View Full Version : Is the "Yummy Mummy" moniker helpful?
threepigs
21-01-2009, 09:37
Was just thinking about this concept of the "Yummy Mummy" :rolleyes:
Initially I thought the concept was meant to empower and give confidence to mums, showing the world that we may have a bit of a muffin top, comfy clothes and a kid on one hip but we can still be (and feel) sexy and smart.
Now, I sense the moniker is more about making sure you've got a personal trainer, don't put on any post baby weight, have manicured eyebrows, fabulous clothes and a baby that is seen and not heard.
I don't know - what do others think? Is the moniker empowering to women or just one more thing we feel we can't attain?
Pina Colada
21-01-2009, 09:46
I don't like the term, and to me it conjures up images of the second mummy you described, and everytime I hear the term I am just reminded of how far I am from that image :rolleyes:
I just ignore the term whenever it is brandished around! Most of the time it is only really used to describe celebrities anyway.
DP hates words like 'yucky' and 'yummy' because he thinks they are baby words (he's a bit weird!) and it has kind of rubbed off on me so I never really use them. So I'd maybe be a bit offended if someone called me a "yummy mummy" because it sounds like something a 5 year old would say (I've been corrupted by my weirdo partner!). DP call me a "Hot Mamma" though, which was nice! :D So long as he and I are happy with the way I am, I think that's fine. I'll continue to be a "hot Mamma" in his eyes and that's what counts! ;)
Lastcenturymum
21-01-2009, 09:54
I see it more as a negative title by perving males, but I think the use has widened more now.
WorkingClassMum
21-01-2009, 10:01
I once thought it was an apt title of a mother who took care of herself, but I am more seeing it as another lable sterotyping women.
Mathermy
21-01-2009, 10:04
I think it's stoo-pid :)
Deserama
21-01-2009, 10:09
I don't care.
evaandlilly
21-01-2009, 10:16
I think it's stoo-pid :)
:iagree:
I think it is yet another example of mothers being expected to be all things to all people.
My male friends always call me a m i l f :rolleyes: and I just find it a bit :barf:
I'm a nurturing mother, maybe a silly mother sometimes, but sexiness or whatever has nothing to do with my parenting.
I might be a "sexy woman" (or girl as guys call me :rolleyes:) but that has absolutely nothing to do with me being a mother. If that makes any sense at all... tired m i l f over here :sleeping:
*babygirl*
21-01-2009, 10:25
hmmm i've been called this all the time and i definately think people (particularly males) think it is a compliment in the sense that you have a kid but your still hot enough to sleep with:rolleyes: i pay no attention when people call me that... but then again i would prefer yummy mummy to ****:barf:
pinkgingham
21-01-2009, 10:28
i like yummy mummy and **** but only if its DP saying it to me. anyone else and i'd ignore them.
lol m i l f is blocked out. :p
shelle65
21-01-2009, 10:30
I think it is yet another example of mothers being expected to be all things to all people.
:iagree:
It really annoys me - being attractive has nothing to do with being a Mum.
growingbelly
21-01-2009, 12:24
Hate it - Im not a yummy mummy Im a Slummy Mummy:yelclap:
Its 10 am ish here and I am still in my PJ's
I go to the shops in my trackies and a t'shirt with baby spew down the back
I have my hair in a pony tail
I dont wear much jewellery anymore because DD attacks it
I wear flat shoes at all times
Some days I dont get a shower but still leave the house (deoderant counts as a shower right?)
I have not lost the baby weight and have not realy tried and dont realy care
No I may not be yummy, i may be slummy but either way I am DD Mummy and she loves me regardless :thumbsup:
Pina Colada
21-01-2009, 12:28
I'm sorry - talk about being completely out of it....
WTF is a m i l f ????
BreakfastatTiffanys
21-01-2009, 12:34
I'm sorry - talk about being completely out of it....
WTF is a m i l f ????
Thank goodness I am not the only one:o
NibbleCurlynBub
21-01-2009, 12:35
I don't see how that CAN be helpful. :no:
I agree with Naiwen.
Another example that encourages the idea that mothers should be able to do everything.
BreakfastatTiffanys
21-01-2009, 12:37
Oh and no I don't like the term yummy mummy, like the others have said just one more thing to cause us to second guess ourselves.
Just Add Water
21-01-2009, 12:38
I'm sorry - talk about being completely out of it....
WTF is a m i l f ????
Ever see the movie "American Pie"? Its a line from that... Mother I'd Like to...
well hopefully you can figure the last one out ;)
I just don't feel the need to live up to the example set by the Jessica Albas and Nicole Ritchies of the world. Besides does anyone actually believe them when they say they have no hired help? :rolleyes:
I try to avoid labels like that. For every woman who likes it/enjoys it there's another woman who feels like a failure because she's not meeting someone else's standard.
Feel good about yourself, don't label it, and definitely don't care what others think.
NancyBlackett
21-01-2009, 13:00
Hmm... I'm trying to think of the best way to put this...
I don't mind the term at all. I don't think of it in m.i.l.f terms, or that it implies I have to wear makeup and high heels every day... just that I am still a woman who can look good.
And I tend to think it applies whether I am wearing my trackies and morning hair, or all dolled up for a night out.
Maybe I am a bit strange?
I guess it does have the potential to be used as a label to make women feel bad about themselves - like it is an unattainable goal. But if you think you are a yummy mummy then who cares if someone else thinks you aren't?
mum2bubba
21-01-2009, 13:40
Now, I sense the moniker is more about making sure you've got a personal trainer, don't put on any post baby weight, have manicured eyebrows, fabulous clothes and a baby that is seen and not heard.
This is what I think of when I hear the term "yummy mummy"
lauren2008
21-01-2009, 17:44
Hmm... I'm trying to think of the best way to put this...
I don't mind the term at all. I don't think of it in m.i.l.f terms, or that it implies I have to wear makeup and high heels every day... just that I am still a woman who can look good.
And I tend to think it applies whether I am wearing my trackies and morning hair, or all dolled up for a night out.
Maybe I am a bit strange?
I guess it does have the potential to be used as a label to make women feel bad about themselves - like it is an unattainable goal. But if you think you are a yummy mummy then who cares if someone else thinks you aren't?
:iagree:
I don't really mind the term yummy mummy. It doesn't offend me at all, but I can see how it would for others. I guess still only being young though, I like to know that I look good. And I do try to look good when I go out, so when a friend or someone calls me a "yummy mummy" it makes me feel good!
But I'm not so fond of the m i l f comment though, maybe only from DP :laughing::rolleyes:
SassyMummy
21-01-2009, 17:57
I dislike the term.
I mean, I guess it's nice if people use it when referring to you, it means there's something semi-appealing about you, which you kind of forget after having kids...
But at the same time, it also tends to be used to describe celebs, who are "Yummy Mummies" only if they lose their baby weight in about 5 days, go back to work within 10 days, and parade their stretch-mark free, tummy-tucked stomach on Oprah.
I dunno, I just think it's a lot of pressure.
We're all yummy mummies really though... someone must have found us yummy enough to MAKE us into mummies...:p
MissSparkle
21-01-2009, 19:22
It doesn't bother me at all....friends n family say it to me regularly.
Unless its said by some sleaze Im not fussed being called a yummy mummy
Mathermy
21-01-2009, 19:53
I find it really patronising, right along the lines of sweet cheeks and baby:rolleyes:
When men call me names like that I tend to think they are pigs and tend to give them a mouthful. I don't need idiotic comments like yummy mummy to boost my self esteem-I know I am how I look and how men react, but quite frankly I feel like I have much more to offer the world and getting comments solely about my looks really p1sses me off.
Not to mention the fact that people seem to feel the need to clarify that they still find you attractive despite :eek:!:rolleyes: having had a baby. As if that comes as a real shocker:laughing:
Yep I have had a baby, yep I can still be attractive and guess what?? I even have a brain!!!!!:eek:
idiots :rolleyes:
SomewhereOverTheRainbow
21-01-2009, 20:24
Hate it - Im not a yummy mummy Im a Slummy Mummy:yelclap:
Its 10 am ish here and I am still in my PJ's
I go to the shops in my trackies and a t'shirt with baby spew down the back
I have my hair in a pony tail
I dont wear much jewellery anymore because DD attacks it
I wear flat shoes at all times
Some days I dont get a shower but still leave the house (deoderant counts as a shower right?)
I have not lost the baby weight and have not realy tried and dont realy care
No I may not be yummy, i may be slummy but either way I am DD Mummy and she loves me regardless
:laughing::laughing: I LOVE IT!!!!! Go the slummy mummy power!!
As for yummy mummy, I think it sounds very trashy TBH!! The only people I hear using the term IRL are bogans. :o
Mathermy
21-01-2009, 20:27
:laughing::laughing: I LOVE IT!!!!! Go the slummy mummy power!!
As for yummy mummy, I think it sounds very trashy TBH!! The only people I hear using the term IRL are bogans. :o
teehee!:laughing:
certainly does have a certain bogan-esque ring to it doesn't it! :idea:
Next time i hear it I will do a quick bogan scan and test your theory :D
Kayangel
21-01-2009, 20:29
I think the yummy mummy term appeals more to the younger mother, I have no issues with the term, i see it as being a hot/sexy/good looking mummy. The mummies in the young mums thread are always using the term "yummy mummies" and i no i dont mean to offend anyone and im 99% sure no one takes offence.
Regarding this comment a baby that is seen and not heard, i very much love my son, his never ignored and very much both seen and heard.
Kayangel
21-01-2009, 20:32
:laughing::laughing: I LOVE IT!!!!! Go the slummy mummy power!!
As for yummy mummy, I think it sounds very trashy TBH!! The only people I hear using the term IRL are bogans. :o
No bogan here and i use the term, im a very well manner, caring, friendly, well dressed person with good values. I guess ur looking in the wrong part of town.
I hate it! I dont know why I just do. I think because I've seen the way it puts pressure on women. I've gone out a couple of times without DH and everytime someone approaches me I say sorry I'm married, then they usually looked shocked and my mate says and she's got a baby. Then I get the **** comments and the yummy Mummy comments. Really... see me during the day... or better at 5pm while I'm trying amuse DS, cook dinner, tidy up and pee :laughing:. Thats after a day of running around after Aidan. I think they'd think I was 10 years older and horrendous lol. Another reason I dont think I like it. If it takes me getting dressed up and fashionable to be classed a yummy mummy its sad. And sexiness has nothing to do with being a mum. really there is nothing sexy about parenting!
Chub Chub
21-01-2009, 20:43
Can't say I am a fan of the term. It certainly adds to the pressure on women to meet expectations of celebrities.:(
Phyllis Stein
21-01-2009, 20:44
I find it really patronising, right along the lines of sweet cheeks and baby:rolleyes:
When men call me names like that I tend to think they are pigs and tend to give them a mouthful. I don't need idiotic comments like yummy mummy to boost my self esteem-I know I am how I look and how men react, but quite frankly I feel like I have much more to offer the world and getting comments solely about my looks really p1sses me off.
Not to mention the fact that people seem to feel the need to clarify that they still find you attractive despite :eek:!:rolleyes: having had a baby. As if that comes as a real shocker:laughing:
Yep I have had a baby, yep I can still be attractive and guess what?? I even have a brain!!!!!:eek:
idiots :rolleyes:
Wot she sed.
Kangaskippy
21-01-2009, 20:50
I love the term "Yummy Mummy"...I think my babies are just delicious so i don't see why their mummy can't be yummy too...no matter what I look like!!! although I do try to look good as it makes ME feel good!!
the last thing I think of is trailer trash (now that is a term I HATE!! it is very degrading)
Kayangel
21-01-2009, 20:53
I love the term "Yummy Mummy"...I think my babies are just delicious so i don't see why their mummy can't be yummy too...no matter what I look like!!! although I do try to look good as it makes ME feel good!!
the last thing I think of is trailer trash (now that is a term I HATE!! it is very degrading)
:iagree: :yelclap:
Mathermy
21-01-2009, 20:56
to be honest when I *think* of it I get
#1 sleazy stupid men "oiiiii, you're a yummy mummy!!!!:barf:"
#2 Kath & Kim ( who of course are endearing in their own way but not what I wish to be likened too:p)
SmileyBJ
21-01-2009, 21:02
I love the term "Yummy Mummy"...I think my babies are just delicious so i don't see why their mummy can't be yummy too...no matter what I look like!!! although I do try to look good as it makes ME feel good!!
the last thing I think of is trailer trash (now that is a term I HATE!! it is very degrading)
Im with you! I love the term Yummy mummy. In no way are my legs shaved, eyebrows manicured or do I have a personal trainer however Im damn proud that this bod of mine has carried and delivered a child.
Kangaskippy
21-01-2009, 21:06
:laughing::laughing: I LOVE IT!!!!! Go the slummy mummy power!!
As for yummy mummy, I think it sounds very trashy TBH!! The only people I hear using the term IRL are bogans. :o
I like the slummy mummy slogan...I have days like that too.
As for only bogans IRL using the Yummy Mummy title, then I put my hand up as a bogan, cause I love it and use it and am a strong, proud, intelligent and sexy mother of 2 boys...
Mum&bubs
21-01-2009, 21:42
Meh. The term doesn't bother me much, DF calls me a yummy mummy and he's not a bogan :p:laughing:
I don't think of it as a sleazy term either, because besides DF, I have only ever heard women using the term, saying to their friends who have had babies 'oh look at you, your a yummy mummy'!
The term **** on the other hand though..... I hate that one!
ETA- Oooh didn't realise M I L F was censored! haha.
Sunnygal
21-01-2009, 22:27
Im gonna go against the grain here, but I quite like the term! When I think of 'yummy mummy', I think of a happy, natural, confident mum, I don't think of size 10's, makeup, jewellry etc. To me its more of an 'inner' yumminess if that makes sense!?
But thats just how I see it, alot of people probably see it as 'outer' yumminess! Which is a shame really!
sockstealingpoltergeist
21-01-2009, 22:49
:thumbsdown: Thats what I think. Where is the yummy daddy title??? Why arn't men expected to be pregnant, give birth, nurture a little baby, look after a household, often work as well and look stunning and enticing at the same time. Oh that's right because they can't!
delirium
21-01-2009, 22:54
I find it really patronising, right along the lines of sweet cheeks and baby
When men call me names like that I tend to think they are pigs and tend to give them a mouthful. I don't need idiotic comments like yummy mummy to boost my self esteem-I know I am how I look and how men react, but quite frankly I feel like I have much more to offer the world and getting comments solely about my looks really p1sses me off.
Not to mention the fact that people seem to feel the need to clarify that they still find you attractive despite :eek:! having had a baby. As if that comes as a real shocker
Yep I have had a baby, yep I can still be attractive and guess what?? I even have a brain!!!!!
idiots :rolleyes:
:yes: I find the term annoying. It sets almost unobtainable standards for most women that can't afford or don't want a personal trainer and a tummy tuck.
There seems to be this thing that most mothers aren't attractive and that the ones that are, deserve a title :rolleyes: I would much prefer to be called intellegent, caring or responsible than 'yummy'. :barf:
Don't know/DOn't really care.
I get called a yummy mummy because I am, I am slightly overweight by a few kilos, but I am nice person with good morals etc it's not always about looks, well not in my eyes or my friends eyes it's about you as a whole you can have a great figure and a ugly personality which would mean you are not a yummy mummy lol
Well, I wont lie and say that it doesn't make me feel good when someone calls me a yummy mummy :no::yes:
NewBeginnings
21-01-2009, 23:25
I don't like the term or phrase :no:
To me it's almost like whoever is saying it (men in particular) are trying to crack onto you or butter you up.
And I also hate the m i l f one as well! they are just both so bogan, feral and just blergh to me! :o
Yeah....I have only ever been called it by my girlfriends, just mucking around...coming from some random guy it would be gross....same as ****....
Oh :laughing: You can't say ****
Mum&bubs
21-01-2009, 23:31
Well, I wont lie and say that it doesn't make me feel good when someone calls me a yummy mummy :no::yes:
:iagree:
I find it really patronising, right along the lines of sweet cheeks and baby:rolleyes:
When men call me names like that I tend to think they are pigs and tend to give them a mouthful. I don't need idiotic comments like yummy mummy to boost my self esteem-I know I am how I look and how men react, but quite frankly I feel like I have much more to offer the world and getting comments solely about my looks really p1sses me off.
Not to mention the fact that people seem to feel the need to clarify that they still find you attractive despite :eek:!:rolleyes: having had a baby. As if that comes as a real shocker:laughing:
Yep I have had a baby, yep I can still be attractive and guess what?? I even have a brain!!!!!:eek:
idiots :rolleyes:
I don't like the concept of yummy mummy as it is just another way of judging women and making many feel like failures in some aspect of their life. However, I do not find it offensive if someone, whether male or female, chooses to give me a compliment on how I look. If they choose to use a popular media term such as yummy mummy or ****, I'm not going to take offense as I don't believe that a person who comments favourably on my looks does so because they believe that my looks are my only good attribute.
ZooKeeper
22-01-2009, 00:00
:thumbsdown: Thats what I think. Where is the yummy daddy title??? Why arn't men expected to be pregnant, give birth, nurture a little baby, look after a household, often work as well and look stunning and enticing at the same time. Oh that's right because they can't!
:laughing::iagree:
IMO it's a stupid term invented by gossip mags to somehow make it "OK" to have had a baby and still act & dress like a teenager on the make. It's right up there with Paris Hilton for plastic value.
HOWEVER, Bear went through a stage where after a BF she'd smile and say "yummy", which was cute... it's the only sense in which this exhausted-looking nearly-forty skinny journo comes even close to being a YM anyway :laughing:
Ashleigh<3
22-01-2009, 00:09
Oh Meh :)
If it offends you, it offends you.
If it doesn't, it doesn't.
Cool.
Whispers
22-01-2009, 00:26
i like to think im a yummy mummy :laughing: ds says i make yummy cakes
just her chameleon
22-01-2009, 07:01
It doesn't bother me. Clearly I think the term is awesome :laughing:
Now this is just MY opinion and is not aimed at any other mums. In my past experience, I haven't liked being 'labelled' anything (not just a yummy mummy) purely because of my own insecurities. Ever since I had DD, I dunno I don't feel those insecurities anymore. I can't put my finger on it. I just don't care. Maybe it's the sleepless nights, maybe the hormones still settling down. I guess I just got over it.
The only term I dislike is M I L F. While I love the fact that DH and I have an open and honest relationship and that we talk about everything. I really don't think he needed to tell me about his mates on the farm telling him I was M I L F. I can see it as a compliment (sort of), but for goodness sake, I'm happily married. You don't say that to a bloke about his wife :no:
SmileyBJ
22-01-2009, 07:16
I think alot of it comes down to a self confidence issue. A title doesn't say you have to be a certain standard, If you take offence to a name then you musn't have enough confidence and self belief to either ignore it or go with it. Who gives a rat$ what someone else thinks of your body really?
delirium
22-01-2009, 08:16
If you take offence to a name then you musn't have enough confidence and self belief to either ignore it or go with it.
:confused: I disagree there. I actually have a good confidence level. I just would prefer to be known for other characteristics than my butt or looks.
I couldn't care less if others like hearing it. But to me, it shows MORE confidence in oneself if you wish to be defined as more than just an attractive mother.
Who gives a rat$ what someone else thinks of your body really?
That's my whole point. I'm not going to define my self worth from some guy that thinks I'm a sexy mummy. I don't care what others think of my body. It would seem to me that feeling proud of hearing you are a yummy mummy shows you do care about what others think of your body. ;) JMHO
Mathermy
22-01-2009, 08:50
I don't like the concept of yummy mummy as it is just another way of judging women and making many feel like failures in some aspect of their life. However, I do not find it offensive if someone, whether male or female, chooses to give me a compliment on how I look. If they choose to use a popular media term such as yummy mummy or ****, I'm not going to take offense as I don't believe that a person who comments favourably on my looks does so because they believe that my looks are my only good attribute.
It's good that that is the way you feel, luckily it's your own feelings about it that count right? :)
For me personally I have spent my whole life being told that I am "pretty":rolleyes:, since I was a child and to be honest at 27 years old I'm kinda over it. Unfortunately for me I haven't had half as many comments from people like "my, what a great brain you have, you're so smart etc etc" despite the fact that I have always done very well in school/uni. It's always "oh, you're soo pretty"
Like I said previously, I know how I look & how it makes people (particularly stupid men) react, but it's just not that important to me. It just annoys me how important it seems to be to everyone else.;)
And for the poster who said the above sounds insecure, well I guess you just can't win because I was afraid it was going to sound as though I was enamoured with myself :D :p
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