another stripper question re bucks night

[angelickaren]

well ladies please tell me to calm down as im so mad at the bestman right now, if he was here he may need earplugs

iI found out this afternoon that he has organised a stripper for my df which (hey i dont have a problem with it as i went 2 weeks ago on wildboys afloat in syd)
but ladies the bestman told me everything he had organised for the buscksnight which is fine but he has asked me to leave my house with my 3 kids tomorrow night which i said no that fine no problem but he didnt tell me that he has booked a stripper to come to MY HOME !!!!!!! i am so mad at him:hair: how dare he do this.... this is my home where my kids live i have no problem if it was at someones else home but he lied to me
and you know if he told me from the start i would not have been mad i could have yeah thats fine or no i dont want that but he didnt even give me that option.
i found out from one of the other bucks wife im so so so mad he is coming over very shortly for me to take him to the dress makers for his suit fitting but is going to cop a mouth full.
am i overeacting or not

[MimiGrace]

Definitely not!
i agree with you, i don't have a major issue with strippers (although i think its better at licensed strip venues because they have tougher regulations), but i would hit the roof, absolutely spit the dummy if it was at my own home :thumbsdown:

You're definitely not over reacting!!!
And i think you should probably let him know how you feel about it

[readytogo]

I think you have every right to be p****d with the bestman. I agree a stripper is fine at a licensed venue NOT in your home. Im guessing there is not regulations for her and what she will and wont do. I would be stomping my foot and refusing to leave just so I know my home and belongings were safe. Where did he find the stipper would also be a good question????
Could you try faking being sick or one of the kids isnt well???

[angelickaren]

oh i fully intend of telling him how i fell as i totally agree its my home where i live i fell so hurt and mad at him right now :hair: and the worst thing i df doesnt know so i cant tell him whats going on either or maybe i should i also know if i tell bestman gf she would hit the roof she hates stripper she would not come on my hens night so maybe i should make a call:rolleyes:

[readytogo]

personally I'd make the call to the gf!:yes:
I have no issues with guys and strippers and clubs but your home is where you eat sleep and raise your kids its not a good thing to come home after the event and thinking wonder what they did in here or where did she do her act, etc. I can totally understand you anger and I would be ready to let fly...
What has your DF said about it all?

[LeeJ]

im not much for strippers anywhere,

but, i have seen some of the 'private' shows at bucks partys at home, holy crapola! risque (sp!)

Um, in your own home, no, you dont know who she is, and that experience shouldn't really be associated with your home in any way, shape or form.

crack it, tell him to host it else where, you're not telling him he cant have it at all, just not in YOUR home:rolleyes: not unreasonable

(oh, maybe girl his gf too, might get him to listen!):laughing:

[megaminz]

I chose yes but really am a yes/no

I also wouldnt be happy with a stripper in my home.

However....men aren't very bright...We ALL know this. He may have thought, oh she is cool with a stripper, cool leaving the house...she will just be cool with it all.

Before you do your nana at him explain that you aren't happy with a stripper in the house and if thats the situation you won't be leaving the house for her to come..

Like I said, men do need these things explained to them

[tootiredtosleep]

I'd ask them to have it in the garage, so the house stays clean, the neighbours aren't affected and so I could hose the garage out afterwards.

[tahnee11]

I agree with you hun, NO strippers at my house either. Even my fiance agrees with me!! His bestman will be organising a stripper but not at our house, most probably at a licensed venue.

[333]

You are not over reacting.I would not be putting up with that.

I agree with Mimigrace. Much better policed in an actual, licensed joint.

[Nowhere]

Your not over reacting at all, I dont have anything agasinst stip clubs but the ones that go to private events im not so ok with as they are not policed by the same laws as the clubs

as for being in your house MMM thats bad

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Not acceptable, especially when you have children to expect to be able to boot an entire family out of their home for a stripper.

If there was an issue as to where to have her, it SHOULD have been apparent that they needed to rent a function room for a night or similar.

You let all hell loose.

I would. :yes:

[*Cj*]

I would be turning her away at the Door. Its not on, not in your home.

[angelickaren]

well i had it out with the best man this morning before they all left for there day trip i have told him she is not to step foot in my house and she is to do it on the backyard lawn, not under my patio area were i eat and so do the kids.
he was so sorry SURE he would not cancel it but now know how i feel and if he doesnt respect me then i told him he will be out of the bridal party

i should have said i will not be leaving my house until she is cancelled but he knows how upset i was as he said i have never seen u like this i said well you have crossed me big time and im pi**ed offf anyway i guess i will just have to deal with it and between 9-920 tonight i will be picturing this stripper in my home :hissy:

[angelickaren]

well i rang the bestman i i got him to cancel the stripper i was not comfortable with it so i choose to stand up and say no i not happy please cancel i just hope now that he did do it i hope he just didnt tell uall the guys hey dont tell karen about this as she was not happy about or we should tell her as i cant trust the bestman now but i just hope my df will tell me the truth if not well i dont know what im going to do ......:no:

[readytogo]

Well done for saying something! If your not comfy with it then you have a right to do something about it. I asked my DP what his thoughts were and he siad there is no way he woud be happy with it and wouldnt expect me to be if I was in your situation.
Is there anyone who can just 'pop over' tonight just to check whats happening?? Or maybe one of the kids could accidently leave something you need to go back and get. I guess it depends how much you can trust the bestman...:)

[tee]

ew, i wouldn't know where to start with the glen 20 the next day. :p i'm really laid-back and open-minded but couldn't handle a stripper being at my house where my kids play, let alone a buck's night - god knows what those lads get up to. i trust my dp but wouldn't trust his mates.

[Mamaduke]

You've obviously sorted this situation out but I just had to say...

I think it's funny how women jump to the conclusion that if someone's a stripper that they are automatically a prostitute, or naturally assume that the lady is going to have sex with every person is attendance for kicks.

They're getting paid to be there, I'm positive they want to get in, get it over & done with and get out as soon as they possibly can...I don't think a stripper would fancy hanging around with a bunch of drunk, boofhead blokes for too long.

Put the Glen20, bleach and crucifixes away, it's a stripper not a demon possessed Ebola virus carrier! :laughing:

[talia11]

I'd ask them to have it in the garage, so the house stays clean, the neighbours aren't affected and so I could hose the garage out afterwards.

Sorry,but do you think they will leave stripper residue in the house???:laughing:

I would be annoyed that he didn't tell me , not that it was in the house....

[Sheer Bliss]

I'd ask them to have it in the garage, so the house stays clean, the neighbours aren't affected and so I could hose the garage out afterwards.

:iagree: Dh had his in the garage - so none of that filth was in our house!! It was also before we had kids, so I dodn't have to worry about them. NO WAY would I be having anything like that inside my house - ewwwww. IMO the best man should have stuff like that at his place anyway....isn't that what they are for? (ours was living 1400km away, and had flown back for the wedding....hence why I was OK with it being at our place, and the BM was married, one kid, another on the way, and i trusted him - not to mention that my dad and brother were all going to be there :D :p)

Just read your last post.......:yelclap: on standing up for what you felt so strongly about.

[Sheer Bliss]

Sorry,but do you think they will leave stripper residue in the house???:laughing:

I would be annoyed that he didn't tell me , not that it was in the house....

:laughing: :laughing: Have you seen/heard about some of these stripper shows?? Squeeze bottles full of cream, different coloured dyes etc?? The ones i heard about usually had their own plastic drop sheet, but i'd be worried about 'splashage' and their toys being anywhere near stuff in my house!

[tee]

You've obviously sorted this situation out but I just had to say...

I think it's funny how women jump to the conclusion that if someone's a stripper that they are automatically a prostitute, or naturally assume that the lady is going to have sex with every person is attendance for kicks.

They're getting paid to be there, I'm positive they want to get in, get it over & done with and get out as soon as they possibly can...I don't think a stripper would fancy hanging around with a bunch of drunk, boofhead blokes for too long.

Put the Glen20, bleach and crucifixes away, it's a stripper not a demon possessed Ebola virus carrier! :laughing:

I've seen some of these home stripper shows, some when I was younger, and a couple of hen's night's ones as well - and trust me, there was reason for me saying that I'd want to glen 20 the place the next day. It wasn't a slur on their hygiene, or even labelling them prostitutes. But things get rubbed on and dry humped and I wouldn't know if I could rest my sandwich on the sofa the next day ... let alone my face.