the family knowing about this yet lol... would turn into a big thing!

I have been having mixed feelings about guys versus girls... I have always been bisexual, i dated a couple of girls through high school. But the thing is, me and andy are together and we have a daughter... But i seem to feel that i need more than that... I don't know how to explain...

I love andy to death, but i need more emotionally. Like a compassionate and loving girl.... And i am unsure at the moment whether or not i am still attracted to andy.... I would love to have another baby, but andy doesn't want more kids... Nor does he want to marry me....... :crying:

I'm just very upset and emotional, pretty unsure on my feelings... Just wanted to let it out to someone! Thanks for reading!:crying:

[WeThree]

Hi, Im sorry you are struggling atm, I dont have any advice for you though, but I wanted to let you know that all members can see this area, and that when she clicks on the 'new post' button she will see your thread, even if this isnt a section she visits, and when she sees you are the writer of this thread, is no doubt going to come in and have a look.
Just thought id let you know, as it seems it is something you are worried about. :)

[draught]

I have just sent a PM with the same message.

[MummyoftheMuffins]

Its alright, if she reads it then it won't be the end of the world... I'll just deal with it when and if it happens lol Thanks guys!

[misskittyfantastico]

Hi! I'm just your regular old heterosexual but after reading your post, it's pretty obvious that you're not getting what you want or need from your partner. I think you need to sit down and tell him honestly how you're feeling...It can't make things any worse.
I hope things improve for you:hugs:

[MamaSage]

No advice, but :hugs:
I hope you sort your feelings out and figure out what is best for you.

[MummyCharmzy]

have pm'ed you :)

[3boys1girl]

I hope u find what your looking for. I cant really understand the situation as im hetro. But the advice I can give is PLEASE PLEASE try and stay with Andy for the sake of your little girl. I have been through a seperation and its not fun! Try and get counselling before just walking out on him. Sometimes with kids they have to come before your own needs otherwise she will be the one that suffers.
I pray that u find what your looking for PM me if you need to chat further
:hugs:

[Veritas]

I too disagree with staying "for the kids sake"..... and too think that your kids are best of in an environment where their parent/s are happy and have a fulfilling life....

After all, you are leading by example in being a mum, and shouldn't your child grow up knowing its ok to make the decisions you need to in order to live the life that makes you truly happy..... its ok not to accept mediocrity! Its ok to go after everything you've ever wanted and dreamed of...

I would say definitely definitely talk to him... the best relationships are ones in which there is honest and open communication, as difficult as it might be for him to hear.... if you guys really love each other then he will be understanding not hostile!

I would also say, if you need it seek professional advice, but you will know deep down what is right for you if you are truly honest with yourself...

I can understand where you are coming from... whilst I am not in a relationship right now, I am one who falls in love with/is attracted to the person and not the sex that they are.... and I will admit, I have probably had more fulfilling relationships with women than with men...

I really hope things work out for you, and feel free to PM me should you wanna chat!

[Blessed Mum]

Hi :wave: I definately think you need to talk to someone. It sounds like you are really unsure of how you feel. If you can't to talk to your partner/husband about how your feeling then definately a professional even over the phone.Maybe do both.This is a huge decision & I can see you have your daughter's best intrests & happiness at the forefront. :hugs: for you & I hope things work out for you & your little girl asap.

[natasha]

Hio there, firstly:hugs: , secondly, and please don't take this the wrong way, but are you sure its men, or Andy that you are unsatisfied with, or is it your life in general. It sounds like there may be some other issues involved. Sometimes people go looking for things in one direction and if it all doesn't go according to plan, they panick and go completely the other way iykwim. If you are sure that you are completely one way, then i do agree you need to speak to him. But sometimes it just takes a bit of TLC from your partner, maybe some counselling I don't know. Sometimes when you are in a bit of a rut, it's hard to see things clearly. Just be sure it's what you want before telling anyone.

[3boys1girl]

((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

how difficult for you.
I will disagree with staying for the kids. I think kids thriove better when parents are happy and that an unharmonious relationship can cause alot of harm.



I didnt mean to stay with the kids if they are at each others throats all the time, I agree its best to be seperated. Im saying to try all avenues like couselling etc before she just up and leaves him and try to see if they can make it work.

[katiana]

im not a mum, but i know what i know, u should try figure out what exactly is not fullfilling u, as previously said, is it men, is it the relationship etc... and be true to ureself, ure little girl will be happy if her mother is happy, whereever it may be...bi...straight...gay .....just be true to ureself and those around u.

love knows no boundries neither does being happy, if ure happy with a women or man, whatever , go for it.

keep it reel.


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