2 1/2 trowing endless tantrums....help.

[mumof2brats]

hi all,

i have a 2 1/2 yr old ds1 who is a great kid when he wants to be,but lately i have found my self streesed out because of his frustrations and endless tantrums.

in the mornings when i get ds1 up he seem's to be grumpy and frustrated at things and also seem's to be board,
i find things for him to do but that just end's up with him frustrated because he cant do it or the toy brakes.

today he wanted to go outside and play so i let him,the moment i left his sight from the back door , he would come back screaming and banging on the door (you would sware he was being murdered)
its hard for me to deal with as i have another ds2 who is 5 months and get's most of my attention through out the day.

im at my wits end and tired of it,how do i deal with this?:(
and ds1 only seems to do this when with me,if dad's around he's great,but the moment it's just me and him, (it's like as if he hate's me):confused: and just will play up........please help me:hissy:

[Just Add Water]

its hard for me to deal with as i have another ds2 who is 5 months and get's most of my attention through out the day.

im at my wits end and tired of it,how do i deal with this?:(
and ds1 only seems to do this when with me,if dad's around he's great,but the moment it's just me and him, (it's like as if he hate's me):confused: and just will play up........please help me:hissy:

It sounds like he is trying to get your attention by any means possible.. you said that you give most of your attention to ds2 during the day so obviously ds1 is feeling left out. They're always good when dad is around as dad is a novelty because he's not there all the time (dad's tend to get to do more "fun" stuff as well as they're not telling them what to do all day :rolleyes:.

I'm yet to have a baby to deal with (I have three step kids that live with us all the time, the youngest was 18 months when I met their father), but I know that they all get upset and start to muck up, especially the youngest who is now 4, if they are feeling left out. I can only imagine how exhausting it must be for you with a baby (I'll find out soon though :) ), maybe make a point of spending some one on one time with ds1 when ds2 is having a sleep.

Is there any way you can arrange to leave ds2 with your DH for a day, even on a weekend, and just go and hang with ds1 for the day? It really does make a difference. Mark it on the calander and discuss with him what he'd like to do. Maybe take a picnic to the park, it doesn't have to cost a lot, it's your time he wants more than anything.

Good luck with it :hugs:

[mumof2brats]

thanks heap for your suggestions, i will definatly try what you have said.
thanks again.