Maybe becoming a Single mum

[mikaylasmum]

Hi all,

I was wondering if I could have some advice my partner and I are always fighting since the birth of our first baby Mikayla she is three months tomorrow.

Anyways my pregnancy wasn't planned and he wanted to me to have a abortion I just couldn't we had huge fights about that but he ended up staying and now she is born he just isn't facing the responsiblity we went away to visit his family and he went out and got drunk every nightand was no help at all and i don't get along with his family at all so that was hard being left home with them alone with a 8 week old baby.

he keeps saying why don't you just leave me and trying to put it all on me (which i know someone has to do it) but he is just so quick to end it then try and talk about it he did say to me last night that he resents our daughter a bit cause he wasn't ready and we can't go away and out and do all the things we use to do (HELLO of course it will change) and he keeps telling me that parent hood has gone to my head I really don't know wat to do this has been going on for three months I have been to councellors and a financial controllor and I just don't know how to get the strength to leave him and do it all alone. I don't know if i could afford it either i am really confused and scared.

I just wanted to see if anyone has been thru something like this and how you got the strength.

Thanks

[Mum&bubs]

Sounds to me your DP just needs to grow up & mature a bit. How could he resent your beautiful little girl?? Im sorry i dont have any advice for you but there is heaps of support out there if you do decide to leave & if you would be happier without him then maybe thats the best thing.

[mikaylasmum]

Sounds to me your DP just needs to grow up & mature a bit. How could he resent your beautiful little girl?? Im sorry i dont have any advice for you but there is heaps of support out there if you do decide to leave & if you would be happier without him then maybe thats the best thing.


Hay

I know he really does need to grow up I have tried asking him to do so nicely but doesn't seem to get thru thanks heaps it is so frustrating :wave:

[Issey]

:hugs: hugs to you Mikaylasmum.

Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. My DH doens't want to grow up either.

Now bubs is a bit older 5 months and DH is getting responses from him I think it has made him realise how important his DS is to him. I have made an issue of saying 'give Daddy a kiss goodnight' , 'sit with Daddy while Mummy does so and so' :ecomcity: to help the bonding process.

Can your DP go out on certain nights? This is what I let my DH do as a compromise.

[mikaylasmum]

OMG sorry just noticed your names Sarah, so is mine, also my exs name is Luke! Freaky!
If you decide to leave it will be hard. I think the hardest thing for me is the loneliness I feel sometimes. I have been single for 4 months now. It does get easier, even though I do feel down sometimes, I know I dont have to put up with being let down, putdown and being treated like I dont matter. Cos you know what you do matter and you deserve to be happy. That is what I realise now, I do question my decision sometimes, but I know deep down it was the right one.

Sometimes you have to listen to your head over your heart.
Whatever you decide do it for you and your daughters happiness.:hugs:


That is freaky that we have the same names same ex (current) boys names

Thanks for advice i know it will be hard I am stilling wishfully thinking i think

:) Thanks heaps