At what age.....

[LoveMyBoys]

do most children learn about sex?
My eldest son is almost 8 and he doesnt know what sex is.....He knows boys have a penis and girls have a 'gina lol....and where babies come from, but not actually how theyre made......and hes never asked.......
He seems to young to me......but i know there are kids younger than him that do know......should i wait til he asks?....Or should i start mentioning things?? Obviously he has heard the word mentioned....and he knows its what 2 adults who love each other do...but he doesnt know the actual mechanics of it iykwim......
But whatever we tell him...is gonna go straight to our 5y.o......
What should i do??

[justme77]

He'll ask when hes ready. my boys are 11 and 10 and they only started asking last year, but i think thats because i was pregnant too. they wanted to know how the baby got in there.
just answer anything he askes with answers that are age appropriate

[Mum2Lucas]

I suppose when they ask or when you feel they should know. my little brother is 9 and i feel he needs to know now because he get's an erection from watching kissing scenes between a man and a woman in movies. but my mum thinks he's too young. to me when that happens then he needs to be talked to.

[missie_mack]

If he is going to go straight to your 5 year old I don't think he is really ready :no: Maybe adding a little bit as you see fit. I don't think I was taught it until I was 9 or 10 and it really wasn't long before I got my periods anyhow. Being a boy and not getting them probably means you don't have as much of a time constraint to worry about :)

[kayla]

I honestly say wait until he asks a question or until you feel is the right time, i don't think at 8 years old is the right time to talk to them about that. I definitely won't. Isn't it scary to think we have to talk to our babies about that - man they just grow up so dam fast

[loving6]

just answer anything he askes with answers that are age appropriate


:iagree:

I answer all Questions asked, but rarely anything more. We have a very open relationship. If I don't know, I tell them I will find out for them. Teenage lingo :detective:.

[Mrs Potts]

My DS is almost 8 too, and oblivious to the whole thing. Courtesy of 3 c/s's when he asked how the baby comes out I told him the Dr takes it out ;) Fortunately he's never asked how they got in there!

I agree with simply answering any questions in an age appropriate manner as they arise.

[WorkingClassMum]

DS was 4/5ish? when he asked about babies getting out - so I told him. He'd been watching a show where he saw a horse get born

He later asked how they got there - so I told him. No embellishments or extra bit, no lies - just the straight truth.

Both kids have been told that sex occurs b/w two loving consenting adults, and that sex, like driving a car and drinking alcohol is something that grown up adults do.

Sex is just another question in our house - and the kids get told the simple truth.

Later on the more in depth conversations will happen.