I am nervous..

[neostudded]

I think this guy likes me.
But I am nervous because I have only ever kissed one guy!! :o

I am going on a date, well, he is single and he invited me over to his house so he could cook dinner for me, maybe as friends? or maybe not?? I have OCD and aspergers so I really suck at reading body language and I am socially, erm.. Well, I just suck socially. :o

I won't know what to do?
What if he makes a move on me?

[mum1986]

woo hoo neo. you got yourself a date there girl lol. don't stress to much about it (i know easier said than done). and if ya get so nervous that you find yourself stumbling then just make a joke about it (i know it doesn't seem funny at the time but it'll relax the both of you if you can make a small joke about being so nervous lol), then if he asks why you nervous just tell him you like him. then he has a chance to make his move, cause he probably just as nervous as you girl, after all who wouldn't be nervous a bit about dating such a gorgeous woman.

good luck babe, and we want updates after your date.

(p.s if he kisses you, kiss him back, if your nervous then he must be a great guy and worthy of at least 1 kiss lol.)

[CaitlinArai22]

oh neo, dont say you 'suck socially' or are 'erm', you are you, you are beautiful, and the little quirks that make you different might be the exact reason he's attracted to you!!

Just try and relax. Think of a few things before hand you can chat about if need be, that will hopefully avoid those awkward silences, but you might find theres none of those anyway!!
dont put too much pressure on yourself, just be you and if theres anything major on your mind, work out actions plans for it - ie he hits on you and you dont feel comfy with it at that stage, have something you've practiced saying, like "jo, i really like you, and i dont want this to ruin the chances of us deeing eachother, but i Havent been in a relationship since "minime" was born, and i really need you to take this slowly, i hope thats ok with you"

i know a lot of women have troubles saying things so flat out to guys they like, but that is how you find Men, capable of listening and respecting your needs and rights as a partner and woman.

and i always say start as you intend to continue - i am more then happy to open my big mouth and say what im thiking, lol, they're better getting used to it at the start then the middle.

maybe you could say something at the start to let him know you're feeling a bit out of your comfort zone - "wow, this is the first time i've been out without 'minime' since he was born/ i've been on my own/whatever" - then (as long as he has some common sense) he should realise.

Oh good luck whatever happens, dont do anything you arent comfortable with, be honest and give him honest feedback at the end of the night- i've found more men dont call because they think they stuffed up, then because they dont like you:laughing: its just something women dont realise and we've all fallen into this 'dont act too keen' trap
men like honest women, they like knowing they're liked, they like feeling needed - we're shooting ourselves in the foot sometimes i think!

[LilShenanigans]

I dunno, could be popular to suck socially ... and yeah, totally meant if she hangs out with emo kids:rolleyes:

How about you just ask him? nothing like a bit of communication.. little bit goes a long way. May as well start now coz if it develops into anything and you aint got it, its messed up.
Use the OCD and aspergers as excuse, tell him your socially inept and the subtlety of trucks works best... then ask what he wants, what he sees and his motives bla bla bla.

Seriously, women are suppose to have fathers holding shot guns for this sh*t, but there a comes a time when a woman must grow her own balls... some earlier then others :p


goodluck

[neostudded]

Thanks everyone, I am not sure if I like him that much yet, because we don't know each other to well but he is really nice. I just take a bit to feel comfortable around people. I need to be comfortable to be able to kiss them and stuff.:o

[Miriam]

Ooooh...that's quite exciting!

Just be yourself. Don't try to be someone that you're not...because you are wonderful :yes:

He will like you (the real you) for who you are, so don't worry about it too much. Just have fun. What have you got to lose? lf it doesn't work out on the relationship front then just being friends is really cool too :thumbsup:

Also, don't feel like you have to do anything on a first date if you're not comfortable with it. If he makes a move and you don't want to reciprocate then just be open and honest. If he's a decent guy then he'll understand and respect your wishes.

Goodluck and have a great night! Can't wait to hear all about it :D


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[grass is always greener]

Neo, first of all congrats on the kinda-date-thingy :D.

Just take things at face value. That way you dont over read his actions and you arent trying to put an explaination to everything.

If he does make an unwanted move, just let him know that you arent ready to go to that level yet.

Take things at your pace. He should respect that if not, he's not worth it.

But most of all HAVE A GREAT TIME, ENJOY YOURSELF, TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND SMILE.