2 year old swearing

[mysonroger]

ok this is embarrassing but my two year old DS is saying 'f$$k ' lately. i'm sure he must have heard me say it at some point, so i'll take the blame. the first few times he said it, i was correcting him to 'fire truck' because when he was trying to get his mouth around that word he would say 'fire f$$k' so i thought it stemmed from there.
but now its still going on, and today he used it in the right context....sort of. so i don't think it is fire truck, but the actual swear word.
i need to sort it out in a month because the inlaws are arriving and the fingers will be pointing at me. i have tried ignoring it, but its still happening.

please somebody....i need help

[Jem]

Oh i know how you feel!! DD came into my room this morning and said..." mum lachy told me to nuck off " :eek:

[mysonroger]

oh thank god its not just me. ...i'm really very embarrassed about it.

[Goosie22]

I have found if you dont have a reaction to the word (and try to be really good yourself), there is no pay off so they stop saying it. ( unless their 8year old brother laughs so hard each time :rolleyes: ) Its only a word really and they go through saying so many he will find another to concentrate on soon.

[Baby Girl]

Whenever my eldest DD says a swear word I just quietly tell her that is not nice and she shouldn't say it. She gets over it pretty quickly, although 'fire truck' was the one that hung around the longest!! Sorry!!

[mysonroger]

normally i wouldn't be too worried...but with the impending arrival of the inlaws.... the MIL is so going to look down her nose at me . i will ignore it when he says it, but i have been and got no where. i think i need more patience.
served myself right for having no control........

well i guess if he's still saying it while they're there, i can act all surprised and say ' oh !! where's the fire truck?'

[samsara]

You've obviously tried ignoring it but he's obviously understanding the context of the work (although not the meaning) and so may in fact continue to use it especially since it is so often used in todays language unfortunately. I think it might be worth saying to him in a calm way that its not a nice word and please don't use it. I think it's great you're concerned and of course you want to teach your little one the best manners possible especially for the inlaws, so it might be worth a try saying not to use it but I agree not to get angry or make too big an issue in case it starts to become a word that is used everytime a reaction is wanted. GOOD LUCK
Love Lx

[Baby Girl]

What about warning the in-laws and tell them to ignore it. The old "he must have picked it up somewhere (not from home) but we are ignoring it until he gets over saying it, could you do the same thing?"

Maybe........

[Ana Gram]

Maybe you need to sit down and explain to him that it's not a word that is nice and we shouldn't say it without making a big deal out of it. I'm sure if you made a big deal out of it he would use it to annoy you if he was in the mood.

I am dreading this day I can tell you! DD has already come out with some corkers at age 2. Must remember to watch my mouth! I am always amazed that they can use the swear word in the right context too!

[Aquamarine]

I have had the same problem with my two boys.
Firstly my first son said the F word when he was 2 and because he was my first child I was shocked.
I tried ignoring it, didn't work, putting him in time out, didn't work, and telling him how it was a naughty word and not to say it, didn't work!!
Well, he ended up just growing out of it and as he understood more it was easier to explain that it is a naughty word and not to say it. He now tells me it is naughty even when he hears other people say it, tv etc.

Now my #2 son has started saying it. He had no idea what it means, he just knows it gets a reaction. Once again I try different tactics but they don't work very well.
Even his older brother tells him not to say it.

I know this time he will grow out of it so I am not as shocked but I really don't like it, especially in public.

Anyway, hang in there because from my experience they tend to grow out of it and it is much, much easier to explain that it is a naughty word when they are a little older.

Good luck,

Sally (30)
DH (30)
DS (3):kiss:
DS (2):kiss:
DS #3 Due 09/09/2006:kiss:

[sarah81]

We tried what I think you are doing. Every time DS said the F word we looked at him confused and said what are you saying I can't understand you, do you mean truck? Then we would distract him, once he worked out he was not getting the reaction he wanted he stopped. Hope you work it out before your inlaws get there. My DS first said it infront of my dad who is quite polite and loves good manners, I was horrified :o

[mysonroger]

when i was living in our last house, i would be in the backyard and i could hear someone a few houses down standing in their b ackyard calling out 'f**k ' all the time. and i was thinking its just a matter of time now before DS gets it.. it didn't seem like i could call out and say 'excuse me,.,...do you mind?' because it sounded very aggressive. ...a person not to be messed with.

anyway, DSwas at it again this morning when he walked down the passage and realised he left his blanket in the cot....and said 'f**k' and went back and got it. we ignored it out of disbelief. i know this happens a lot , most people have a story about the first swear words, but like i said, why now with the impending inlaws.
i know i'll soon be able to look back on this and laugh........i hope!!

[Chickadee]

Since he's using it in context, have you tried introducing a silly word as a substitute? You and your partner (& your inlaws) would need to use it an example and perhaps he'll pick it up instead as the right word to say in those situations. DD often says "oh dear" in imitation of me, but I think I've just been lucky that she hasn't copied "oh sh!t" instead.