Too late to change her name??

[cosmic]

My little girl's name is Annabelle but we had a hard time coming up with a middle name. I really liked Eloise but at one stage we discussed naming her after her dad's grandmother and since he really liked that idea, we went with it. Hence her name is Annabelle Elza.

But as time goes on, the more I really wish I had stuck with Eloise. :( I want her to like her name and I'm not sure being named after someone is a good idea. But we can't drop Elza completely because the in-laws are soooo excited about her being named after her GreatGM. They'd be seriously p*ssed off if I changed it now.

DH has said he has no problem with adding Eloise so she would be Annabelle Eloise Elza (which, in my mind, means on most forms etc the Elza would be dropped and I have no prob with that).

But should I bother? Does anyone (including her) even care what her middle name is? Is Elza really that bad? Obviously when I agreed to it, I didn't mind it. Will three names be too many?

Any advice?

[Grizabella]

I think it's sweet that you named her after her GGM. I wouldn't worry about changing it. I mean, most people don't like their middle names, even ones that don't sound bad. I don't like my middle name overly much, however I think it's special because it's the same as my Nana's. Besides, I think the main purpose of middle names are to keep rellies happy, whilst not dumping a crappy family name on your baby!:laughing:

[melfunction]

K has 3 names as he is named after people too. I don't see it being a problem.

You have to be happy with your choice.

[nemosmum]

I think it will make her feel connected to her dads family, and feeling connected is a great thing for kids!

That said I think if it is going to annoy you, then just change it it wont really matter!

But please dont tell my dh that you can change middle names LOL coz he hates ds's middle name so I filled out the birth certificate before he had a chance to change it :D

[mrsbutterflygirl]

To be honest... i dont think it matters too much with the middle name... i hardly use mine at all.. and i also have 2. the second one i never get to use at all.. but the first one again is hardly ever... so I would probably leave it.... are you thinking of having another baby?? perhaps you could call your next girl Eloise?

[Jodiee]

I would use the two middle names, they sound lovely together, and you are right, they drop the other middles.

My son is Callum William Mark Craig (then surname) it was to keep the family happy, and he is the only grandson, William is his grandad, Mark is his uncle who died at 6 and Craig is his dad. On all forms, it is Callum William, even medicare, lol, even when he gets in trouble, its "CALLUM WILLIAM, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" LOL


from Jo

[razzle]

Eloise is a beautiful name! :p

[Percy]

My son is Jake Robert Edward, after both his grandparents. I wasnt too keen on having the edward on there, but it doesnt even show up on a lot things, like medicare and healthcare cards.

When people ask i tend to only tell them its robert anyway.

But in saying that, i think it is really sweet you named her ofter her ggm, and i think its quite a lovely name.

Good luck with your decision.

p.s We were hopeless on all acounts, Jake didnt have any names for a week!!

[Betsabe]

Annabelle Elza is adorable. I really adore Eliza too.

I like Eloise but boy is it getting popular.

[shed]

do it, change it. You will always wish you had if you don't, and it will only take a couple of days to get used to the fact that she now has the name you wanted her to have.

Don't be wistful. How long she has had the name she's got compared to how long she is going to have the name she's getting means percentage-wise, its not too late. If that makes sense.

[OscarTheGrouch]

You can amend your babies name under 3 months of age. Here's the link:
http://www.bdm.nsw.gov.au/births/amendBirthCert.htm

[SamanthaJane]

I think Annabelle Elza is a beautiful name:thumbsup:

Until about year 3 or 4 I used to hate my middle name (Jane) i used to want it to be Belle (i was obsessed with the movie beauty and the beast)

But now i love it because i understand it is a family name. It runs through my father's side of the family. And because he had no sisters, the name skipped a generation so mum and dad carried it out with me, and my relatives were so proud:)

I'm hoping i'll be able to use Jane with one of my daughters (if i have any:p )

You can always change it if you want to. Or you can just wait and see if you have another daughter?

[misskittyfantastico]

I say go for the 2 middle names. They're both lovely and it will save you ever having to worry about in the future.

[PhAnToM]

Here's my 2 cents worth.
Obviously it is something that you are not 100% happy with.
If it were me, i'd just add it in. Like everyone has said, it doesn't make too much difference, but that works both ways. You could also argue that having it there won't bother anyone, and it will obviously make you feel more confident about it.

I'd do it. To my mind, the advantage of middle names is that if the child grows up and really doesn't like one name, they still have the choice of another (or another 2 in your case) they can choose to refer to him/herself.

My theory of naming after relatives goes one further (and i'm named after my maternal grandmother, which my father insisted on apparently.)... but i don't think anyone (Especially the paternal side) can expect me to name my child after any one, as the surname is from that side of the family anyway.
But I suppose once it's done and announced, removing it would probably create offence, so i wouldn't suggest that. I'd add Eloise to it.
She can choose what she uses and what she discards when she gets older.:thumbsup:

There's my opinion... :o

[cosmic]

Thanks for your comment everyone. :thumbsup: I'm still undecided. I think Annabelle Eloise xxx (surname) rolls off your tongue nicely and I'm not sure if it still does with the extra name added iykwim.. which might defeat the purpose of adding it..? I did look up the process for changing it and there's no problem with doing that except that we have already applied for her medicare etc with Elza which might be a bit of a hassle.

Anyway - it's nice to know that some of you think Annabelle Elza sounds nice. :) I did like it at the time but over the past couple of weeks have wondered if the Elza was a bit 'old'. When I tell people her name, they all say 'oh Annabelle is pretty' and don't comment on the middle name unless it's to ask me 3 times what it is and how it's spelt which is probably what caused me to wonder if it was such a good idea.

Keep the comments coming. They are very helpful!

[Betsabe]

Thanks for your comment everyone. :thumbsup: I'm still undecided. I think Annabelle Eloise xxx (surname) rolls off your tongue nicely and I'm not sure if it still does with the extra name added iykwim.. which might defeat the purpose of adding it..? I did look up the process for changing it and there's no problem with doing that except that we have already applied for her medicare etc with Elza which might be a bit of a hassle.

Anyway - it's nice to know that some of you think Annabelle Elza sounds nice. :) I did like it at the time but over the past couple of weeks have wondered if the Elza was a bit 'old'. When I tell people her name, they all say 'oh Annabelle is pretty' and don't comment on the middle name unless it's to ask me 3 times what it is and how it's spelt which is probably what caused me to wonder if it was such a good idea.

Keep the comments coming. They are very helpful!

Eloise is old like Elza it is just far far far more common.

Elza is fresh and spunky.

[cosmic]

Thanks Betsabe. That makes me feel better. :)

[draught]

Cosmic - piping in late as usual - I like both Elza and Eloise but the fact that Elza has a family connection makes it special. And she will probably be the only one in the class with the name which is rare these days! (Having two children who have very common names!)

[ETsMum]

You will make the right decision.... :D Go with your heart... not your head...

But here is my two cents worth...

I like the idea of 2 middle names. My DS has 2, the second one being my surname (its a boys name too). I gave him that knowing full well that it would hardly ever mentioned. I just wanted it included on the birth certificate and in family trees etc... and maybe generations later might decide to pick it up and use it.

As for the medicare card, it will only have Annabelle E so both names will suit. :thumbsup:

[Valosgirls]

Elza is different, I actually havent heard it before - thats whats nice about it:) However in saying that - I LOVE Eloise - it really does roll off the tongue with Annabelle. I know that 3 names can be a bit of a mouthful but I have 3 names too, one after my grandmother (who died before I was born) and the other after a very dear Aunty. I LOVE my names and am so proud that I bear them.

Dont let having two middle names put you off - Annabelle will be proud of them:) If you really love Eloise then add it on - you dont want to not do it and then forever after wish you had. Did that make sense? lol!

[maybe1more]

Cosmic- my son has two middles names Connor Aaron Vincent. As they are both names of family that has passed away.
You can always have a "naming ceremony" which is much like a christening and add Eloise to her second middle name. I just love Annabelle Elza, it sound so lovely together.:D

[BlueGin]

Hey Cosmic, I'd go for it matey! I have a family middle name which is actually a surname and it took me many years to grow to appreciate it!
The fact of the matter is that if you don't do it now you probably will have it niggling at you one day in the far future... I know Mum sometimes wistfully thinks of her wish to call me Jessie-which sounded funny with the surname.

And this way you will avoid people who see it written down thinking it is supposed to be Eliza!

Anyway, Mummies know best :hugs: so I look forward to hearing what you decide, I am sure it will sound beautiful and suit her perfectly whatever it is!

X

[MumsieMel]

So what did you do Cosmic??? :)