babies close in age

[Rydens Mummy]

Hello everyone,
I have a very beautiful 4 and half month old baby boy. And a 5 year old Step son. Up until now my partner has said not more kids, as all he wanted was two kids. Its taken a little while to convince him that i want two kids of my own as well, and that because i had no say in the birth of his first son, that i didnt think it fair he makes the decision of no more kids for us. (dont get me wrong, i love my SS to bits, and am actually the one he cares for him the most, as his dad works and his mum well thats a different story)

He finally sees it my way, and said that iwe can have another baby as long as its born before his 30th birthday (which is march 2010) Which gives me until june 2009 to fall pregnant, which means there kids could be as little as 14 months apart - to 19 months apart.

I was wondering how hard it is to deal with 2 littlies. Ive always wanted 3 years between babies, but DP seem adament that this is the way he wants it, and i think i should jump at it. How are other mums going with babies so close in age.

Stacey

[mybabyandew]

hey i dont know how hard it is but my little man is 16 months and im nearly 4 months pregnant again.My nefew was born in april and my mums bothers gf had her baby a month later and my little man was born in august and they all get along really well.

[JabberJaw]

My no 2 and 3 are 13 months apart.
It was a little tough in the beginning having one just walking plus a newborn but we fell into a fantastic routine fairly quickly. And it was a breeze from then on.

They are now 4 and 5 and in all honesty it is fantastic, they play well, share friends and activities. The last problem encountered was when DD started prep leaving DS home for the year! He had some seperation issues, much like twins do from what i have heard. But he is off to prep next year himself now and is very excited.

People always assume they are twins, and they are funny and let people believe they are LOL.

The key to making it bearable is routine IMO. I tried to make them eat/feed at the same time, sleep at the same time etc. And now they are older it still works well, DS goes to bed 20 min earlier than DD and DS also has a day nap so i get some quality time with DD, although its only a small amount of time, she has never really known any different.

Your hubby may change his mind when bub arrives and decide to wait just a tad longer, but if he dosent, you will be fine.

[mumbron]

hi my youngest two are 13 and a half months difference in age and they are so close and get along really well i would defeintly reccomened :D

[pinkgingham]

my 2 are 17 months apart and it was hard in the beginning, especially as DP works away and i was on my own a lot but it does get easier as they get older, but i knew that going into it when we planned a small age gap. i love the smaller age gap and wouldnt have it any other way :D

[hayleysmummy]

I agree with Miskelz- #1 should really be in a routine before #2 arrives.

My 2 are 23 months apart (so a bit larger a gap) but DD never had a routine and at 2 still doesnt because I left it too long therefore I get no time to myself DS is a great sleeper but I really struggle with DD at night and with her day sleep. In saying that she loves her baby brother to bits and the smiles he gives her just melt my heart everytime I think he loves his big sis more than his mummy sometimes :D

[lauren2008]

My 2 are 14 months apart. We didnt plan it this way but we love it now! In the beginning it was really hard as they both demanded attention but now we are in a routine its a lot easier. And its fun watching them interact with each other, it will be good when they are a bit older and can play together!

You will be fine, go for it!

[MummyCharmzy]

Our kids are all close in age, 12 months exactly between the youngest 2. I love the close age gaps. Initially its hard work but once you settle in its great! The boys are 6 and 7 and are best mates even at school they often play together and share similar friends. At home the close age means similar interests so they happily play together 99% of the time now.

The girls are 2.5 and 3.5 and are just inseperable. When 2.5 yr old naps, 3.5 yr old is lost. They play really well but are both at the not so great at sharing age so we do have iour fair share of conflicts!

:)

[Thermolicious]

We have a 14mth age gap. Busy but am loving it! my piece of advice is to ensure that DH gets some time off for the birth and first few weeks. We are in week 3 of 6 weeks leave and it is great having him around.

Good Luck :hugs:

[YMo7]

my oldest 2 are about 18 months apart and my youngest 2 are 10.5 months apart...

everyone asks if the younger 2 are twins.

they act like twins. they are only 2 and 3 atm but they look out for each other and don't like being apart. they play with each other and keep each other company all day.

close age group is fantastic - they do EVERYTHING together. Yes, it can be hard, but i think the closer age gap has been better for them and probably more enjoyable (in a hair-pulling out type of way) than the age gap's between my other kids.... :)

[NibbleCurlynBub]

My two are a 14mth age gap.

It was fine. Honestly, it was.

You learn to adapt pretty quickly and then life just goes on. :yes:

[TeamAwesome]

I've got some more experience towards the older end with a 17m3w gap and a 22month gap and we love it...After ou first I was sure I wanted a 3ish year gap and then found out we were pregnant with our second and realised it was a better fit for us. It's crazy and busy, but totally worth it. I'd have loved to be pregnant with our fourth in a similar age gap but we've just bought a house and DH is never home at the key times (he works away 6weeks on 1 off) so won't be for a while yet.

Anyhow if it's what you want then go for it.

[thth]

I have 10months and 2 days between my 2 older kids, it was hard at first, but the older they got, the easier it became, they always had someone to play with, fight with and are so protective of each other..

[crzymumof2]

My 2 boys are 14 months apart and really if its your first two kids that are close in age then you don't really have much to compare it to. People say oh you have your hands full, but Its my life and what do I have to compare it to, I don't really no any different. My boys love playing together and really look out for each other and its so cute so I love the age gap.

[petalbum]

I came in to read the thread just out of curiosity and you all sound so so so happy I'm thinking about raping DH when he gets home from work and doing the baby dance:laughing::laughing: TMI I know our DS has just gone 5mths old..
you lot are contageous:laughing::laughing::hugs:

[cja]

14mth age gap - love it...gets better each day now they are 24mths and 10mths....there are certainly hard times too but the good ones make it worthwhile.

[aprileviesmum]

My two are 14 months apart as well. Didn't plan them close together. I wanted a 2 yr gap lol.
They get on really well with each other...... at the moment!

[TezTemJdTizJaz]

I'm a bit late with this reply- But our 1st 2 are 11 months Apart & I absolutely love it.

They are 3 and 4 now, and I thought the 1st 2 yrs was probably the easiest to ride through-- No Ganging up together and being sneaky! LOL

I probably wouldn't PLAN it! haha But in saying that- I wouldn't change it, I think it's fabulous in every way!

[bgbgbb]

My first two are 18 months apart, No.3 came 21 months later and No.4 came 17 months after No.3. Not easy and when you're up to 4 little kids very little people offer to babysit.

But we have very fun Christmases!

[Bel1978]

I came in to read the thread just out of curiosity and you all sound so so so happy I'm thinking about raping DH when he gets home from work and doing the baby dance:laughing::laughing: TMI I know our DS has just gone 5mths old..
you lot are contageous:laughing::laughing::hugs:

By the time my DD was 5 months old i was 2 months pregnant and i love my age gap..12 months

I wanted 2 May babies and got them

[Mamalicious]

I'm 10 days into a 20 month age gap and it's blardy hard. :dizzy:

I'm not having any more for a few years, 5 at least!

[MummyCharmzy]

mamalicious give yourself some time to settle in, it does get easier! In 6 months you could be loving the gap :D When I had #4 and the others were only 4,3,12 months I really struggled the first cpl of months, it was lots of hard work... by the time she was 5 months old though we were ttc #5 :D lol

[Mamalicious]

mamalicious give yourself some time to settle in, it does get easier! In 6 months you could be loving the gap :D When I had #4 and the others were only 4,3,12 months I really struggled the first cpl of months, it was lots of hard work... by the time she was 5 months old though we were ttc #5 :D lol

Aw thankyou, I feel better now! :D

[mindy81]

Hi Mamalicious,
I totally understand, my boys are 17 months apart, and the first few months were a daze. I think its the sleep issues that make it seem so much harder at first. Now my boys are 33 months and 16 Months old and they are very close. They play together well. They even have biffos, but being so close in age, makes it more equal. It has even got to the point that if a family member takes my eldest, the younger one is a nightmare without his brother. I PROMISE it does get easier as they grow :)