MrsMiggins
29-05-2006, 23:43
I will be returning to work full time next Thursday. :crying:
While I am very, very lucky in that my workplace is allowing me to work from home, I will have to spend a full day in the office on my first day back. The office is about 2 hours away too, so it's not like a 20 min car trip.
My DH was originally going to be looking after DD in the morning, then my Mum was going to come over for the rest of the day when he'd gone to work. I was as happy as could be expected with this arrangement (of course, I would have liked to be there all day!)
Unfortunately now DH will be going away interstate on Wed night for a few days, meaning that I will need to have my mum babysit all day. This is not a problem for me at all, but I will need to leave before DD wakes up in the morning & I know she will totally freak out when my mum walks in there to greet her first thing in the morning instead of the only person who's done it her whole life so far (me!)
She would have been OK with DH doing it, and she does love my mum, but she seems to be going through a stage at the moment where if things aren't as she expects them to be, she freaks out a bit. For instance; DH had to drop some things off to me at playgroup last week. DD normally gets so excited to see DH, but when he walked into playgroup, it was like she got confused seeing him there & she just burst into tears & only stopped when he left again! The next day, my mum & dad came to our house to visit (we normally see them at their house, and while they do on occasion drop by, they hadn't for several weeks) and she saw them & just lost the plot again! It took her several minutes to calm down.
It also looks like she's getting the beginnings of separation anxiety. I left her with my mum at their house the other day while I went to see their neighbour & she started getting quite upset when she saw that I was leaving. She's also OK if she doesn't see me leave the room, but gets upset if I'm gone for more than a minute or so, but will start up straight away if she actually sees me walk out.
I don't know what to do now next Thursday. Do I try & leave a little later so that I can be the one she sees first thing in the morning, then say goodbye & leave her with my mum? Or should I try to sneak out? I've heard it's better if you let them see you leave, as then when you come back, they learn for next time.
Should I just let my mum see to her in the morning & try to get away before she wakes up?
Has anyone else had a similar experience? I am totally at a loss as to what to do!!
I thought of getting my mum around for a couple of mornings beforehand so she could egt used to seeing my mum there in the mornings, but I don't think this is going to be possible.
While I am very, very lucky in that my workplace is allowing me to work from home, I will have to spend a full day in the office on my first day back. The office is about 2 hours away too, so it's not like a 20 min car trip.
My DH was originally going to be looking after DD in the morning, then my Mum was going to come over for the rest of the day when he'd gone to work. I was as happy as could be expected with this arrangement (of course, I would have liked to be there all day!)
Unfortunately now DH will be going away interstate on Wed night for a few days, meaning that I will need to have my mum babysit all day. This is not a problem for me at all, but I will need to leave before DD wakes up in the morning & I know she will totally freak out when my mum walks in there to greet her first thing in the morning instead of the only person who's done it her whole life so far (me!)
She would have been OK with DH doing it, and she does love my mum, but she seems to be going through a stage at the moment where if things aren't as she expects them to be, she freaks out a bit. For instance; DH had to drop some things off to me at playgroup last week. DD normally gets so excited to see DH, but when he walked into playgroup, it was like she got confused seeing him there & she just burst into tears & only stopped when he left again! The next day, my mum & dad came to our house to visit (we normally see them at their house, and while they do on occasion drop by, they hadn't for several weeks) and she saw them & just lost the plot again! It took her several minutes to calm down.
It also looks like she's getting the beginnings of separation anxiety. I left her with my mum at their house the other day while I went to see their neighbour & she started getting quite upset when she saw that I was leaving. She's also OK if she doesn't see me leave the room, but gets upset if I'm gone for more than a minute or so, but will start up straight away if she actually sees me walk out.
I don't know what to do now next Thursday. Do I try & leave a little later so that I can be the one she sees first thing in the morning, then say goodbye & leave her with my mum? Or should I try to sneak out? I've heard it's better if you let them see you leave, as then when you come back, they learn for next time.
Should I just let my mum see to her in the morning & try to get away before she wakes up?
Has anyone else had a similar experience? I am totally at a loss as to what to do!!
I thought of getting my mum around for a couple of mornings beforehand so she could egt used to seeing my mum there in the mornings, but I don't think this is going to be possible.