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Would you allow your parents or your In Laws to take your child/ren for a holiday to another state?
It would mean about a 10hr drive I guess?
It would mean a fantastic opportunity for your children to visit some theme parks but you wouldn't be with them.
Please explain your answer?
NibbleCurlynBub
19-01-2009, 11:44
Never.
Not even my own parents. :no:
My kids are young, my parents are not used to having more than two children at a time to look after, certainly not two toddlers at once and they honestly don't know the kids well enough for me to be confident that the kids would be safe and actually enjoy themselves.
Although I suppose if they were all 10+ I might be a little more inclined to let them decide if they would like to or not.
pinkgingham
19-01-2009, 11:48
not on your life. not even my parents. and generally my mother is the only one i would trust with my kids.
tootiredtosleep
19-01-2009, 11:48
No, I wouldn't.
My inlaws are in their late 60's and getting older, so I don't think that they could manage 2 kids by themselves on a long trip and at theme parks.
It wouldn't be an issue with my Mum, because she would encourage us to go as a family, she wouldn't want me to miss the experience with my kids, she might tag along, but never want the kids to herself.
3blue&1pink
19-01-2009, 11:48
I would :yes:
I trust my parents and my in laws. My kids idolize them and would enjoy the trip.
My brother has just moved to WA from QLD and my mum plans on taking my son over to see his Uncle this July. I would love to go with them but I will have a 3 week old then and most probably a very clingy 11month old.
NibbleCurlynBub
19-01-2009, 11:49
not on your life. not even my parents. and generally my mother is the only one i would trust with my kids.
:iagree: I forgot to add, I trust my parents with my kids more than anybody else at all.
Nope...not here either :no:
Fuchsia!
19-01-2009, 11:53
Yeah i would with my parents, i would prefer to go but if i couldn't i wouldn't mind. Well my 5yr old anyway, not my 2 yr old.
My in laws? Not on your life, it will never happen!
Sheer Bliss
19-01-2009, 11:53
I dunno.....too hard, can i pass please?? LOL
Probably......not sure about DS, he isn't 2 yet. BUT my parents are not that old (55) AND they have my kids often, esp of late. We were staying at mums so much that DS would go to her for cuddles after falling over even when i was right next to her!!
DD is almost 4, and would have a great time. I'd feel like **** that i wasn't there, i'd prefer that they didnt' do all the theme parks etc....maybe just one, then save the rest for me (maybe i'm selfish....i dunno).
DH's mum has asked to take DD to melbourne with her one time (she has moved there) I am soooooo undecided on that! She's not MY mum!
Kittylou
19-01-2009, 11:54
Yes I would let them take my 8 year old but obviously my 14 month old is far too young (and screams the house down if I try to leave her with anyone other than DH even just to go to the toilet anyway). I can't say at what age it would be ok - I just know that my 8 year old would be fine and I trust both my parents and in-laws with him.
luvmyboyz
19-01-2009, 11:55
Nope.. not even my older ones!
HunterzMummy
19-01-2009, 12:00
i absolutly would... My lil boy LOVES my parents. and they are FANTASTIC with him :yes:
No way would i let my inlaws but well you know how much of an unfit mother she is:no:
I guess it depends on your relationship with them etc.
In my case Hunter would LOVE it. It would be great for them not to mention a much needed break for me HAHAHA
WorkingClassMum
19-01-2009, 12:08
Yes I would.
I was brought up by my grandparents for many years and would love my kids to have that same close bond that I had.
My MIL is the most wonderful women, and the FIL is trustworthy.
My Dad would never offer - so not a issue, and my Mum'd love too, but she probably couldn't manage both kids :p, so I'd have to go too...
Grizabella
19-01-2009, 12:10
Yes I would. I trust my parents and IL's abilities to watch over my children 110% One of the lucky few I guess! :) Though I wouldnt do it now purely because the kids are too young for theme parks. But later on? For sure.
NibbleCurlynBub
19-01-2009, 12:13
It would be an instant yes if I were invited too. :)
Which, knowing my parents, I would be.
Depends on the age of the children. If they were school-age, that would be fine.
Friends of ours just had their 3 and 5 year old grandchildren holiday with them for a week. I thought the 3 year old was a bit young to be away from mum and dad for a week, but it all went well. (Grandma and Poppy were pretty tuckered out by the end though!)
My parents yes...my IL's no. But I think they'd both have to be school age for me to let them. Not cause I don't trust my p's, but because I'd miss them like CRAZY! But it's easy for me to say that when they're only 21 months apart (that they'd both have to be school age).
My niece just went overseas for three weeks with my MIL. My niece is 7. That I couldn't cope with!
Seeing the way my parents are with my nephew I would have NO HESITATIONS!
I think they do a great job with my 2 year old nephew and provided when my two come along they are still fighting fit and my twins are a reasonable age (toddlers atleast) then i would say yes!
I dont know about the inlaws, but only time would tell. Although i would probably say no, as they have a very different parenting/grandparenting technique to my parents. But as i said only time would tell.
Beachside Mumma
19-01-2009, 12:17
Yeah I would, more so my in-laws then my own parents. Actually probably only with my in-laws. The kids are very close to them, we see them several times a week and they love anything to do with Grandma. Besides my MIL has 6 kids herself, a 14yr old still at home and I know they could handle the kids perfectly fine and keep up with them as well. Besides they tend to be more behaved when they're with Grandma and Pop:rolleyes:. Probably wouldn't let Zoe go as she is only 2 months but once she gets a bit older, absoultely and Kenneth is 4 in March and I would definitely let him go. We'd probably prefer to go as well but yeah...
IL's - nope, no way! We don't speak to FIL, and MIL is disabled, so has never been left alone with DD for any more than 2 mins - DH and I were installing her car seat in MIL's van while they were inside and even then DD let herself out of the house and wandered out to us in the carpark of the unit complex - DD was 2 and MIL didn't notice:eek:.
My parents, I'd be ok to let them go interstate when DD was old enough to not require a car seat of any kind(cause the times I've trusted them to install it they've always stuffed it - ie, not bothered to read the instructions!). But not driving, by flight only(I wouldn't even take DD on a 10 hour car trip myself/with DH - I don't like the thought of her being in the car that long. I know my mum wouldn't drive any part of a trip that long and whilst I trust my dad's driving, I'd be worried about driver fatigue and he'd probably be too stubborn to think about it and drive the 10 hours straight through).
Myztiks#1Fan
19-01-2009, 12:18
the only people i would trust to take coop is caroline and andrew, that is it. i wouldnt trust my parents with a 10 foot pole as they already had plans to kidnap him on me as they wanted to take just him on a holiday up to theirs to permantly live. over my dead body that would happen though.
even though coop is only 19mths old now, if caroline and andrew decided they wanted to go on a holiday and take coop with them, i would by all means let him go as he is very comfortable with them and enjoys his time with them.:yes:
SimplyMum
19-01-2009, 12:21
Well, it depends on allot of things. I certainly wouldn't mind my parents taking DS on a holiday. They are great with him and he LOVES them to bits.
If they were going to theme parks- I would have to take a fair few things into consideration. I wouldn't want DS lining up and going onto a ride by himself so depending on the age and what rides DS would want to go on and such things as this.
~Temet Nosce~
19-01-2009, 12:22
No way! I'd rather take her myself as a family holiday anyway :p
mum2bubba
19-01-2009, 12:28
I don't know. Maybe when they're older (like school age). I'd be jealous though. :o
I would, i trust my parents and inlaws, not that my parents would ask. but i wouldnt let them go until they were old enough (over 4) to say wether they wanted to or not. That way i can talk to them while they are gone and they could tell me what they had been up to.
sockstealingpoltergeist
19-01-2009, 12:33
With my parents, sure, not when they were really small say under 4 because I think it's to long. Over that yes, I love and trust them with my children.
My In Laws, have never looked after my children and are not very nice, so no way.
My ex MIL Yes I would, she is lovely and same rules as with my parents, as long as they were old enough etc etc.
If you trust them with the children I don't see why not.
I wouldn't have a problem with it if I had something to do while they were away! Like fro example if DP and I were going to take the time for ourselves and have a reconnection kind of time without bubs.
That said we live in Brissy so NSW isn't that far away from my IL's to drive to. If we were back in WA and my parents wanted to take DD over east I might be a bit more unsure. Mainly because there isn't really much my parents would want to do over here!
Just Add Water
19-01-2009, 15:54
It depends on the age. From about 7 years old I quite often went away with aunties and uncles on long trips (they ran a coach company so we would go with their tour group). It was fantastic!! My nephew did his first solo flight from Sydney to the North Coast when he was 8 to stay with my mother & we're talking about doing the same thing with my step son when he turns 9 next year. My dad has a boat and I wouldn't hesitate in letting him take the kids out for a night or two, nor away to the country. It depends on the kids though. My parents are fairly young active people so the kids love spending time with them. My MIL, is a much older acting grandparent who doesn't drive, so that limits her options with the. But she quite often has them for weekends at her house. And I can't stand her, however I know she is capable of putting them on an off a bus and looking after them.
My brother in law was flying between Oz & the UK on his own from the age of 10 so I guess it really depends on how you were brought up. The live in the UK and my nephew was 12 when he went to South Africa with their close friends (and the parents of his best friend) for Christmas and 3 weeks. He loved it. He came to Turkey with myself and my father when he was 9 for Anzac Day, that was for 6 days.
Rosebones
19-01-2009, 15:58
I wouldn't trust my in laws to take DD to the kitchen by themselves. DPs idiot grandmother wanted DD to go on a plane with her to Canberra when she was 1.5 to visit DP's father. The same woman who told DP to leave me and take DD with him and then SHE would raise DD.
DPs mum... god, I have problems knowing DP's little sister (7) is in her care.
My mum couldn't take DD on a holiday because then she'd also have to take my nephew and neice - jealousy runs high in these kids - and she'd prefer we took them and she got to rest lol. :) We go on family holidays anyway.
No - Because they dont fully understand all of his needs.
chameleon
19-01-2009, 20:31
Probably not. Not that I don't trust them. I just don't think I would like it. I am reluctant enough to leave her overnight! Probably only if it was closer...
My in laws, not a chance because I wouldnt trust them with a goldfish let alone my son.
I would let him go with my parents when he's old enough to understand where he is going and that we wont be there. I would say not before the age of 8??? Depends, he's very close with my parents. It would depend how long for. I've only left him overnight once since having him and I struggled so I dont know what I'd do if it was longer then a couple of days.
It depends on the age of the child. My littlies, no way....I would probably let my nearly 9 year old go, if he wanted to...not sure if he would want to though....I would feel happier if he and his brother went together but I think at 4, Millar would still be too little.
These responses are interesting!
I would definitely allow my IL's- While I often think they are a PITA I trust them with the kids.
My father- not on your life, I wouldn't trust him with them for 5 seconds.
My mum and her partner- yes I would. I fact, my eldest 3 (8yrs, 6yrs and almost 4 yrs) are currently residing in luxury on the Gold Coast for 4 days with them. They are away at my mums who lives 4 hours away for 8 days and as part of their holiday she has taken them there to go to Seaworld and Dreamworld. Lucky Lucky things!!
I was a hard decision for me to make- it means they are away for DH's birthday and they dont get back until the day before they start school, not to mention I miss them so much and they havent even been gone for 2 days yet, but I know they'll have a ball up there, mum wouldnt let anything happen to them and well I get some quiet time with the baby which is nice too. :flowerz:
Sheer Bliss
20-01-2009, 08:47
Ooooooh, Lucky, Lucky kids!!! (so you couldn't bear to part with miss almost 2??) They will no doubt have a ball!!
pennylane
20-01-2009, 08:58
My dad and step-mum,definately.when the kids are older and can understand that mum and dad cant come and get them if they want to come home etc'.My parents still have 2 nine year old sons at home and are great with my DD and dont try and be the parents.
My inlaws on the other hand,Nope,no way,no how.They dont have a clue about taking care of my DD.FIL hardly lifted a finger with his own kids and MIL likes to pretend my daughter is hers when she goes places :eek: (doesnt correct people if they ask if shes hers etc') and goes against every single thing we ask her to do regarding our child.Its creepy.DF feels the exact same way as I do,he trusts my parents with our kids but not his own.
Samaras Mummy
20-01-2009, 09:11
It would really all depend....I would let them go when they are 10+ and I could only trust my mother.
Mum&bubs
20-01-2009, 09:12
Not while they are this young!
But maybe school aged, then yes, I'd allow it with my parents, but not with the MIL- just because I don't trust her driving.
Ooooooh, Lucky, Lucky kids!!! (so you couldn't bear to part with miss almost 2??) They will no doubt have a ball!!
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo.....thats why I'm taking yours today!!:laughing: I am hopeless!
SweetDreams
20-01-2009, 09:53
My inlaws - no. They have uncontrolled dogs that don't particularly like children and MIL is rather flaky!
My parents - no. They don't respect any request we make and in fact go out of their way to do the opposite of what we ask.
stellarella
20-01-2009, 09:59
No probably not.
I'd be scared of the long car trip (possibilty for car accidents) mainly. I don't trust other people to drive. I have let my mum take Oscar in her car 2 hours away though.
If I was to consider it, it would only be my mother, no one else.
Yes definitely. My inlaws are great people and have been taking my children away since my eldest was 20 months old - they are now 11 and 7 and for the past two years fly to QLD by themselves many of the holidays to be with them and their uncle.
It was hard the first few times and especially when they are little but they get to have a great holiday.... spend quality time with Grandparents and you and hubby get a break.
If you trust them - go for it.
just putting in from another perspective...
me and my sister (including my 3 cousins) regularly went away with my nanna from about age 2 upwards.
the experiences I had with my grandparents are priceless and I thank my parents, that they let us go away with them quite often
i think it is a really good opportunity for your children to spend time with their grandparents.
and as a mum-to-be i hope my parents (maybe not inlaws) will be just as willing to take mine away on the types of holidays i had!
mum_inlove
20-01-2009, 15:11
Yes, both my parents and my in laws.
I'm very lucky to have great in laws that I respect and trust with my children. I have no problem with them looking after our children as they have proved to me that they respect the way we parent our children (with the occasional treats, of course).
I am more worried with my mom, tho'. She's a bit more of a softie and spoilt the kids and 'disobeying' our request more often :laughing:
squiglet
20-01-2009, 15:47
How old?
Teanager? Maybe, depending how growen up my child was and how trusting I had become of my in laws (my parents have nothing to do with us really)
Under that, I will have to be faced with the decision I guess, but I'm thinking 7 or 8 maybe for short trips or sleepovers.
My children stay with dh and myself.
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