Wishing Well @ Wedding.....How much do you put in?

[Missus S]

OK...............I think the last 4 or 5 weddings we've been to, the Bride & Groom have asked for money to be put in a Wishing Well rather than be given a gift.

In the past we've put in between $100 - $120................but I overheard one of my DH's friends whinging that his girlfriend asked him to withdraw $150 for a wedding he was about to go to.

So I got a bit worried that maybe in this day & age...........I've been a bit cheap :o How much do most people put in for a couple?? And I'm talking about for people who are not real close friends IYKWIM.

[jag5000]

$100 I put in personally for DH and I usually... esp. if not for a good friend (actually I usually put that in even if it is)

I figure $50 per person is a good amount

I HATE wishing wells though and will often buy a gift instead .. (yes.. I am the evil one who does that! :laughing: :P)

[Seekrit]

I think the general rule is however much they paid for your dinner. :) I like that rule... :)

[codswallop]

i put in $1oo to
thats roughly what id spend on a gift so....;)

[jag5000]

I think the general rule is however much they paid for your dinner. :) I like that rule... :)

ok.. dumb question but.. how would you know how much they paid per person?

[Seekrit]

You kinda guess
by the kinda people they are, the venue.. you just kinda put in a round-about figure. :)

[bAaM]

i pt in 80 for family and very close friends and 50 for others.

[missie_mack]

Yep I always put in how much I think it cost them to have us attend.

As to how you know well.... it depends on the type of venue and whether they supplied drinks etc. Not too many weddings in function places are less than $50 for food yet alone drinks so usually I aim for $150- $200 to cover both DH and I...probably erring on the $150 side for not close friends or family...

but then if I am not particularly close I generally don't go :o if I can get out of it and TBH I don't like the whole cash thing anyhow. I have no idea what was spent from whose money with our wedding but I can sure tell you who bought me what

[MrsMiggins]

We try to put in as much as we can at the time. Our income is not stable & sometimes it can be difficult to come up with the money. I don't like giving money for that reason. I'm a great shopper & can often find a fantastic gift on sale, so where it may have been $100+, I might get it for far less than that. So yes, I will buy a gift if I can't afford to put in a decent sum, but generally if it comes to giving cash, we'll give $50-100.

We didn't have a registry when we got married, although we had something set up with a travel agent for guests to contribute to our honeymoon. Guests were welcome to contribute or buy us a gift. We got a few gifts but most people contributed around $50 to the honeymoon. Some more, some less.

We have a few weddings coming up in the next couple of months & I'm already worried it! I've no idea how we'll afford the flights, accommodation, car hire etc for the 2 that are interstate, plus all the cash gifts. One is my brother's wedding.

[Missus S]

Yeah admittedly I'm getting a bit over the Wishing Well thing. I kinda like getting the gift registry print out and seeing what things they've picked out.............and turning up with a beautifully wrapped gift.

Oh well................I guess a sign of the times that people have most things they need already these days before they get married.

Actually I just had a look at the wedding invite we've got for this weekend and it does say they'll be using it towards their Honeymoon in Thailand so I guess at least we know what it's going towards :yes:

[Lukie]

$100 for DH and I, it's what I would spend on a gift, though I have to say they'd get a better deal if we were to get them a gift as I'm a bargain hunter, never pay full price so with $100 I could find some nice things to put together as a present.

For family- cousins- it would be $200, only because that's what they gave us at our wedding and there's the obligation there.

[Zada]

well Im really cheap LOL. Been to 1 wedding with a wishing well and as my ex dh at the time was best man and we had to pay $300 for his suit aswell as travel costs I put in $40 :o

[Jakois]

I have always thought it was the correct etiquette to give a gift equal to the amount that it costs for your seat at the reception.

[MothersMilk]

I would give $50 - $100 if we were not close with the bride/groom and $200 if we are.

[EcstaticMumToBe]

Hi girls, was just having a quick read and thought I'd join in... im from a small town and most people here only give $20 - $50 in the wishing well.. but I always think thats a little cheap so I put $50 for people we arent really close to and $100 to people that we are close to.. I think thats fair enough here in our small town :)

My wedding is in 5 weeks and we're having a wishing well but I wont look down on anyone for giving a small donation rather than a big one because its up to them and im just happy to have all my family and friends to celebrate with me.. plus I think we're all broke at the moment hahaha :D

[Orris Apjoko]

Bringing this thread back to life....

I have a question to add to OP's thread, a few posters have said that "they give the amount that they think their meal cost at reception". We dont want people's money but i keep getting told "we need to contribute something" a few have said they'd pay for their meal as a gift, and that as gift on the invite we should have a little poem that says something along that if people would like to "get" us something then they could pat their way. The meal will be about 40pp and 20 for children from 10yo-18yo. I'm asking only IF people want to "give" us something, its not required.

Anyone know a poem?

[bumMum]

I would put in what I can afford and how much I would spend on a gift so probably between 50 and 80 bucks absolute most! And really don't care if that's cheap

[cookie087]

Orris - personally I just wouldn't put anything in there, don't mention a wishing well or food costs. Maybe put in a poem saying something along the lines of your presence is presents enough or whatever that saying is. If people approach and ask, you can tell them how much the meal will cost, otherwise leave it up to them to bring a gift (wether it be money or otherwise) or simply attend.

[cookie087]

And in regards to the question $50 as standard, $80 max for a very close friend, $100 for family.

[bumMum]

Sorry didn't realize this is an old thread! I am no good at poems sorry :( but I think that's a cool idea