16 month old with 2 y.o. tantrums, help

[mikki'smum]

Please help. All of a sudden, our 16 month old girl is well beyond her age and is throwing tantrums constantly. We had always thought we were ok parents, leading by example, she uses her polite words already, ta, please etc. But, she is constantly throwing herself on the ground when she does not get her way. It is very upsetting to me. She also wants to be held by me, her mother, all the time. She used to go to other people, uncles, cousins etc, but now she just wants to be attached to my hip. Does anyone have any ideas, as she is slowing wearing me out and I am getting frustrated. Thank you so much.

[drewid]

I think its an age thing, I'm afraid. My 15 month does not quite chuck tantrums, but he is very attached to mummy and gets upset if I'm not close by. If he's frustrated he'll just lie down on the floor on his tummy and cry for a moment or two and then just walk away like nothing happened. I'm waiting for the day it turns into a full on tantrum instead of a pity fest!

I think its just a stage we will get through in good time. In the meantime, just try to live the way you want to continue. Figure out what works for you and what doesn't, and be consistent in teaching your little one what is expected. They are still very little, but they are little sponges, and they'll learn.

:hugs: You aren't alone!

[CJJHRA]

It does get better :hugs:

My kids all started with their tantrums around 15 months old.

Their aim is to make you frustrated enough so that you give them what they want to get them to be quiet. :yes: If it works once, they've won, cause they will do it again and again and test their boundries.

Ignore bad behaviour, reward good behaviour with a sticker chart, extra cuddles, an extra story at night time, or a special outing. (easier said than done)

Talk to them get down on their level. Kids get frustrated to, and need to let it out, we just have to try to teach them its ok to have a grump and a cry, but not to throw things and hurt people while they do it.

ah listen to me I am :ecomcity::ecomcity:

[gillianf]

Gosh, my DS is almost 17 months and although he has his moments, I hope it doesn't get any worse! He also throws himself on the floor (gently though LOL) when he doesn't get his way, but doesn't scream or shriek, just cries a bit - IOW not a complete tantrum, iykwim? We ignore him completely when he does this and just continue as normal, preparing supper or whatever and sooner or later, he gets up and finds something else to do. I've found that if we ignore the negative behaviour (not to his detriment of course! I would never ignore him if he were going to hurt himself or anything :eek: ) we don't reinforce the bad behaviour and usually make a big deal of the good, thereby reinforcing the positive behaviour. Does this make sense? Another trick I discovered with my DS (maybe he's just an easier child?) is that he's easily distracted (they usually are at that age) and can almost always get him to look at something out the window or something like that. This has been our strategy thusfar, but will have to let you know if it suddenly goes belly-up on us! :laughing:

[natasha]

Yup just want to let you know you are not alone. My DD has been doing this for a while now. I have no ideas as to what helps!:laughing:

I just ignore her!!!

Or if it's when we are out, i just go home and go out later when DH is home.