how do i get my dd's to sleep in their own bed

[bronny-jane]

can some one give me some tips, perhaps some kind of routine.

[bronny-jane]

hmmm does everyone have this problem:D

[drewid]

maybe give us a bit more info to go on? are you co-sleeping with them, or do they just come into your bed during the night?

give us something to go with here!! :D

[bronny-jane]

maybe give us a bit more info to go on? are you co-sleeping with them, or do they just come into your bed during the night?

give us something to go with here!! :D

well ive just been lazy from the start, they fall asleep any where:o
the wake up and climb into our bed, im just so tired to move them:o

they dont have a set bedtime....im lost...i should have started a routine:banghead:

[bronny-jane]

we managed this last night for the first tinme DD and Ds were not in with us.
We got a star chart..all night in your own bed is 3 stars!!! 10 at the end of a week and you get a surprise.


Our routine is ..Dinner at 6pm
bath at 6.30
Bed at 7pm with a story and then the door stays open but if they leave the room then the door gets closed a littlle..unitll it would be shut ( we have never got that far) If they come out we dont speak to them we just take them back and le them down and walk out again..

HTH

thanks, got to love star charts:D

[drewid]

its never too late to start a routine! just go gently i think, one step at a time. the star chart sounds like a good place to start :)

[mysonroger]

do you mean no routine whatsoever. do you have dinner then bath then bed, or bath, dinner , bed or dinner, story , bed.........nothing like that at around the same time each night??

[mysonroger]

i'm so jealous.....i see you have No. 3 on the way.

[Sarie]

I'd say a nice long length of rope;)

[bronny-jane]

do you mean no routine whatsoever. do you have dinner then bath then bed, or bath, dinner , bed or dinner, story , bed.........nothing like that at around the same time each night??

not really:eek: is that unusal.....im quite bad at parenting as well:laughing:

[Sarie]

But seriously we do have a pretty strict routine. Tea, then bath, then some play time, we usually give DS1 a half hour count down so it's no great shock when it comes to bed time.
Don't get me wrong he does still come in to us some nights and we give him a cuddle then take him back to his room. With lots of kisses 'I love you' and 'big boys sleep in their own bed'
Persistance and not caving in, at all, are the key. You have to be strong and stick to it, once they know you've given in once you're done for!;)

[bronny-jane]

once they know you've given in once you're done for!;)

hmm should i even start:laughing:

thanks for the run down, i better start planning:o

[mysonroger]

not really:eek: is that unusal.....im quite bad at parenting as well:laughing:


ha ha pants on fire.

routines are good for kids....they ,love the same things roughly happening at the same times.....gives them predictability, security and a point of reference i guess. you could do some reading up maybe on the internet or a book.
my kids' (DS = 2,DD = 11 months almost) end of evening routine is :
after they wake from afternoon nap they play, then have dinner at 6pm, then in bath (say by 6.30pm at latest), then DS has stories and time with his dad, and DD has her final bottle for the night, then both in bed by 7.30pm. this time suits us because DH gets home from work at 6ish, so he gets to see them. DD will go to bed earlier if she hasn't slept that well during the day.

maybe you could do something to the room or bed to get them to want to be in their own bed. DS has 'monster' lights...these little animal lights, in his room which he loves. otherwise the star chart sounds good.

[bronny-jane]

theres so much more to parenting:o , i'll have to get started tomorrow:D

[mysonroger]

don't put too much pressure on yourself....let your routine evolve........

[Briswegian]

:thumbsup: You can do it!
We do:
Dinner
Bath
Drink/cuddle/quiet chat (or neighbours if DH is home)
Toilet
Story
then we talk about what he's going to dream about because his active imagination sways to monsters if not given an alternative....
Bed (nightlite on)


No drinks after that (kids will yell out...but i need a drink/cuddle/toilet) so make sure that all their needs are met before you go.

Then I say the same thing every night...night night big boy love you see you in the morning and confidently leave and close the door.

If they shout out go in and see what the prob is but don't stay for long or give lots of attention.....the message is - I'm responding but you're going to sleep.
If they shout out again then leave them for a minute before going in then two mins....like controlled crying
The key is consistency and persistence and they will get the message quicker than if you buckle!

you'll find your own way that suits your family! you're not bad at parenting at all we all have our different ways that we muddle through.

Worked for me.
Good luck:fingerscrossed: