How do they learn what no means

[Jax Tellers Old Lady]

hey there i am having a hard time teaching the word no to my son everytime i say no he ignores me i am interested to see what methods others have used. I am against smacking so am at a hard place trying to get him to listen to me its like he pretends he didnt hear anything i said. HELP ME!!!!!!!!:confused:

[tupper_lady]

How do they learn no? By their parents reinforcing it to them all the time, by getting down to their level face to face and telling them what they have done wrong in a stern voice, if they continue the action or whatever it was they were doing wrong you have to discipline without smacking. EG. take away a special toy and place it in time out, or place the child in time out.

How old are you talking about?

[dee dee]

I am facing the same issues at the moment. I think DD has selective hearing. She knows what "No!" means but chooses not to hear me.

Instead of repeating myself over and over I will just remove her from whatever the situation is, or away from whatever she shouldn't be touching. I find that distraction also works wonders. I will call her over to show her something interesting or go and find her favourite toy, this usually does the trick. Good luck!

[nemosmum]

Just wait a while, No will soon become their favourite word LOL and they will be telling you "No" all the time :yes: :no: :laughing:

I used to say Stop instead of no and this worked well with ds, he still had selective hearing sometimes and at these times I would usually have to redirect him physically (eg hold his hand and take him somewhere else etc)

My ds is a very strong willed child and so needs alot of patience and is very demanding at times (he is getting better now he is older) and I use some AP parenting tech.s and he really responds well to them instead of using an authorative type discipline.

:fingerscrossed:

[twins+another]

From memory, 'BabyLove' says that they are able to understand 'no' from about 10 months but that doesn't mean they will listen!

[caitsmum]

Instead of saying "no" be specific about the action you want them to do. Eg instead of "No don't touch the hose" say "put the hose down please" in a firm but reasonable voice and guide them with the action you want them to do.

[Mylittleboy]

Instead of saying "no" be specific about the action you want them to do. Eg instead of "No don't touch the hose" say "put the hose down please" in a firm but reasonable voice and guide them with the action you want them to do.
Thats what I was going to say, lol
I don't want to be one of those mums that just says No No No No, my DS is 5 months old and I will be trying to say "Don't do" or Don't whatever", lol

[TwoBlue]

I used to say Stop instead of no and this worked well with ds, he still had selective hearing sometimes and at these times I would usually have to redirect him physically (eg hold his hand and take him somewhere else etc)

Same here...

i find "stop" was far more effective

also sometimes we would play the "stop" game... its like freeze with music, you sing "well you dance and you dance and you dance and you STOP!" etc etc.. make it a game and then learning to stop is not always a bad thing..

whenever i say stop now DS goes quite still :D well not ALWAYS hehe

[Ange&Seth]

I have started saying 'No' in a stern voice. DS stops what he's doing and looks at me. I then say 'Don't Touch' in a stern voice and he happily goes about doing something else. He's only 7 months, but I think he knows what 'No' and 'Don't Touch' mean. I have started saying 'Do Not touch the stereo, you know you are not allowed' to try and make him understand exactly what it is he is doing wrong or shouldn't be touching. Only time will tell if I'm going about it the right way I guess :D