Caesar again

[JeSsIkA]

Hi
When i was pregnant with my daughter i was terrifed at the thought of labour and then totally relieved when the doctor said i should have a caeser due to her being breech. Now that i am pregnant again (only 8wks) i am again stressing out at the thought of going through labour...and as silly as this sounds i keep dreaming that during labour my caesar scar tears open and this is adding to me being totally terrifed at thought of labour. even though i know this in very very unlikly to happen.
Is it wrong to ask for a caesar??

[willsmum]

Absolutely not. In some cases a VBAC isn't even possible. Do whatever feels right for you. Speak to your ob early and please don't stress over this for your whole pregnancy.

[dee dee]

Hi, I was also terrified of labour and stressed about it for the whole of my pregnancy. After a failed induction my ob suggested a caesarean and to tell you the truth I was secretly relieved!!! ( I think I really wanted a caesar to start with )

Anyway I found the whole experience to be a positive one, sure there was pain but pain relievers helped to manage this. I recovered well and was at home after 4 days. No ifs about it for my next child I will opt for a caesarean. The thought of the unknown (labour) terrifies me.

[monique]

Me too. My son was 10lb 9oz at 38 weeks and was born by caesar, and if my second child is going to be larger, like so many people have said it will be, I will go straight for a caesar again.

The thought of labour also terrified me - my whole pregnancy I was unable to focus beyond the birth itself and wonder what it would be like being a mum. I feel a bit like I have missed something by not experiencing labour, but I'm glad I didn't give birth naturally, because it would have been pretty tough and could very easily have ended in an emergecy caesar anyway.

[Shazbutt]

Hi, i had an emergency caeser with my first child 2 years ago and am opting for the same this time around (in 5 weeks). If i had to try a natural birth (likely with the same results!) then no way would i be having any more kids!! Its a bit scary thinking about surgery again, but it wasn't all that bad, at least my bub was born safely....

Oh, while i'm here i would just like to comment on the lovely name Charli Rose (willsmum) , it is the name we have chosen for this bubba....except spelt 'Charlee'

[SixtiesChild]

Hi,

These thoughts are perfectly natural.
When I had my baby girl about 5 years ago, I ended up having a cesarean after carefully organizing a birth plan. But to be quite honest I secretly hoped for a cesarean because I just couldn't connect with the idea of giving birth vaginally.
It was a positive experience and I do not feel any less of a woman because my vaginal birth plan didn't happen.
I think if I were pregnant again I would naturally favor a cesarean because that is what I am now familiar with.
I think it's natural to want to go with what is familiar as there is always a little fear of the unknown in most of us.
On the other hand, a natural birth is often a healthier path for both mother and baby. But really, what matters most in the end is that both mother and baby are both happy and healthy regardless of how they come out and can go home to be a family.