Swearing Around Kids

[Teegzie]

Since having DD I have been so careful not to swear around her! I've taken a page out of my brother's fiance's book and am swearing like a school techer! Everything is "banana head" "silly billy" "breadsticks" and "ning nong"! :p I almost killed my BIL for saying the 'c' word around DD! :banghead: (although I accept the fact he is in the army and swearing all the time kinda goes with the territory)

Anyway, DD and I were dancing to some music yesterday when my Mum rang. We were chatting and she said "Ooh, you'r listening to the Violent Femmes!" and we talked about how great they are and then Mum asked if DD was napping.
"Nope she's here with me... say hello to Nonie, Alice!"
My Mum paused and said "You do realise you are listening to a song called 'Dance, Mother F#@%er, Dance' don't you?"
I freaked cried out "OH S@#$" and turned off the cd. Then realised I'd screamed "OH S@#$" around my daughter! :eek: :doh: :o

DD is only 7 months old, but I felt so bad! What if my little angels first word was a rude one! :(

Do any of you swear around your kids or are you as obsessive as I am and want to tell off people who dare to use 'adult' words around your little one?

[MothersMilk]

I try not to swear around my DD or any one elses kids but i'm not obsessive about it. If a swear word slips i'm not too fussed.
I find everyone is pretty good at not swearing but if someone was swearing lots ie 'f this and f that' i would be annoyed and say something.

[Roopee]

Sometimes I do and sometimes I dont. It depends.
I dont get shirty if someone swears around my kids- the older ones know there are words that adults can say but kids can not.

I might have to tell my DH to lay off though- my 3 (almost 4) yr old DD came in the other night telling that "Daddy's out there telling the flys to futt off':o:o:o

I had to give her the chat that 'futt' is a naughty word and daddy needs some time in 'time out' for using it:cool:

[bada]

I'm trying really hard to cut it out and to make DF cut it out, have been trying since I was pregnant, but still slips out occasionally :o
The hardest is in the car when DF has a go at someone! What to do?
The music thing is a whole other thing to deal with grrr. So much good music with swearing, violent femmes just for one!
The other night we went out to a vegan restaurant/cafe and they were playing The Herd, a song that goes like this "Wake up - this country needs a f***ing shake up, Wake up - these c***s need a shake up" I was like hmm, I like the track, but for a cafe where I'm taking my daughter? What to do.... :confused:

[Jakois]

I have a terrible potty mouth:o.

I try to not swear but it always just slips out:p.

[Jakois]

Sometimes I do and sometimes I dont. It depends.
I dont get shirty if someone swears around my kids- the older ones know there are words that adults can say but kids can not.

I might have to tell my DH to lay off though- my 3 (almost 4) yr old DD came in the other night telling that "Daddy's out there telling the flys to futt off':o:o:o

I had to give her the chat that 'futt' is a naughty word and daddy needs some time in 'time out' for using it:cool:

:laughing::laughing: Sorry, but that is priceless...

[Whoops]

I didn't realise how much I sweared in front of my kids until my five year old yelled out from the toilet one day day "who left their f***ing shoes in here"

I am a lot more careful these days :o although the odd word slips on occasion.

[Benji]

I was with my friend who swears a LOT the other day (he never swears out of malice) and his 2 yo daughter said f$%&. The problem at 2 is that she doesn't understand it's a grown up word..

We laughed so hard, I have no idea why...

I think the best policy is to watch your mouth around youngens, as much as you can. Don't beat yourself up over it though :) we're all human.

[Teegzie]

I'm trying really hard to cut it out and to make DF cut it out, have been trying since I was pregnant, but still slips out occasionally :o
The hardest is in the car when DF has a go at someone! What to do?
The music thing is a whole other thing to deal with grrr. So much good music with swearing, violent femmes just for one!
The other night we went out to a vegan restaurant/cafe and they were playing The Herd, a song that goes like this "Wake up - this country needs a f***ing shake up, Wake up - these c***s need a shake up" I was like hmm, I like the track, but for a cafe where I'm taking my daughter? What to do.... :confused:

My DP swears all the time at other drivers! And I don't want to say anything since he is stressed out in the car and that is why he is yelling! I do pull him up when he uses the 'c' word in his rants though! :no:

So much of my favourite music has swearing in it. And not just the occasional word to but an awful lot of 'f' this and 'f' that! Goess I'll have to resign myself to listening to the Wiggles while I'm around DD! :laughing:

I try not to be too worried about swearing around DD, or other people swearing around her because it is going to happen. But I'm so aware at the moment that she is listening to everything we say and if she is hearing swear words too often they are going to pop up once she starts talking!

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I might have to tell my DH to lay off though- my 3 (almost 4) yr old DD came in the other night telling that "Daddy's out there telling the flys to futt off'


:laughing: that is such a :eek: but adorable moment all at once. :D

To be honest, I never really thought too much about it before DS starting swearing and it's incredibly mortifying. I hate it so much and I wish it was one thing we'd been told to be careful of! We've both stopped now and are replacing the bad words with other words, which is hilarious - but still not catching on with DS. We went from ignoring it (for weeks) because we were told that was what would work, to admonishing him (which made things worse I think), and now we're just telling him that it's a bad word, and we're trying even harder to push the cuter swears on him (he does call DP a 'boob' now because of Horton Hears a Who), hehe.

He also picks it up from movies too unfortunately. So when we stopped swearing, he was still noticing it in movies and mimicking it. He's attracted to anything crass like a magnet! So we stopped watching any movies like that around him too. Worst thing is, even a really tame 'M' rated movie will occasionally have quite a loud and attention-grabbing F word - and it starts DS up all over again :hair:

I don't say anything when someone else swears around DS, but I would if it was excessive. I've said to DS a couple of times when other people have sworn and he's looked straight at me, that 'uh-oh there's that naughty word hey'.

But yeah, changing from being a potty-mouth to someone who has to say 'FFfff ... far out' when they hurt themselves has been HARD. But until your 3 year old starts screaming obscenities in the local coffee shop/ book shop/ newsagent/ playground because you've told him to put something down ... well, that's when things start to get upsetting! Well, for me anyway. I think the worst thing is because DP and I are heavily tattooed, people just roll their eyes and figure that we're just trash. And we're not, but we definitely look it when DS is carrying on that way! :(

I'm just hoping as he gets older it'll be easier to explain that there's words that adults use, that children just don't!

[mum_inlove]

I don't swear much, but my dh used to. But thanks to me, he doesn't do it much around the kids anymore :p

[naiwen]

I am not in the habit of swearing from working in childcare for so long and because my mum was very strict about it!

I would be annoyed if someone said the F or C word in front of DS.

[Whispers]

:laughing: that is such a :eek: but adorable moment all at once. :D

To be honest, I never really thought too much about it before DS starting swearing and it's incredibly mortifying. I hate it so much and I wish it was one thing we'd been told to be careful of! We've both stopped now and are replacing the bad words with other words, which is hilarious - but still not catching on with DS. We went from ignoring it (for weeks) because we were told that was what would work, to admonishing him (which made things worse I think), and now we're just telling him that it's a bad word, and we're trying even harder to push the cuter swears on him (he does call DP a 'boob' now because of Horton Hears a Who), hehe.

He also picks it up from movies too unfortunately. So when we stopped swearing, he was still noticing it in movies and mimicking it. He's attracted to anything crass like a magnet! So we stopped watching any movies like that around him too. Worst thing is, even a really tame 'M' rated movie will occasionally have quite a loud and attention-grabbing F word - and it starts DS up all over again :hair:

I don't say anything when someone else swears around DS, but I would if it was excessive. I've said to DS a couple of times when other people have sworn and he's looked straight at me, that 'uh-oh there's that naughty word hey'.

But yeah, changing from being a potty-mouth to someone who has to say 'FFfff ... far out' when they hurt themselves has been HARD. But until your 3 year old starts screaming obscenities in the local coffee shop/ book shop/ newsagent/ playground because you've told him to put something down ... well, that's when things start to get upsetting! Well, for me anyway. I think the worst thing is because DP and I are heavily tattooed, people just roll their eyes and figure that we're just trash. And we're not, but we definitely look it when DS is carrying on that way! :(

I'm just hoping as he gets older it'll be easier to explain that there's words that adults use, that children just don't!

I understand where your comming from,I have a 4 year old son who just likes to swear we have tried everything to stop it and he just wont.

He watches a lot of movies with dp normally action movies and there is a lot of swearing in them to, I ask dp to stop watching them while he is around but i come home and there they are the two sitting there watching them.

DP also has a potty mouth in the car he yells out to people "WHAT THE F*** YOU DOING", "LEARN TO F****ING DRIVE" and probably the most worst word, I really cant stand it," YOU F****ING C***SUCKER.

All of which ds likes to repeat and still does:banghead:. I really can't say that I dont know why because i do and yes it is our fault I use to swear like a truck driver but try so hard not to swear anymore, but while dp is swearing, and watching the **** he does, it will be hard to stop ds.

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mummabear - oh it SO has to be a team effort! i cut it out immediately because of course, i'm usually the one dealing with DS swearing in front of grannies out shopping. DP took a little longer because he's around it all day and probably swears at work - changing into daddy-mode when he gets home is probably tricky. BUT then he got stuck with a couple of outbursts out shopping and he really started trying harder :D i was quite a few metres away and just got to pretend he wasn't my child and eyeballed DP with the rest of the shop's customers. :laughing:

the car's one of the worst places to swear too, haha - enclosed space - kid's are paying the closest attention to everything going on.

send your DP out shopping with DS one day when DS is in a stroppy mood and hope for the best :D

[Seacretsquirrel]

DH is a sailor and has the vocab that goes with it but he is very good around DD (we are both guilty of the occasional slip up but try not to stress too much about it) But I did have to ask a GF and her hubby to watch their P's and Q's as DD is a mimic and they were using the F and C words in general conversation which bugs me and the last thing I want DD coming out with is So and so is a "f"ing C.

[Whispers]

mummabear - oh it SO has to be a team effort! i cut it out immediately because of course, i'm usually the one dealing with DS swearing in front of grannies out shopping. DP took a little longer because he's around it all day and probably swears at work - changing into daddy-mode when he gets home is probably tricky. BUT then he got stuck with a couple of outbursts out shopping and he really started trying harder :D i was quite a few metres away and just got to pretend he wasn't my child and eyeballed DP with the rest of the shop's customers. :laughing:

the car's one of the worst places to swear too, haha - enclosed space - kid's are paying the closest attention to everything going on.

send your DP out shopping with DS one day when DS is in a stroppy mood and hope for the best :D


:laughing:

I no longer take ds shopping with anymore,unless dp is there. Im just dreading school on tuesday he starts prep. Sometimes he tells me when i go to school im gonna be a good boy and not swear and not fight, then other days like today he is telling me im not going to school and im like yes you are and he is like im gonna swear there then. So i know he knows it is wrong.

[Teegzie]

But yeah, changing from being a potty-mouth to someone who has to say 'FFfff ... far out' when they hurt themselves has been HARD. But until your 3 year old starts screaming obscenities in the local coffee shop/ book shop/ newsagent/ playground because you've told him to put something down ... well, that's when things start to get upsetting! Well, for me anyway. I think the worst thing is because DP and I are heavily tattooed, people just roll their eyes and figure that we're just trash. And we're not, but we definitely look it when DS is carrying on that way! :(

I'm just hoping as he gets older it'll be easier to explain that there's words that adults use, that children just don't!

I know what you mean about the heavily tattooed thing! DP is covered and people just expect him to be crass and rude! His brother is even more tattooed and he is probably the most careful person around DD! He never swears or loses his temper about something when she is there to hear!

When my little sister started kinder she went right up to her teacher and said "You can't say f*** at school because f*** is a bad word! You can't say f***ing nuts, but you can say nucking futs! If you say f*** at school everyone will get upset, so you musn't say f***! Even when you f*** up you shouldn't say it!..." :eek: My Mum was mortified! She had got a bit lax about the whole swearing thing by kid number 4 so thought she should at least make an effort to get my sister to not swear at school! I do not want something like this to happen to me!

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mummabear - i'm sorry, your son sounds hilarious :D i actually laughed out loud reading the 'well i'll swear at school' line. hahaha. it'd be so hard not to laugh at him coming back with retorts like that. i'm sure i'm in for much of the same.

teegzie - oh totally. DP is the sweetest, biggest softie in the world. you know, except for swearing like a sailor. haha. maybe it's him trying to make up for the fact that he IS such a sweetheart :laughing: he has to swear to regain his manliness. and no, you do not want something like that happening to you (re:sister), seriously, i'm so pleased for you that you started this topic so you can learn from my excellent mistakes, hahaha. seriously, wish i'd learnt the same off someone before it was too late. gah!

[Nowhere]

I have a potty mouth but I am trying to curb it I try not to swear around DD, and gernaly I dont

DH swears when playing the xbox f he gets out he calls the Xbox and ****ing cheating what ever bad word comes into his head

DD has on ocasion said D**K head we ignore her an she stops saying it

After her saying that I havent said bad words around her

[Nowhere]

DP also has a potty mouth in the car he yells out to people "WHAT THE F*** YOU DOING", "LEARN TO F****ING DRIVE" and probably the most worst word, I really cant stand it," YOU F****ING C***SUCKER.




ROFL are we married to the same man lol, MY husband does exactly the same thing i sit there cringing, I must admit though he is getting better now DD is repeating sentances

[BazzasMum]

I've been known to let it slip but I try not to. Have been a lot better with DS around but DH is hopeless! I've told him a million times not to swear around him as he's copying it. "what's this s**t?" about tv shows etc.

It's odd, because DH will swear like a trooper around the house but if he talks to his aunt on the phone he'll stop himself because he knows she hates it. I guess she's been around longer.... Sometimes he'll stop himself and substitute silly words, other times he just doesn't care which really p****s me off! :laughing:

[JellybeanLOVER]

We try not to but it we do swear sometimes.

The other day I yelled out "its past 12 o'clock" DS then yelled out "c*ck" :eek:

[Teegzie]

It's odd, because DH will swear like a trooper around the house but if he talks to his aunt on the phone he'll stop himself because he knows she hates it. I guess she's been around longer.... Sometimes he'll stop himself and substitute silly words, other times he just doesn't care which really p****s me off! :laughing:

DP does that when he is talking to him Mum and it gets me so cross that he will be careful around her and not our daughter!:mad: I have a feeling the first time DD swears DP will just think it is funny! :rolleyes:

[Whispers]

I know what you mean about the heavily tattooed thing! DP is covered and people just expect him to be crass and rude! His brother is even more tattooed and he is probably the most careful person around DD! He never swears or loses his temper about something when she is there to hear!

When my little sister started kinder she went right up to her teacher and said "You can't say f*** at school because f*** is a bad word! You can't say f***ing nuts, but you can say nucking futs! If you say f*** at school everyone will get upset, so you musn't say f***! Even when you f*** up you shouldn't say it!..." :eek: My Mum was mortified! She had got a bit lax about the whole swearing thing by kid number 4 so thought she should at least make an effort to get my sister to not swear at school! I do not want something like this to happen to me!
:laughing::laughing::laughing::laughing::laughing:

[NewBeginnings]

:laughing::laughing: I have one of the biggest potty mouths around! (I think it comes from being friends with only blokes for so many years!) :o although I have cut back A LOT on what I used to be like.

And well... 2.5 year old DS has picked up on it too! He copies words and phrases and he knows exactly when and how to use them! Like he'll fall over or hurt himself and he'll pick himself up and go "oh sh!t". :o Good one mum! He's started on the "shut up" phrase now too! He gets told off and it's straight up "shut up mum" :rolleyes:

I'm dreading him picking up more because I do have a very choice mouth when it comes to being in the car and people who can't drive, or people who do their cars up to look... well stupid! :laughing:

I do try and hold back.... but well... sometimes things just slip out!

[Mum&bubs]

:laughing: Don't beat yourself up about it, she's only 7 months old, I'm sure she would have forgotten by now :)

I swear, I can't help it. I always say SH!T, even when I don't mean to, I say it out in public too, it just slips out :laughing:

But thankfully my 2yr old & 3yr old haven't sworn in their life :D

[Whispers]

But thankfully my 2yr old & 3yr old haven't sworn in their life


:laughing:I heard summer say b***h in the back yard a couple of months ago :yes: she looked at me after she said it i was like :eek: and she ran away from me :laughing:

[Jakois]

I know what you mean about the heavily tattooed thing! DP is covered and people just expect him to be crass and rude! His brother is even more tattooed and he is probably the most careful person around DD! He never swears or loses his temper about something when she is there to hear!

When my little sister started kinder she went right up to her teacher and said "You can't say f*** at school because f*** is a bad word! You can't say f***ing nuts, but you can say nucking futs! If you say f*** at school everyone will get upset, so you musn't say f***! Even when you f*** up you shouldn't say it!..." :eek: My Mum was mortified! She had got a bit lax about the whole swearing thing by kid number 4 so thought she should at least make an effort to get my sister to not swear at school! I do not want something like this to happen to me!
:laughing: :laughing: :laughing:. Your poor mum...

[SuperGranny]

HI , I just want to put in here, using bad language, is a sign of lack of respect. I really get upset with the foul four letter words, and my kids and my hubby and most of my friends will not swear around me. I do use bl***y and s**t sometimes, but not often, and I would be very upset if I ever hear any bad language coming from my grandsons. It is a sign of what value you have for yourself and for others, and as for the language in music, im sorry but I just cant listen to that rubbish, and when there is too much in a movie , I will be dissapointed in the movie.

[mum of 3]

i dont ever awear around my children although the other day i was driving with ds and was dangerously cut in front of i was so angry (my firsr road rage lol) instead of swearing i sad the first thing that came in to my mouth instead of saying d##k head i yelled out pecker head(which is what ds calls his willie lol) as we got hame ds runs to dp saying hello daddy pecker dead i now know why i dont swear in front of then ;)

[Teegzie]

I must admit I'm a bit hypocritical because I don't like people swearing around my daughter if it is avoidable, but I do own a few shirts with swear words on them. So kids who can read can pick up the swearing that way. :o

Most of my shirts aren't that bad just words like "********" (a motorhead shirt) but DP has some that say F*** (Machine Head shirt)! I actually don't really like vulgar t-shirts all that much either, but I'm not going to go telling DP he can't wear his t-shirts in public.

[Ana Gram]

I swear all the time, like a sailor. My daughter has used a swear word once at an age where she didn't understand it. She does not swear now, she says they are adults words and that she doesn't need to use them.

Joshcamgrandma, you are entitled to your opinion but I have plenty of value for myself and for others who earn my respect.

[SassyMummy]

My daughter hears swearing all the time. I tried to tone it down, it failed, and due to my living situations, she still heard it anyway, because everyone else would always swear.

She's said a few words here and there.

Once she knows a word is a "naughty word" then she knows it's only for adults and won't say it again.

Except for the time recently when she said "b*stard." I told her that it was an adult word, and yucky for kids.

She paused and said...

"Like f***?" :laughing:

My bf and I almost wet our pants.

She was innocently asking, but it was just so funny and unexpected.

I'm such a bad parent for laughing at stuff like that, but sometimes you just can't help it.:p

ETA - While I'm okay with myself and those I know swearing around my daughter (within limits of course - we don't just drop in swear words like we've got a daily quota we've got to reach), I do not appreciate swearing in public, nor do I do it myself.

If I DO swear in pubic, it is a quiet thing, whispered to a friend. Not yelled out loud, scribbled all over a tacky t-shirt or anything like that. I think to swear in public is horrible. I might be okay with my daughter hearing it occasionally, but others are not. I also know the people who interact with my child, and they WILL attempt to censor themselves a lot of the time, and will not swear about inappropriate things (for example ***** is not used when talking about people having sex... it's used when people are venting, or hurt themselves, mostly). I don't have the c-word said around her either. Dunno why, but I absolutely hate it.

[Leeny]

Hrmm.. When DD was too, she'd come out with things like "jesus bl**dy christ, I kicked my friggen toe" :eek: etc..

She gets sworn around.. Shes always lived with 5 or more adults.. She's bound to get sworn around. She has said a few naughty words, but she gets talked to, she knows now that they're grown up words, and she must not say them. So she doesn't..

It's unrealistic to think kids are never going to hear swear words.. I hear people swear every where we go.. My gosh, all the little potty mouthed teenagers we have to walk past or sit near in the shopping centre is terrible :eek:.. Even at day care and kindy, young kids seem to say some rippers..

They really don't know what a lot of it means.. I just prefer to have DD know that they're naughty, and only grown ups say them. That way if she hears them else where, it's not some new word that shes never heard that she's going to repeat at the most fantastic time..

I'd love to have DD raised with no swearing in the house.. It's just not realistic in my situation.. But congratulations if anyone lives in a house of adults like I do and can manage to get them all to not swear around a child! :laughing:

[Bubs'n'Roses]

Swear words occasionally just slip out - and then there is the times when the words are used simply out of routine, just so used to saying "and I tell you that this muffin was f@#k%$ awesome".
DP swears while driving, he's got no patience. Sometimes if he's playing his game, but he does generally manage to stifle the words. I know at work and when he's outside having a smoke with the BIL that they swear like sailor.

I'm not innocent either, words slip out. DD is pretty good, she knows what she shouldn't say. But a few occasions I have caught her working her potty mouth..

Such as when it was raining "Its always bloody raining"
Or when she dropped a book on her toe "**** bugger b***&h bum" - which is a little swear word thingy that I learnt of my mother and seemed to have passed onto my DD....


If I pull her up, she usually goes "oh sugar" or "silly bum" or something. Kids are gonna hear swear words and use them, and then be very crafty about when they say them.

[V8]

HI , I just want to put in here, using bad language, is a sign of lack of respect. I really get upset with the foul four letter words, and my kids and my hubby and most of my friends will not swear around me. I do use bl***y and s**t sometimes, but not often, and I would be very upset if I ever hear any bad language coming from my grandsons. It is a sign of what value you have for yourself and for others, and as for the language in music, im sorry but I just cant listen to that rubbish, and when there is too much in a movie , I will be dissapointed in the movie.

Oh dear, goodluck with that one mummy! I have a very bad potty mouth! :o I try not to swear around mum and dad, but mum is hard of hearing so we get away with it a bit more, dad hears us and still gets up us if we swear. DS hasn't really sworn much maybe a word here or there, but he doesn't really understand yet. I think he'll be a good boy though (mainly due to grandma and grandad's good influence) not me! :laughing:

[NibbleCurlynBub]

DS learnt to say 'shut up'.

Not from me, but it doesn't really matter WHO they learn it from once they learn it.

I just told him over and over again that we don't say that, its not nice and he should say 'be quiet please' instead.

Which he now does.