TT advice

[alby2508]

MY DD is 2.4 years. For the last 6 months we have had the potty out and she has enjoyed sitting on it etc. When she sat on it we would chat about wee poo etc. In the last 2-3 months she has become very aware of when she wees and poos. We started putting her in undies or on warmer days letting her go naked around the house. She has done a couple of poos and a wee on the toilet. However- when she wees as soon as she starts she looks down and sees it coming out and quickly jumps up and says wees all gone etc she gets really anxious and hates the wee. She is very aware of when she needs to wee and poo but if she is wearing undies and needs to go she cries and begs for a nappy on. I've tried everything to bribe her but she gets so upset so quickly so i just put the nappy on she does it in there and then wants it back off and changed straight away. What do I do? Where has this fear of the potty/toilet come from? I've never forced her. Any advice??

[Missy75]

I think if you just keep going as you are, stay relaxed about it all, celebrate what little bit she does - it will just click in. Well it did for my DS anyway. Are there any other toddlers in her life that she has the opportunity to watch on the potty/toilet? Sometimes that can help. But don't worry - she's still so young and what she's doing is very normal. Good luck.

[justrace]

I've heard of mums leaving the nappy on but getting their LO to just sit on the potty when they need to go, then changing the nappy straight away. After a few days leaving one of the side tabs open whilst they are sitting there, then opening both the tabs but leaving it around their bottoms (iykwim). After awhile they can just lie the nappy in the potty whilst their LO wees/poos in it, getting to the point of cutting the nappy in half, then just using toilet paper. It's a very long process but you'll get there in the end.
Or you could just wait until she decides that she no longer want to wear nappies

[GiasMum]

Hi there,

I have just started TT my DS 2yrs8months (cold turkey straight into undies), and I found he would get anxious about going on the potty or toilet as he was used to standing while going (in nappies). After the first day of all accidents (I have tiles so wasnt too worried - easy to clean) he started telling me he needed the potty/toliet - but couldnt relax to sit and do his business.....after many false alarms, (him sitting but not relaxing and then getting distracted) I asked him when he was wanting to go if he wanted to stand up (to which he said yes) so I put him in the shower, held his hand to reassure him (and so he wouldnt slip) and that seemed to do the trick. he did a wee and poo (sorry, i know it a bit gross, but it really seemed to help him) and he is now more relaxed about it and today did his first wee sitting down on the toilet (day 3). Out of his own initiative too! :yelclap:

I dont know if this wiil help in your situation, but I think it definitely helped DS get his confidence about the whole thing. I suppose its all a lot of changes for them and it cant hurt if they achieve it in baby steps.


sorry this is long.

HTH, good luck :goodvibes:

[Electric Rodeo]

MyDS is the same (he has just turn 3), rarely has accidents and hasn't done for around 10 months. He ALWAYS requests a nappy to poo, I don't know where he got his fear from either. He would sit on the toilet say it hurt and he needed a nappy. After such a long time I thought enough was enough and pretended we had run out of nappies in his size. He went through his bro's room in hope(he is 19months), luckily all the different packets had pics of younger boys/babies on them. So he took my word for it and pooed without a nappy (it was in the backyard eww but it was progress:laughing:)
Dug a hole for myself cause then I had to send him to bed for the whole night without a nappy either(I had run out afterall;)). Was so happy as he stayed dry all night. No nappies today either and another poo in the backyard.
I had refused napies in the past I'm not sure if you have but he seemed to cope better when I said they no longer fit and didn't get as upset when I flat out refused. As you have two littlies you could pretend maybe:p

Don't worry Giasmum mines pooing in the backyard:laughing:. makes sense with the relaxing them bit though that was half my DS trouble too. Once they feel confident they are right. Just have to make sure mine only does it at home and not in public:eek: