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sahm
08-01-2009, 20:41
Well, pretty self explanatory from the title.

My 19 month old DS adores his father, which I love, but sometimes it's hard not to feel rejected. I am with him all day, I play with him, do everything for him and as soon as his father is around, he cries to get away from me.

I know it's normal, but I just feel the need for a pity party as he hurt himself quite badly tonight, and I stopped the bleeding and settled him down and then his father came home and he wouldn't come near me.

Normally this doesn't bother me, but sometimes it's hard. The funny thing is, if the situation was reversed I know I'd be feeling guilty about DS wanting me and not DH.

Anyone else had this happen to them?
jag5000
08-01-2009, 21:39
it isn't a usual thing here.. but when either of my kids prefer DH I get pathetically jealous and sulky :o

you aren't alone in feeling like that
SPC
08-01-2009, 21:41
Yesterday I got teary because my baby seems to love the baby gym more than me!
GeorgiaAnne
08-01-2009, 21:52
My DD used to be like this, now she is all about mummy and says all the time "I want my mummy" "cuddle mummy":p He'll come back to you, dads often are just more the novelty factor and my dh is waay more fun than me :o
Pax
08-01-2009, 23:29
i consider it an excellent opportunity for some desperately needed ME time.

embrace it... yeah :yelclap:
teenie
08-01-2009, 23:43
I have this with my DS - for pretty much his whole life!!! (He's two and a half). He is such a Daddy's boy. I just roll with it. I know he loves me - when he's with me all day he's as happy as a lark. Plus, I find he's more grizzly with DH ("Daaadddy, Daaaaaddy") because he is a Dad sook! I don't envy this. He rarely does it with me.

I think it's normal for toddlers to go through these stages. Try not to take it personally. I'm also with Morrigan - it gives me time out!
codswallop
08-01-2009, 23:44
toddlers are very finiky!
one week Aby only want mummy, then the next she crys her little heart out when Daddy gose to work,or she wont have a bar of Poppy only Nanny or vice versa
youll be the fave again dont worry!:yes:
Deserama
09-01-2009, 10:11
i consider it an excellent opportunity for some desperately needed ME time.

embrace it... yeah :yelclap:

I second that!!! :p
naiwen
09-01-2009, 10:16
DS started this about a month ago,

I use it as an excuse to get DH to do more childcare hehe.