A bit scared!!

[princessbubba]

Hi everyone. :wave:

I am 21 years old and I am 3 months pregnant. I have just moved to a new town to live with my parents and left my boyfriend (the dad) in my old town. I think the reality of being a single mother has finally hit me and I am a bit scared. I know i have so many people around who will support me....parents...sisters...and hopefully I will make some friends soon...but it's just not the same. Does anyone understand that? It has been hard to talk to my family and tell them that I wish the dad was still around.....but they don't really like him and I think they think it's best that he isn't in my life. I left my old town for a lot of good reasons...and i know that the father doesn't want children. he hurt me in a lot of ways....but I understand him , i can't forgive him for everything but he was lost and confused, and becuase we are young he doesn't know how to deal with being a father. The thing is....I am dealing with being a mother, I am being responsible and doing all the right things...why can't he? I know that no matter what I will be fine...and I will make a great mother....it's jsut lonely without the one you love. And it's hard when the one you love doesn't want to be with you. :crying:

Jess (21)

EDD: 14/12/06

[ForeverMine]

Hey Jess

Just thought I'd let you know that I have PM you a message.

Hope to hear back from you

Christie :wave:

[mrsbutterflygirl]

:hugs: Aww so sorry to hear your pain.... I can't say that I have any idea of what you are going through but if i can be a ear or help in anyway let me know... :hugs:

[luckie_me]

Hey jess!
I know exactly how u feel, i dont know if u have read some of my other post but im going thru the same thing with my X! It is hard not having the one u love around u thru this time! I feel it is supposed to be the best time of your life but for me it has been the worst! You'll get thru it just be strong! Not only for urself but for ur little bubba! Good luck!! :hugs:
Megan!

[lovingmumof 2now]

I spend both my pregnancies without the father of my children around.

The first one was the hardest and I was too ashamed to tell everyone so I made up stories and was very very depressed.

With my second one I reaslised that I need to stop worrying as I know I can do it on my own and enjoy my pregnancy.

I know these words probably don't help much. But just letting you know that you are not alone, there are many of us out there and that you sound like a strong woman who makes great choices for yourself and you child.

Goodluck with it all, my prayers are with you.

[Veritas]

Hi Jess....

I can definitely empathise with you, I've been going through a similar situation over the last few mths....

I can safely say that I am no longer in love with my ex, through all that he has said I realised maybe he wasn't the person I thought he was to begin with....

He has now chosen to have absolutely no involvement in the childs life and doesn't even wish to know when it is born, after causing many hassles in the early days about me not including him enough... I too thought like you in that I was dealing with something that was unexpected and getting on with it, why couldn't he be a responsible adult too....

It's good that you have confidence in your abilities as a mother... that's one of the hardest things to gain I think.... all I can say is stay strong.... don't be afraid to enjoy your pregnancy, and marvel in the little miracle growing inside you....

You may not realise it, but you are with someone that loves you, and will love you unconditionally forever.... your little bub.... men may come and go, and you may meet many people before finding the "right" person for you, but the bond you and your bubba share will last forever.... and will be that much stronger because its just the two of you!!

[hunnybunny53142]

Im a 21 year old single mum as well. I have been since the age of 18. Its really hard at times. Having said that though, its probably for the best. If this guy has hurt you in a way that you cant forgive him for it, then you and baby are better off without him. If he hurt you what would be stopping him from hurting the child. That is what you have to put before everything else. When my ex left me, i was 7 and a half months pregnant, very hormonal and very emotional. there were days that i didn't think i would survive. But in the end, when I had my mum and my godmother sitting with me in the delivery room in the hospital, I knew that I would be fine. I guess what Im trying to say is keep your chin up and talk to your family. Let them know how you are feeling. You need to be able to get things of your chest and when your baby is born you will realise that you have done the right thing.

[SamanthaJane]

I know what u mean when u say that no matter how much support your family and friends give you it doesnt compare to the support the father of the child can be giving you.

I feel like this often. All of my family and friends tell me i will be a fantastic mum and that i am doing the right thing etc etc but i'd so much rather hear that from my partner all the time. Its a different sort of support when it comes from the guy i guess? I dont know how to explain it, but i know exactly what you mean. :hugs:

[hunnybunny53142]

Unfortunately though not all guys want to offer support to their childs mother. until recently my sons father didnt want anything to do with me or tylor at all.