problems with BIL

[mumofethan]

this is a strange situation i am currently in with my family... i would like some advise PLEASE!!!!!!!

my BIL has had a thing for me for atleast the last 7yrs... i have always told him to go away cause i am not interested in him, plus he is my BIL... eventually he gave up, especially when clint and i got together....

however recently my sister and BIL have seperated... and he has started making comments to clinton on MSN... normally these comments come straight out of left field, completely off topic... they could be talking about cars and he will say "if you get bored of michelle u can send her to me!"

clinton has alway know about my BIL's crush but this is making us both really uncomfortable, and i no longer want to be in the same room with him unless there are other ppl around.

Any ideas how i can approch him about it, i cant talk to my family as they will blame me even thou i havent done anything wrong...

[Briannabear]

Thats such an awful situation to be in. Its something that needs to be addressed. Things like that always get worse the longer that they are left.
You and your partner need to sit down with your BIL and talk about it like adults. Tell him that he's making you very uncomfortable. Get your partner to tell him that he doesnt appreciate the little comments he says about you. He's overstepped the boundry.
If you think that his family will blame you for some reason, dont tell them. Talk about it with your BF and BIL and no-one else. If the matter doesnt improve, then maybe you need to involve them. Your partner can back you up on the fact that you havent provoked him at all.

Im not sure if thats been any help, sorry! :o
Good luck!

[xkwzit]

Hi
If your family won't support you, don't talk about it to them - they don't need to know.

If your hubby is the one getting the comments and isn't liking it surely he can tell the ex-BIL off for crossing the boundary?

Otherwise I would avoid being in the same room as BIL...

If your hubby doesn't care / doesn't want to make waves and you find yourself having to deal directly with BIL, how about telling him that, "a relationship with him would cause irreparable harm to your relationship with your sister and/or parents and you would not risk that for anything, sorry"

or, if you're feeling less diplomatic "frankly, having sex with a man that has had sex with your sister would make you VOMIT", either is good...

Cheers