TTC #2 soon after having #1

[MrsMiggins]

We had our beautiful baby girl in October last year after TTC for 26 months.

Me being 30 & DH being 39 this year, we decided that if it was going to take as long to fall PG with #2, then we didn't really want to be waiting 2 years between bubs to start trying again.

We didn't really want to fall PG again straight up, but wouldn't be hugely disappointed if it happened, if you know what I mean!

So far we have not used any form of contraception & have not yet fallen PG.

Ideally I would like to fall PG around September, but I would be ecstatic if it happened any time before then (in fact I've been more than a little disappointed each month finding out we haven't been successful!)

A June baby would be great just for timing with other birthdays & events. In our family, everything happens between October & February, with Dec - Feb being non-stop! So having a June baby would be great, but I'm not really very fussy!

Actually, starting this thread is my first real admission that we really are actively TTC!

I'd love to hear from anyone else out there who has started trying again after recently having a baby!

[giggles]

Not me but my SIL who had trouble with TTC her first. They just took chance and she ended up pregnant when her bub was 9months old. She ideally would have liked it to happen later but is over the moon to be preggers again.

Sounds to me like yu guys are ready for the next one to be conceived and I wish you the best of luck.

[MrsMiggins]

Thanks for the well-wishes!!

It's nice to hear success stories!! Hopefully we'll have a good one to tell sooner rather than later too!

[Milis]

Hi :wave:

I was so excited to see this thread as I thought I was the only crazy one :eek:

My DS is 4 1/2 months old and we're about to start trying for #2 this month
(af has just finished). I can't believe that I'm actually doing this - it's a bit scary to think of having 2 under 2! It took us 4 months to fall pg the first time so I'm not expecting it to happen instantly although I wouldn't complain if it did :D

We were originally going to wait until DS was a year old before TTC again but DH got really clucky and suggested that we go for it sooner and although I wasn't sure at first, the more I thought about it the more it seemed to make sense. I'm already home with one, already in baby mode, why not get the whole sleep deprivation thing over with at once, plus it would be great for DS to have a younger brother or sister closer in age - they can be really good friends and hopefully playmates in a couple of years :thumbsup:

I've been reluctant to tell anyone that we're TTCing again for fear of negative comments - there seems to be a bit of a stigma associated with having kids close together and I don't really know why. Have you found that at all?

BTW your girl is absolutely gorgeous - I can see why you can't wait to have another. Are you hoping for another girl or a boy this time? I'd really love a little girl but there is a history of only male children in DH's family dating back to the 19th century.

Best of luck TTCing!

[Jamily]

My DD is 11 months and I am about 4 weeks pregnant with my second so there will be about 20 months between them. Some people will say I am mad having 2 under 2, but I don't think there is ever a good time. I also feel blessed to possibly have 2 healthy children rather than focussing on the difference in their ages. Sure, its going to be hard work, but people with less resources and support than I have seem to do fine.....

Good luck!

:D

[Milis]

Oooooh Congratulations Claire :smiliedance:

It's definitely a blessing to have one healthy child let alone two :thumbsup:

[borntobemummy]

We took almost a year TTC our DD, so we are not doing anything to stop another one IYKWIM. We've decided to not use contraception at all indefinetly!, Now that's contraversial, hard for some to take. We've always wanted to hae a big family and to adopt/foster in the future too. We really love children and I want to dedicate my life to raising children, I'm also going to be a primary school teacher soon, more children to love!!:)

[ETsMum]

Hi,
I had my beautiful DS in August last year after 6 months of trying. We are TTC#2. Started trying this month - just did a test BFN :thumbsdown: Oh well....

If I could be picky, I'd like an Autumn bub and it would be a SHE, but my boy is just my pride and joy so another DS would be perfectly lovely too.

:fingerscrossed: Good luck girls... :hugs:

[IAdoreYou]

Goodluck with everything.

NOT actively TTC here yet! Still not 100% clucky either. I was VERY clucky 5 months ago though.
We do plan on making a stocking stuffer this xmas :fingerscrossed: it happens naturally this time.
Actually destiny has plans for us in the mean time .. we have a wedding to attend interstate in November and the thought of travelling with a toddler preggers is not that exciting. BUT i love reading ttc stories .. love it.

I hope you get good news soon!!!!

[MrsMiggins]

Milis, I think there are a few crazies out there like us!! ;) A lady I met recently has a bub the same age as Claire (in fact, we found out recently we'd have been in hospital at the same time!!) and is in the same situation we are. They had difficulty TTC #1 also & they too are in their 30's so didn't want to put off TTC #2.

I think in many ways it would be easier having two close in age. Like you said, at least you get all the sleep deprivation etc out of the way sooner! I am also a bit guarded as to who I tell. I have mentioned to a few select people that we aren't really avoiding falling PG, but that's about it. I think you're right about there being a little stigma attached if you decide to try again before your youngest is about 2 years old. Strange!

Thanks for your lovely comments about our beautiful DD! I think I would like another girl. I never had a sister, so I think it would be nice for my DD to grow up closely with a sister. Plus I have enjoyed having a little girl so much!! (And it'd be nice to get some more wear out of all the lovely clothes!:p ) But I also want a boy one day. I wouldn't be at all disappointed if bub #2 was a little boy! Wow!! Only males in your DH's family! Sounds like you're up against it! Let's hope you can hang onto a couple of x chromosomes & bring on a little girl!

Clairet (that's my DD's name, Claire T!!) 20 months is a good gap, I reckon! There is only 17 months between my older brother & I. Congrats on your recent PG!! That is so wonderful! I hope it all goes well for you! I'll be keeping an eye out to see how you're going!

borntobemummy, I hope you fulfill your dream of having a big happy family! I would love a heap of kids, but circumstances have intervened for us in more ways than one. I will settle for having as many as I can! I'm hoping for at least 3. I too want to become a primary school teacher! I figured if I can't have the big family I'd love, then that would be the next best thing.

Oooh! Gotta run! DD needs to be put back to sleep! I'll post more soon!

[TinyStar]

Hi I'm 35 weeks preg and my number 1 DD is just about to turn 1 next week.

My DH and I never actively TTC in the sense of becoming aware of the "right time" to try etc etc etc. It took us a while the first time around, so when I had problems with contraception after our first was born we figured we might as well not use any. We never ever expected to fall pregnant straight away.

In many ways our situation is working in our favour. I will be taking less time out of my career, We will be able to buy our own house as soon as I am back at work part time. If we had waited for the 2 year gap this would still be another 2-3 years away. Now we are looking at getting a house before xmas.

The total time of having babies in nappies is less, I hope that our kids will be close. I am sure the new baby will provide endless wonder for my DD who loves interacting with other kids.

The only "down side" is that I have trouble carrying a still not independently walking baby, and getting prams out of cars, carrying groceries up the stairs can be difficult. I am lucky I have had a healthy pregnancy.

Best of luck with your TTC effort, and yes you will come up against critisism, not a day goes by without some dimwit letting me know just how hard I am going to have it. I simply smile and say how much I am looking forward to having a small baby again and how I am excited for my DD to have a brother, and that some things are just meant to happen.

[MrsMiggins]

Len, sorry to hear no luck for you this month :( Hopefully you'll have more luck next time. I think we missed the boat this month too! Oh well. Just getting closer to the ideal time! :)

TinyStar, congrats!! I actually did wonder about how difficult it would be picking up a larger baby & getting the pram in & out being PG. Also, can I ask how you are planning on having the sleeping arrangements when the new one arrives? I have been thinking this out recently. If all goes to plan, our DD will still be needing her cot for some time after #2 arrives. We have a bassinet that the new bub could sleep in for a few months, but I don't think it'll stretch out long enough to last until DD can sleep in a big bed. I don't really want to have to buy 2 cots & I don't think they'd be able to share a cot, would they? What are your plans?

I was also wondering about feeding. DH can help out some of the time, but at the moment, DD is not very interested in solids (and doesn't look like being more interested any time soon!) so is still predominantly bottle fed. She's demand fed rather than being on a routine, and is pretty much fed as soon as she needs to be, so she's used to it being this way. I have been wondering recently if much will change with regard to this in 9 months, or before bub #2 arrives. I know if I were to fall PG now, DD would be 17 months old or so when the new bub arrives & it's highly likely that things would be easier with regard to her feeding, but I still think there would be times where she would not be happy waiting until another bub is fed before she gets hers. I can usually predict when she's going to be hungry & pre-empt it with a feed, but there are still plenty of times she manages to catch me out!

I hope all continues to go well with your PG & hope to hear more from you!

[SJE]

Hi MrsMiggins

I considered these issue as well (cot etc)

Perhaps it would be good for bubs to arrive around 18 months to two years. Isn't this usually the time they are in their own beds and have started toilet training???

[Milis]

I've been wondering about the whole cot issue too... If all goes according to plan, DS will be 13 months when we have our next one and definitely too small for a bed yet. We will probably keep the new bub with us in a bassinet for a few months but then maybe get one of those cots that converts to a toddler bed? Then DS could have that and the newby could have DS's cot or something like that? Has anybody got one of those cots? Are they any good?

The feeding issue is something I've been thinking about as well. With DS I bf for the first 6 weeks and it was an absolute nightmare as I had a low supply and was basically feeding 24/7 to try and increase it (without success). I was also anaemic so exhausted all the time and I wonder if I could do it all again with a toddler running around as well. I think I might get a sling so that I can bf hands free and multitask as much as possible :eek:

I guess with the bottle thing Mrs Miggins, maybe Claire will be able to feed herself by the time the next one comes along? I'm not sure how early they can do that - Jasper is way off having the coordination atm, although he likes to try :rolleyes: but a lot can change in 9 months. Maybe we can teach them to change their own nappies - that would certainly be a help :laughing:

Len, I'm sorry that this wasn't your month, I'm sure I'll see you in TTC in June - maybe we'll both get our BFPs and have Feb/March babies!

Well, I've :ecomcity: for long enough I think... baby dust to all who are trying!