sharing the load

[Jorja]

Hi
How do you share responability with DH, DP?

I am a sahm and DH works 60+ hours per week. I appreciate that he needs his rest, down time etc. but i think that when he is off it is kind of my break as wel and we should share the load. He will always help if i ask, but I really want him to take some responsabilty iykwim.
Ie. If Ds is crying, im busy and he knows its bath or bed time just do it.
It also drives me crazy that it is just expected that when we are out DS is my responsablity while DH socialise and enjoys himself. Once again he has no problem watching him if i ask but i hate that it feels like i am asking him to babysit our baby. :rolleyes:
I guess i just want to feel like a team. :ecomcity:
Am i being to demanding?
What works or dosnt for you?

[InGi]

Hi Jorja just wanted to let u know theres another person out there thats having those exact same problems n its driving me nuts!
Dont have any advice coz im still trying to work on it myself sorry! Hopefully someone can give us some advice :yes:

[traseal]

DF and i work fulltime together and our ds comes with us too. At work df mostly has them except for feeds and when i feel like a cuddle. At home df does 99.9 of the cooking and probably agood 90% of cleaning at home. Ido the washing and groceries and organise money (all the things he HATES) so i think over all we do 50/50...ok maybe he does do more haha

[pkbub]

Have you had a chat to DH about your feelings about watching DS when you go out? Maybe he is just oblivious? Or does he really expect it is your duty to watch him when you are out together?

When we are out together and I need a break I will just say "your turn watching him now - I need a break". I think some guys really need the direct approach as they are not likely thinking of how you may be feeling most of the time.

I am a sahm and DH works shift work so is tired alot, but he is very helpful - whenever he is home for bathtime that is his duty, while I cook. Then I put DS to bed and load the dishwasher and DH will wash up any dishes left over. He usually sweeps and mops and vacuums 50% of the time too. Otherwise it would just not get done. I do most of the laundry - sometimes he will hang it out, but it does not get done right;)

You need to feel like a team!:yes: You are not being demanding. Just need to have a little chat...