DH to lose his bed...?

[k15s]

I need to know if I'm being too mean...
I have repeatedly asked my DH to make sure he is home, showered and in bed by midnight. He works rediculous (sp?) hours and sometimes stayes late to get work done. He used to stay there until 2am or something stupid, and then wake me up with the roller door and car, then the front door and microwave for his dinner. I'd just fall asleep again and the shower would wake me up. These noises would also wake our 2 DS. I have repeatedly told him that midnight is the cut off. Well, last night he did it again! He decided to watch SOO and then the show I taped afterwards since he was still working on his laptop. Well that takes him to 11.30, and he showered when he got home (which was late might I add!). I woke up at 1.30 and he was still watching tv! I went down and told him he'd better get his butt to bed. How many times do I have to tell him!
I am thinking about saying that midnight is the cut off - after wich his pillow will be in the hallway and he can sleep on the couch! Is that too mean?

[angcaltam]

It might teach him, I think it is worth a try.:thumbsup: It's bad enough when the kids keep waking you up during the night, you don't need a grown man doing it as well.
Good luck.

[k15s]

Is the extra hours making him more money or is he just trying to get ahead? is he overworked and maybe needs to delegate some work eleswhere?
does he sleep late as well? cos if he does maybe he is better off turning his day aorund and going in to work REALLLY early so he can come home at a normal time?

He's on salary so working the extra doesn't help with the $$. SHows his boss he's in for the long haul so I don't mind too much. Not a late sleeper - up with the DS at 7am - although is grumpy if they wake earlier and expects me to get them if they do. He occassionally goes in early to get more done but still gets home late too! I'd love if they gave him the extra hours in leu.

[Sarie]

That would irk me too.
My hubby is a night owl, which is great in one regard because he usually gets up to the boys late at night. Though he has been known to be on the computer or watching tv till 2-3am.
Usually he's pretty good though. I tell him when I'm going to bed not to be up too late and don't expect me to wake him up if he sleeps through his alarm if he does stay up... that usually works.

[MumsieMel]

I think it is a tad harsh, i mean he is working for his family.

Maybe just ask him to be quieter.

[k15s]

I think it is a tad harsh, i mean he is working for his family.

Maybe just ask him to be quieter.

I totally agree and love my DH to death but how many times can you say something? I don't know what to do.

[MumsieMel]

Hmmm, my DH is a shift worker also, i think my kids have just gotten use to it.

My son even if DH isnt loud will wake up, come out and give him a hug and then go back to bed awwww

Maybe write him a letter explaining it or sit down and chat about it and how much it stresses you, and that you'd appreciate it if he could keep it down.

[Sarie]

I have issues with it more because of how much his mother babies his father. I love my DH and he comes home to a clean house with tea on the table and normally I make him lunch to take to work as well. But he is an adult, if he has to be up at 7am to go to work and he didn't go to bed till 2 am then he has to wear that.
He usually get to sleep in most weekends as well, where I'm up by at least 6 every morning. I don't get time off and have been sick as a dog for over a week and haven't been able to sleep in or spend a day in bed trying to get better.

[k15s]

Told my DH and he didn't think it was good idea! Will see if he does it again though!