jackieb76
26-05-2006, 09:37
I suppose I just really need to vent but I would be very interested what you all think about the situation that I currently find myself in.
My inlaws are making my and my DP's lives a living hell!
It all really started when my second daughter was born in February this year. Not long after she was born (around 3-4 weeks) my MIL and BIL decided that they were going to come visit one afternoon. At the time my DP was really unwell (with the flu, temps and aches) and he called them in the early afternoon and let them know that he was unwell and did not really feel like having visitors. They ignored his comments and said "We are coming over anyway we want to see the baby, you can just go to bed". Even though this annoyed us greatly we gave in to the fact that nothing that we would say would stop them coming. They turned up at 6.00pm right when I was cooking our dinner, trying to bath our girls and bf the baby. They sat on the lounge and held the baby (while she whinged cause she was hungry and tired) and kept telling DP to go to bed because he was obviuosly making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway to try and cut a long story short they stayed for a while then left (just as we were about to serve our dinner).
A couple of weeks went past and we hear nothing from MIL and end up finding out that she is annoyed with us because we didn't offer her and BIL dinner and that we were about to eat dinner around them. What I don't understand is she thinks that I am the rudest person on earth for not offering them dinner (I admit that maybe I should have at least said something) but how are they not rude for 1) Coming to our home when they were asked not to. 2) Exepcting a woman who has a new baby and sick partner to wait on her and her son.
This is not the only time that she is annoyed about. We went to pick up our daughters cat from the RSPCA one day and she invited herself along. We packed ourselves some lunches (for me DP & DD) as we did not think that we would be home for lunch and because I am bfing I tend to get peckish when out and we cannot afford to buy lunches so we always take them with us. MIL parked her car a little way from where we were going and we took her the rest of the way. Before we left to come home we decided to feed the baby and eat our sandwiches in the car. MIL is annoyed because we did not pack her a sandwich. For goodness sake, is she not responsible for feeding herself, since when am I reponsible for making sure she is fed, I have my own family to worry about.
Sorry that it is so long and it probably sounds petty to some people but I do not appreciate being labled a rude person because I do not wait hand and foot on DP family. I think that the problem is that they are from a big family and this is what is expected whereas I am from a small family where it is rude to just rock up at anyones house and expect to be fed.
It feels better to get it out, thanks for listening.
Jackie :(
My inlaws are making my and my DP's lives a living hell!
It all really started when my second daughter was born in February this year. Not long after she was born (around 3-4 weeks) my MIL and BIL decided that they were going to come visit one afternoon. At the time my DP was really unwell (with the flu, temps and aches) and he called them in the early afternoon and let them know that he was unwell and did not really feel like having visitors. They ignored his comments and said "We are coming over anyway we want to see the baby, you can just go to bed". Even though this annoyed us greatly we gave in to the fact that nothing that we would say would stop them coming. They turned up at 6.00pm right when I was cooking our dinner, trying to bath our girls and bf the baby. They sat on the lounge and held the baby (while she whinged cause she was hungry and tired) and kept telling DP to go to bed because he was obviuosly making them feel uncomfortable. Anyway to try and cut a long story short they stayed for a while then left (just as we were about to serve our dinner).
A couple of weeks went past and we hear nothing from MIL and end up finding out that she is annoyed with us because we didn't offer her and BIL dinner and that we were about to eat dinner around them. What I don't understand is she thinks that I am the rudest person on earth for not offering them dinner (I admit that maybe I should have at least said something) but how are they not rude for 1) Coming to our home when they were asked not to. 2) Exepcting a woman who has a new baby and sick partner to wait on her and her son.
This is not the only time that she is annoyed about. We went to pick up our daughters cat from the RSPCA one day and she invited herself along. We packed ourselves some lunches (for me DP & DD) as we did not think that we would be home for lunch and because I am bfing I tend to get peckish when out and we cannot afford to buy lunches so we always take them with us. MIL parked her car a little way from where we were going and we took her the rest of the way. Before we left to come home we decided to feed the baby and eat our sandwiches in the car. MIL is annoyed because we did not pack her a sandwich. For goodness sake, is she not responsible for feeding herself, since when am I reponsible for making sure she is fed, I have my own family to worry about.
Sorry that it is so long and it probably sounds petty to some people but I do not appreciate being labled a rude person because I do not wait hand and foot on DP family. I think that the problem is that they are from a big family and this is what is expected whereas I am from a small family where it is rude to just rock up at anyones house and expect to be fed.
It feels better to get it out, thanks for listening.
Jackie :(