TTC after loss!!

[jodyshaun]

i was just wondering if there is any people out there that a willing to start a new thread called TTC after loss, i have suffered 3 miscarriages and 2 of them was this year, falling pregnant is a big fear for me as i am frighten of MC again. i was just hoping to start this new thread with people that have been though the same thing as me, so we have people to talk to that are going though the same thing as us!

TTC THREAD AFTER HAVING OUR STARS AND ANGELS

jody
TTC#4
3 lovely kids
3 lovely stars


lizzie
TTC#1
1 lovely star


wendy
TTC#1
2 lovely stars


cmd'smum
TTC#2
1 lovely child
1 lovely star


ang
TTC#1
1 lovely star


ally
TTC#1
2 lovely angels


Morganj
TTC#1
1 lovely star


ljharmony
TTC#2
1 lovely child
10 lovely angels

[Lizzie0808]

Good idea jodyshaun - it is a whole different experience ttc'ing after a m/c. you want to be pg, but at the same time you are scared to death because once you get pg, there's a chance of going through such a horrible experience all over again.

[jodyshaun]

welcome lizzie! so tell me a little about yourselve? i have 3 kids zoe 8yrs, jake 6yrs and little skye 3yrs, i had one misscariage in 1998 and two this year one in feb and the other one in march! i am waiting in line to marry my DF, this will be my 2nd marriage, the first did not work out at all, a long story that i will get into later! i haven't really found out yet why i am mC all the time, at the moment DF and i are going with the flow, we are going to buckle back into it again next month, i am very scared at the moment, nut i am sure i will get through all this! that reminds me i better ring the gyno and book another appointment for next month! and then it is back into charting, temping and clomid!!
if you give me all your details i will start a little list off for us!!

[hoping4another]

Hi Jodyshaun- Sorry for your losses would love to hear your story. What a wonderful idea for a thread it can be sooo hard when TTC and the whole PG things but it extra hard after having a loss with in my case make that 2 losses in ten months and still no baby to told and cuddle.
I have had 2 missed m/c my 1st was at 131/2 weeks and last one was at 91/2 weeks in early April this year both needing a D&C and both having retained products my 1st M/C i needed another D&C so all up i have had 3 D&C.
I show no signs of M/C and only find out at the u/s which is very hard.
We have just started to TTC after the all clear from the doctor as all my blood test have come back clear for any reason to the M/C.
I will be testing tomorrrow as i will be 12 DPO and we are seen a high risk specialist tommorow so wanted to test before our appointment and it would be great to get a BFP and tell him:fingerscrossed:.
I have been waiting 7 weeks for this appointment and it doesn't matter if we aren't PG we will just be seen him as we are been put in this unit after the 2m/c and my last OB was not much help at all didn't even want to run test just told us to try again as they usually don't do anything until after m/c.
So i can understand the fear of TTC after lossing a bub and i keep thinking will i ever been a mum as i don't have a child of my own yet..
Best of luck in TTC. When are you planning to TTC.
Look foward to charting to you.

Wendy

[cmd'smum]

Hi all,

I think this is a fantastic thread! Sorry for your losses. I know its scary when you're ttc after a loss!

I lost my baby boy at 12 weeks gestation and know I will constantly be worrying about the next pregnancy! Also we conceived naturally second time round, first DD was conceived while I was on Chlomid. Therefore I'm scared that this time we won't be able to concieve naturally!

Has a similar thing happened to any of you?

[Lizzie0808]

I also had a missed m/c (nov 05) - I was probably about 10 or 11 weeks by the time the actual 'm/c' happened but because I went for an early u/s I knew for a while tha things weren't right. At what should have been 7 weeks I was showing under 5 and at what should have been 9.5 I still just had a sac of just over 5 weeks size.

As it was our very first month of ttc it was a horrible shock. But on reflection I am pleased I had the u/s that 'prepared' me for the worst - does that make sense?

Anyway, I am fairly sure I had another early (5wks) m/c last month but I am desperately hoping that that is it for me . . . but to be perfectly honest, I don't think I will ever be able to allow myself the excitement of early pg again.

I have to say though that the one thing that kept me sane was discovering that it did happen to other women as well and that even if I was always too chicken to post, chances are someone else was posting what I was feeling and getting good advice from the other ladies on here!

[WarriWoman]

Hi All,

I had an early miscarriage last October at 5 weeks. It needed a D&C, I didn't stop bleeding until early December and was still testing postive for HCG until the end of December.

My DH and I took a break for a few months from TTC and this is our first month back at it. Now I'm looking at conception as just the first hurdle, the bigger one being to actually carry to term. I test this Friday and I'm hoping for a BFP but I know that the worrying will start big time then.

Good thread - nice to hear other's stories. Well, not nice in that they happened, obviously, :no: but nice to share with others in the same situation.

Ang

[Lizzie0808]

Well put - conception is no longer seems like the biggest hurdle, but what comes next.

[Lizzie0808]

Oh dear I just looked at my post and realised how bitter and morose that looked - profuse apologies!

I am just tired and cranky after a long day at work with AF on her way (but taking her time just to annoy me as she knows I want to get on with TTC in June!)

[jodyshaun]

Oh dear I just looked at my post and realised how bitter and morose that looked - profuse apologies!

I am just tired and cranky after a long day at work with AF on her way (but taking her time just to annoy me as she knows I want to get on with TTC in June!)


lizzie honey, everyone is intitled to bad days, you vent away dear!!!

[MilkOnTap]

Great thread Jodyshaun :thumbsup: I would like to join the ranks of 'TTCing post-loss'

I have had two ectopic pregnancies, one in June 05 and the other September 05. The whole thought of trying to conceive naturally now terrifies me... I'm scared about where the bub is going to implant itself again - scared about going to hospital again - scared about not being able to breath again and scared about bleeding internally again. The whole notion of conceiving scares the daylights out of me, but I know that its something that I have to do in order to have a bub (duh).

I'm not actively TTC right now - but will be in August. Is anyone else here actively TTC at the moment?

[jodyshaun]

i have started a little list, please tell me if you like and defently tell me if you hate and you don't want to be on it! also if there is another why you think that it might look better!!!
welcome everyone, it great to talk to you all, i will get into it more tommorrow, but in the mean time i have a story to tell you all that will put a smile on your face!! (i hope)

are you ready ladies, i'm up and started a conga line,
*jody is o'ing, jody is o'ing* repeating myself like mad legs going crazy, grab a hip ladies and join in
*jody is o'ing, jody is o'ing*




P.S. just a little secret from me to you and i am going to try and tell you all but just remember i am ****ing myself laughing at the same time!! went to the bathroom and did my first opk and i got two very bright lines, i came out of the bathroom pating myself on the shoulder thinking good job jody! went and sat on the lounge with a big grin on my face grawling sexly to my man, giving him little body flashes, when he finally caught on that i was turning him on he came running, and jumped me on the lounge, the next thing we know the lounge had broke and we were on the floor giggling like little school kids, there went the love making out the door, now when ever we look at each other we both cackle, wonder if i am going to get it tonight now or if we are going to cackle all night about it!!!

HOW AM I GOING TO EXPLAIN THIS TO THE KIDS IN THE MORNING?????

[cmd'smum]

Lizzie0808

Thankyou for that list, its very very sweet of you!

hopefully, no ...... we WILL all be pg soon and sharing our :barf: stories and then our giving birth :eek: ones!:yes:

[cmd'smum]

Sorry about above error that was that was supposed to read "jodyshaun" :rolleyes:

[Lizzie0808]

damn - thought I was going to get away with credit for something there!! hehe

so how did you manage to explain the couch to the kids?!?!

[hoping4another]

Jody- That is too funny but i know how you feel we broke the bed once doing the Bdings and had to fix it with the telephone books, But it's all repaired now but we still worry it going to go bang again.
The lists looks great. Great job:thumbsup:..
Ally- I am actively TTC now and hoping that AF stays away on Thursday. This is our 1st month after the m/c at TTC and in the past it doesn't take long for me to get PG DF only has to look at me and i am PG:laughing:
Well went to the RWH told to see the specialist what a wonderful doctor :thumbsup: he has explain why he thinks that i had the 2 m/c he believes it was chromosone problem with the baby and that we were unlucky twice he explain everything so well i finally feel at ease at TTC again and going into the next PG.
He said it is very common for ladies to have 2 m/c and go onto have a health baby so has sent us away to TTC and as he is a high risk doctor only he doesn't want to see us again usless it happens again but he believe that next time all will be fine.

Wendy

[Jules16]

Good AFternoon Ladies :wave:

Great idea for a thread!! I would like to join you all on the journey of ttc after m/c if that's okay. My DH and I fell pg late last year and had a missed m/c on 17 Jan which was detected by u/s (died at six weeks and was detected at eight weeks) and had to be removed by d&c. After a long eight weeks my AF finally returned (big time). I then got the all clear in March from my ob to start trying again. I have always been irregular with my cycles so we had no idea when O was going to happen so we just bd'd when we could as often as possible. At week 6 and after a few strange symptoms we decided to do a hpt at Week 6. We got a bfp but unfortunately it short lived and we got a bfn later in the week and AF returned two weeks later. So I think we had a very early m/c last cycle. On the return of AF I decided to start taking Vitex and to start seeing a chinese herbalist.

As a result, yesterday on CD19 I actually detected ovulation (never detected it before) and am so excited that it's happened already as this should mean that my cycle is going to be shorter this time and hopefully remain that way in future. Of course we bd'd loads so am hoping that we've caught the egg this time. Am feeling a bit more confident about everything now that we're under the care ofa chinese herbalist (have heard many positive stories).

It is still scary just the same and I am just so desperately hoping that we have caught the egg again this month and that this time round it is a stayer. I have been suffering a lot of anxiety lately so hopefully that won't cause any problems. Look forward to getting to know you all.

[MilkOnTap]

As a result, yesterday on CD19 I actually detected ovulation (never detected it before) ... Of course we bd'd loads so am hoping that we've caught the egg this time. ... Look forward to getting to know you all.
Yes, you too! :fingerscrossed: you caught that eggie this month!

Its so nerve racking though, isn't it? The whole thought of 'what if' hanging over your head.. I asked my Dr today about Clomid and she told me that if we haven't had any success by December she will give me a referral for an obstetrician.. I haven't even contemplated seeing an obs yet!

Do many of you see an ob? Would you recommend it? Whats it like $ wise? Does your private health insurance cover much?

[Jules16]

I originally saw an ob when I was pg at the beginning of the year (as we wanted to go private). And then when we had the m/c the same ob carried out the d&c. The ob fees can only be claimed from your private health fund if you are admitted to hospital for a procedure under the ob's care (that's my understanding anyway). Otherwise, ob fees for each visit are claimable from medicare just the same as doctor's fees.

[SammyG]

Hey everyone, awsome idea for a thread, I miscarried in March at 11weeks, classed as a blighted ovum as nothing was present at ultrasound. Luckily DH was there when we saw nothing on the screen. My DS got us thru by saying his own version of 'I Love You' for the 1st time that night!

I had an emergency d&c as started haemoraging before appointment (not a pleasant experience) and cycle resumed after 5weeks. We weren't actively trying in May as in temping and OPK tests but did a bit of BDing around the middle of the month and what do you know, we are now 5weeks PG.

I'm pretty nervous but my local GP has been good and I have armed myself with plenty of info. Went for my 1st BT yesterday and asked for HCG levels to be tracked over 2 tests so I can see progression and I'm booked in for an early ultrasound at 8wks.

The m/c was a completely different pg to my 1st with DS (no symptoms in 2nd, everything in 1st) I'm hoping I start feeling awful at around 6wks, I promise not to complain about any m/s or sore boobs. It does already feel different though, my tummy has been doing flip-flops for a few weeks.

:fingerscrossed: this bub sticks! It all comes down to another waiting game though doesn't it?

[Jules16]

Hey BenGsMum. Congratulations!! :smiliedance: Great news that it's happened again so quickly for you. I have all my :fingerscrossed: for you. I'm sure you'll be fine though.

[SammyG]

Thanx Morganj, I've got everything :fingerscrossed:

[Lizzie0808]

Oh wonderful news BenGsMum!!!!!!!!!

[Jules16]

Hey Ladies. How are we all? It seems I O'd on Monday so am now in the TWW. However my temps don't seem to be increasing like I expected and am now wondering if that has been the cause of my previous early m/c's. Any ideas??

[jodyshaun]

I asked my Dr today about Clomid and she told me that if we haven't had any success by December she will give me a referral for an obstetrician.. I haven't even contemplated seeing an obs yet!

Do many of you see an ob? Would you recommend it? Whats it like $ wise? Does your private health insurance cover much?

i would see an ob, i am currently seeing one, waiting to december seems a long time, i would ask about going to one sooner! i don't pay anything to see one, but that is cause i am on a pension card!! but i see one at the hospital, give them a ring and find out, but i haven't heard of a normal doctor handing them out!!

i hope that this helps!!

[jodyshaun]

bengsmum: congratulations!!!!!! stick baby stick!!! i hope you have a great 9 months and an excellent birth!!

[jodyshaun]

Hey Ladies. How are we all? It seems I O'd on Monday so am now in the TWW. However my temps don't seem to be increasing like I expected and am now wondering if that has been the cause of my previous early m/c's. Any ideas??


i don't think that would be the reason, but all we can do is wait!!! AF is due to visit me next week, if she comes to me first i will her that you don't want to see her at all for at least 9 months!!

[jodyshaun]

hello ladies,
it is great to see that there is so many lovely ladies out there just like me, saying that i hope that we will not be here that long and we all have BFP real soon, sorry that i have been away for a while but the damn laptop is playing up bad, does anyone know how to reboot a computer back to the factory settings, it is running so slow and i can't seem to fix it!!!
im sorry that i can't do any more personal but i am off to watch the amazing race, i love that show, well to tommorrow ladies
bye chickys

[Jules16]

I love the amazing race too jodyshaun. What did you think of the show last night. After mojo's recent behaviour I sort of thought they deserved not to be in the last three. I hope the couple win!!!! I can't even remember their names - hehe.

[Femme la Phoenix]

Hello Jodyshaun, lovely thread and such a common bond between so many of us:hugs: I also love the amazing race...my fav's are the hippies - - missed it this week so don't know how they went.

How are you going Ally?

::Julie:: it's wonderful that you have O'd this cycle, you must be so releived, keep doing what your doing it seems to be working:thumbsup:

::BenGsMum::Brilliant news, congratulations!!
you know I say the same thing {I can't wait to feel awful} to my DP and he says, "I'll remind you when you start!! :barf: It's the m/s, sore boobs, constant peeing that give you confindance that it's going to stick isn't it.

Just recovering from miscarriage #10
:: haemorraghing and heavy bleeding for 15 days
:: pain
I have seen my OB and has given the all clear, via u/sound everything is ok. Encouraged us not to wait, keep trying!! We have decided to sit this cycle out and not to try - - let my uterus heal itself.
Being visiting my naturopath almost fortnightly lately!!
Upped my folic acid to 1000mg per day...as I've read articles on higher levels helping cell division, implantation as well as all the other things. Also, you can't have too much of Vitamin B9 or folic acid as your body excreates the excess. If it works you'll be the first to know:thumbsup:

~:: for those reading&not posting that have recently miscarried my heart goes out to you. Your mind heals but your heart remembers and aches. There is strength in talking about it or reading - - take it easy - - I am sorry for your lost dream/s::~



There is nothing you can know that isn't known
John Lennon

[Lizzie0808]

Hey Julie - great that you have o'ed . . . not that the tww is good at all!!! it's horrible!!

I am on CD 3 after AF finally decided to show up. Well, it was a short cycle, but as I knew she was coming she couldn't come fast enough for me.

If I O early this time too I might O around when I was due to give birth which will be interesting emotionally. I am in Sydney for work that day so hopefully I will be too busy to dwell on it.

We had a foster dog this week who chose to tear up all the roses we have in pots in the yard (not his fault - we have a small yard and he's a big dog who was obviously bored) including the one we planted for Chester (what we named our first) which set me off. But I am hoping that I have successfully replanted it . . .

[jodyshaun]

I love the amazing race too jodyshaun. What did you think of the show last night. After mojo's recent behaviour I sort of thought they deserved not to be in the last three. I hope the couple win!!!! I can't even remember their names - hehe.


i am a hippies fan, they have kept me smiling and laughing, i love there jokes, last nights ep was excellent i was on the edge of my seat, cheering when the hippies got in first and cheering even louder when mojo came in last!:smiliedance: :smiliedance:
i can't wai until the finally next week, until then i have my big brother!!

[jodyshaun]

Hello Jodyshaun, lovely thread and such a common bond between so many of us:hugs: I also love the amazing race...my fav's are the hippies - - missed it this week so don't know how they went.

~:: for those reading&not posting that have recently miscarried my heart goes out to you. Your mind heals but your heart remembers and aches. There is strength in talking about it or reading - - take it easy - - I am sorry for your lost dream/s::~




welcome to our little thread, i hope like the rest of us that your time is here is going to be short and sweet like ours is going to be, i have added you to our list!

the amazing race, HIPPIES GO i agree totally, last night ep wa sexcellent, as i said in my previous post that MOJO got the boot last night i was cheering so hard, i don't know how i didn't wake the kids up!

i agree totally with you with other watching and not posting, keep reading we are all here for you when you do decide to write to us all, we will listen with all our ears and heart!!

[jodyshaun]

I am on CD 3 after AF finally decided to show up. Well, it was a short cycle, but as I knew she was coming she couldn't come fast enough for me.

If I O early this time too I might O around when I was due to give birth which will be interesting emotionally. I am in Sydney for work that day so hopefully I will be too busy to dwell on it.

We had a foster dog this week who chose to tear up all the roses we have in pots in the yard (not his fault - we have a small yard and he's a big dog who was obviously bored) including the one we planted for Chester (what we named our first) which set me off. But I am hoping that I have successfully replanted it . . .


good luck with the bedding with this cycle, JUMP YOUR MANS BONE BAD!!!
we have a dog here to not a foster one, but ours and i am ready to take him for a long walk and leave him, he is chewing everything up and i mean everything, the watering system out the back, my garden, everything in the shed, all his food bowls, the clothes on the line, the kids 4 day old trampoline, but everytime i look at him, he gives me this look like i didn't do it a look like he can't even remember, now thinking that is the same look that DH gives me when he wants to get away with something, maybe that is were the dog learnt it from!!!!!!!

[Lizzie0808]

Ours have a thing for remotes (batteries and all) - I think they object to us paying attention to the TV and not them!

Our eldest dog is also incredibly incredibly sneaky about getting food - if the other two start barking upstairs and we go to investigate, she pretends to join the general rush upstairs but in fact stays down and enjoys whatever is foolishly left on the table!!

But I love them nonetheless . . . especially the "i didn't do it" look!!

Full intend to BD our hearts out this month (even with the dogs acting as contraception!)!!

[jodyshaun]

Ours have a thing for remotes (batteries and all) - I think they object to us paying attention to the TV and not them!

Our eldest dog is also incredibly incredibly sneaky about getting food - if the other two start barking upstairs and we go to investigate, she pretends to join the general rush upstairs but in fact stays down and enjoys whatever is foolishly left on the table!!

But I love them nonetheless . . . especially the "i didn't do it" look!!

Full intend to BD our hearts out this month (even with the dogs acting as contraception!)!!


lol at the contraception joke!!
the dogs sound so familiar to ours, but instead of the dog eating things on the table it is the cat!!
aren't dogs so intelligent, ours is quick to dob our youngest daughter in if she is not asleep and at the window talking to him, he runs quickly to the backdoor and bangs real loudly!!

[Jules16]

Thanks everyone!! I thought I had O'd Monday (had full ferning) but my charts show a definite dip on CD14 (a bit early for me) and now I'm all confused as my temps are a bit low for post O. :confused:

[Femme la Phoenix]

Go The HIPPIES!!! Man I love 'em
Jody we chear for them too in this house!! I think the most annoying couple would have being mojo, just way tooooo pretenious. I agree with you whole heartedly, the hippies are down-to-earth and MADE the show :thumbsup:

I am trying without much success I might add, to limit thoughts of babies, falling pregnant, and all the rest of it. In an attempt to not think about it tooo much, but I'm not succeding. That's what with the quotes...they are my way of reminding myself of important things. John Lennon, well I just love him, ever since I was a little girl and he and Yoko had such a hard time - publicly - trying to conceive Sean. They had numerous miscarriages...so He is and always has being a mentor, teacher, spirituall guide of karma and all things beautiful...

I think I need to roll down grassy hills, splash in rain puddles and regress for a weekend :D




"It's fear of the unknown. The unknown is what it is. And to be frightened of it is what sends everyone scurrying and chasing dreams, illusions, wars, peace, love, hate, and all that - It's all Illusion. Unknown is what it is. Accept that it's unknown and it's plain sailing. Everything is unknown - then you're ahead of the game. That's what it is. Right?"
John Lennon

[jodyshaun]

just a quick one tonight ladies, just to say hi and i hope that everything is going ok with you all there, i can't talk tonight, DH and i are fighting and i know that i am always the one fixing it up first but i hate arguements, so i am going to fix it all up!

just a quick, AF is due on thursday or friday, i really hope that she stays away and i get the BFP that i really am dying for!!!

[Lizzie0808]

Julie have you worked out the temp thing yet? I don't temp so I can't offer any help . . . how much longer do you have in the TWW??

Jody - hope you fixed things up and had a good night. and good luck for thurs or fri - will you test then or wait until you are officially 'late'?!

[Jules16]

I'm not sure where I'm at now Lizzie. My estimate is that I'm 7DPO but now I'm not sure O has happened, although have a bit of cramping so I'm sure it has.

[cmd'smum]

Hi ladies,

Wow, you don't come on here for a few days and so much happens!

BenG'smum- CONGRATS :smiliedance: that is fantastic! I hope you don't leave our thread now that you're pg! :D

Today was exactly 3 weeks since my m/c :( .

I just had a few questions, thought you gals would be the right ppl to ask!

1. My boobs are sore and getting slight slight cramping...but Maybe baby is showing no ferning? I usually get these symptoms before Oing.... has anyone experienced this? The bleeding after my d&c has now stopped about two weeks ago.

2. Appx when did you Ovulate after m/c?

3. I don't want to wait after first a/f to try to conceive. My doc gave me go ahead and they couldn't find any reason why I m/c. Did any of you start trying straight away?

Hope you all had a fantastic weekend of BD!!!

Sorry if I :ecomcity: too much!

xo

[Jules16]

Hi cmd's mum

I was advised to wait until after AF before trying again. It took eight weeks for AF to show up and then the cycle after was another eight weeks long. So frustrating. I have no idea if we O'd or not between the m/c and AF. We certainly bd a few times with no protection - who knows!!

Good luck. Sorry I couldn't be more help.

[Femme la Phoenix]

Good morning ladies :wave:

I must bid you all farewell...my DP together with my GP have advised me that I cannot be on a computer for longer than 20 minutes per day and that I must give up bubhub :eek: yes that I must give up bubhub!!

I am being monitored for 14 days during this time to see if there is any improvement...it is medically based. And the fact I'm CD21 - three weeks post miscarriage it's the ideal time to try it as we intend to resume trying again after AF sometime around the 17/06/06.

The medical team feel it's better for me to give bubhub a BIG rest to see if it improves my chances for a successful pregnancy. Not just the intial 12 week period as I have miscarried well into the 2nd trimester's as well.

So as we will do anything to ensure my next pregnancy is viable and has a successful result not just during the first trimester but the entire way through all I will be ablel to do is come on here say hi, let you all know that I'm pregnant....

I have taken each of you into my heart and I care deeply for your individual situation's and hope for a BFP as soon as possiable. I love bubhub it has given me so much over the past 6 months or so and I couldn't thank you all enough.


Au Revior - it's not good-bye forever

I love you all and will pop in after 2 weeks


Lot's of Baby Dust for everyone's BFP's

[Hokey Pokey]

After our M/C we were told it is good to wait until you have a period before trying again but otherwise you can try pretty much right away, which we did!