My boy is angry with me

[naiwen]

Yesterday afternoon I had to call an ambulance for Edward because he was having difficulty breathing, I kept holding him down and forcing him to breath in his ventolin, then at hospital I had to hold him so he couldnt take his monitors of and hold him down while they took blood.

We got home last night and of course had to hold him down while he was screaming to give more meds.

This morning he seems angry with me, he was clinging to DH before he left for work and when I tried to take him he hit me and scratched my face. He has been crying and I cant calm him down so I had to put him in his cot for a minute to calm myself down.

DH put him in his highchair for breakfast without straps and he flung himself out of the highchair and fell on to the carpet in his effort to follow DH and get away from me.

I love him so much but he seems to hate me for forcing him to take meds and have procedures.

I am just heartbroken today :gloomy:.

[SweetSerenity]

Awww hun :hugs:

He is just too little to understand that you're trying to help him, not hurt him.

When he's older he will know that all you did for him was to help him and save him :yes:

I don't know what else I can say to make you feel better :hugs:

I hope his mood towards you improves through the day.

Nat xoxox

[Benji]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: Oh you poor thing!!

I hope he's alright!

I think in most families it's mum who has to be the meanie and dad who gets to be the hero.

He will settle down, he's probably just a bit over all of this medication, etc etc.

[naiwen]

I used to think we had such an amazing bond but now he only wants his dad, I suppose I have always been the one who stays with him in hospital and gives him meds and does physio and now he has worked out that daddy is the nice one who never holds him down.

I just wanted to cry when he started hitting me and scratching my face and screaming when I tried to hold him.

And I have to give him meds 3-4 hourly today so I guess he going to keep on being angry with me for putting him through it.

[workin'mumof2]

:( oh no :hugs::hugs:

just remind your self your doing it for a reason and your a wonderful mum.. im sure he will thank you when he is older :yes:

[SweetSerenity]

I used to think we had such an amazing bond but now he only wants his dad, I suppose I have always been the one who stays with him in hospital and gives him meds and does physio and now he has worked out that daddy is the nice one who never holds him down.

I just wanted to cry when he started hitting me and scratching my face and screaming when I tried to hold him.

And I have to give him meds 3-4 hourly today so I guess he going to keep on being angry with me for putting him through it.

:( :hugs:

Can your partner take over when he gets home?

So you're not always the one doing it??

[Leisa21]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:You poor, poor thing, you must be feeling awful. I dont have any words of wisdom except to say you are a kind and caring mother, your boy loves you he's just too young to understand you're helping in. You're doing and awesome job and his lucky to have you as a Mummy :)

[gonnabeaGR8mum]

you poor thing :no: i just wanted to give you these :hugs::hugs: i hope as today weras on and the vents of yesterday/last night aren't so fresh in his mind he'll come back to you for cuddles and kisses- remember that he loves you, maybe he's just a little scared?

[naiwen]

DH is good with DS to a point but he wont give meds because he made a mistake and gave DS too much ferrous sulphate a few times and now refuses to do it at all.

[Benji]

Naiwen he's probably just feeling a bit off after all he's been through in the last couple of days.

My boy and I have an amazing bond when my mum or X aren't around but seriously, when one of them is around I'm yesterdays news lol.

All of these things doesn't mean he loves you any less or that the bond is gone. He's probably just feeling irritated.

:hugs::hugs:

I remember growing up asking my dad to go out and pick up a new mum, but seriously I didn't love her any less, she was just the one trying to do right by me, doing the "mean" things.

[SweetSerenity]

DH is good with DS to a point but he wont give meds because he made a mistake and gave DS too much ferrous sulphate a few times and now refuses to do it at all.

That's a tough situation then :(

Don't be so hard on yourself though, because you are a FANTASTIC mother!!! :yes: Have always admired your strength, you're wonderful :hugs:

[munchie]

:hugs::hugs:Ohhh hun

He doesn't understand that your are trying to help him rather than hurt him..

I am so sorry that it is hurting you, but he does love you just as much as he loves his daddy

It's nothing personal.. he hates taking meds..poor little man.. if it were someone else giving him his medication it would be the same with the other person.


I hope things get better for you and your son xox

[naiwen]

OK I have a confession,

I just bribed my child to like me :o,

I gave him a milk arrowroot biscuit and his big christmas teddy and now he is all smiles and no longer hitting me :o.

Not the best parenting method I know but I dont care :no:.

At least he is happy now :smiliedance:

[Benji]

OK I have a confession,

I just bribed my child to like me :o,

I gave him a milk arrowroot biscuit and his big christmas teddy and now he is all smiles and no longer hitting me :o.

Not the best parenting method I know but I dont care :no:.

At least he is happy now :smiliedance:

:laughing: good on ya naiwen!

[SweetSerenity]

OK I have a confession,

I just bribed my child to like me :o,

I gave him a milk arrowroot biscuit and his big christmas teddy and now he is all smiles and no longer hitting me :o.

Not the best parenting method I know but I dont care .

At least he is happy now

LOL :laughing:

I was going to suggest you do something that makes him "like" you :laughing::o But now that you have done that I can confess that hehe.

I would of done the same :o

[Nowhere]

OK I have a confession,

I just bribed my child to like me :o,

I gave him a milk arrowroot biscuit and his big christmas teddy and now he is all smiles and no longer hitting me :o.

Not the best parenting method I know but I dont care :no:.

At least he is happy now :smiliedance:

HUGS babe what ever works, I have been known to give miki new toys after dressing and tube changes too

Miki started going though the same thing around edwards age, and its heart breaking she still gets like that but gets over it quicker, She tells me now when she sees me getting her stuff ready ( tubes, caths, tape etc etc) you cant hurt me, and I tel her No mummy doesnt want to hurt you i trying to help you, generaly she wil lie ther and wimper, sometimes she will tough its out and others she wil scream blue murder and carry on for hours

So if bribery works GO FOR IT lol, why you think miki doesnt have many presents for christmas its cause she has them all ready lol

[HunterzMummy]

awww hunnie :hugs::hugs:

Just another thought... Babies his age (well all children really) go through mummy and daddy phases... is this just recent??? Perhaps its just a phase :fingerscrossed:

He loves you hun. You are an amazingly and excellent mother and women :hugs:

[grass is always greener]

:hugs: do whatever works hun.

[Mathermy]

Maybe he isn't angry with you-maybe because of the last few days with you being the primary one to deliver his meds etc he is just associating you with that. Maybe he is not scratching at you because he is angry , it could just be that every time you go to him he thinks it's time for meds or something yucky.

I don't think at his age he would be holding a grudge, he's probably just thinking "no mummy, not more medicine!"

maybe:o:hugs: