Seperation anxity 1 yr old!

[A&Omummy]

Hi I'm not really sure where to put this so mods please move if I am in the wrong section.

Ok well my almost 1 year is ammm what should I say difficult baby. I love her to bits but she really does drive me crazy. Well the thing is if I am not sitting with her she is whinging every single day I am on the verge of tears if I am not in tears. I can't do anything. I also have a demanding almost 3yr old so I am finding it very hard. I don't know if anyone has any addvice. Everyone goes well let her whinge she will soon get used to it. Well I have and still do but it drives me up the wall she crawls to whereever I am and pulls herself up onto me then I move her and she fully cracks it. I guess it don't help that she is a horrible sleeper to. But she has real seperation issues. Like today I was trying to make the spare bed up for the inlaws coming and she was whinging the whole time and pulling her self up using my legs this is so annoying. In the end I gave up trying to do it and went and played with her mean while she is tired but is happy playing while I am sitting there with her. I forgot I put a pot on the stove to boil and said be back in a min bubba the whole time talking to her and telling her what I was doing and here she is starting to crack it and following me in. The mornings are the worst when I am trying to get breaky sorted and get us all dressed and ready to go out if we need to and thats even with me laying clothes out and bags packed so few less jobs for me to worry about doing with her whinging. I know well I hope she will grow out of it one day but when I don't know. I usually go out each arvo as by then I am totaly over her whinging.

[UmmInayah]

:hugs: Man, I can only imagine how much you're going through at the moment!

Honestly, if a child is craving attention, the only way to "get them to learn" is to GIVE them the attention. I think you're doing the right thing in playing with her. It's really hard when you have housework to do. My DD is 18 months old and still is carried almost everywhere.

Have you thought about maybe getting an ergo, or something you can put her in? She may well benefit from being close to mum for a couple of weeks, realising you're not going to leave her, and that you're always there. The more connected they are to mum, the more they are likely to go and venture (although some bubs will always be clingy)

Good luck. I hope you can manage something soon.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

VERY normal. :yes:

She just loves you and knows that you are her safe warm spot. :goodvibes:

Enjoy it while you can (difficult to do, I know) because it doesn't last.

I'm almost BEGGING DS for cuddles now, he just has too many other interesting things to do. :(

[A&Omummy]

Thanks ladies she don't like the sling and I do carry her around a bit but then she pushes to get down but then 2 secs latter wanting to be picked up. I was having a bad day yesterday just had so much to do and was trying to get it all done and she was driving me crazy.