What are your arrangements regarding christmas day?

[SweetSerenity]

This is the first year I am celebrating christmas with a new partner and the ex with his new girlfriend, therefore a new family to visit on christmas day for us:laughing:

I told the ex hubby that I can't drop DS off till around 8pm christmas night due to our commitments, and he happily agreed as he has other social things he wants to go to "child free" :rolleyes:

So it works out great for DP and I as we wanted to have DS with us ALL day.

How do you normally arrange christmas with your children and ex partner?

I know we won't be this lucky to have DS all day every year (which upsets me), so i'm curious as to how you normally organise christmas day?

Thanks in advance. Nat :sunshine:

[flick82]

My partner has a court order (my DD doesnt see her father so I dont have this problem) but the way we do it with his ex is we take it alternate years, We have even years, so no matter whose week it is this year we have her from 4pm christmas eve to 1pm christmas day. and ex will have her 1pm christmas day to some time the next day. and nextyear will be the other way around if that makes sense. that way they both get a chance to celebrate christmas morning with with her. we just organise our family stuff depending which year we have her. our families understand this and work with us.

[Zada]

the ex will have the kids zmas eve for the night and Ill get them back xmas day at lunch time. It will swap next yr

[GraceUnhearing]

i started the same thread the other day

XDP is being horrible about it all :(

[c2p08]

this yr my ex gets bub 10-4 on xmas day.

but next year and following years it alternates 4pm xmas eve til 2pm xmas day and the other gets 2pm xmas day till 4pm boxing day...

[SweetSerenity]

i started the same thread the other day

XDP is being horrible about it all :(

Aww hun I'm sorry :hugs:

What sort of dramas is he causing?

Thanks for sharing ladies.

For the past 2 years we've done it so I have ds christmas day till about 6pm and then ex has him for christmas dinner and to stay the night.

Times have varied each year and I'm wondering what sort of arrangements ex will want for the future or if he's happy having it this way??

It's good to get an idea of what other families do :)

[Freya]

X doesn't celebrate Christmas!!:yelclap:

[SweetSerenity]

X doesn't celebrate Christmas!!:yelclap:

That's fantastic for you hun :D

I was like this too :yelclap: when ex said I can have ds till 8pm!!!!

He saw it as me doing him a favour, but he was doing us a favour for being selfish :D

[spoon]

Aidan spends one half of the holidays at his dads and one half at mine. Even years he is with his dad, odd years he is with me. I just dropped him off at his dads yesterday and will not see him till Jan 8th. It means we dont have to up and leave things to drop him off and he gets to celebrate all day at either home. My step daughter does the same thing with us. This year we don't have them so Pete and I are packing up the little ones and heading off to the Blue Mountains to stay in a hotel and we are excited about it. When we have the big kids we have a big family christmas and are planning on taking them somewhere cool next year for NYE.

[SassyMummy]

I was more than willing to allow the ex to have DD on Christmas Day, and after.

I wanted her for Christmas Eve/Christmas Morning, because of hte mountain of presents I have for her (from Santa), and of course I wanted her to open them and whatnot...

But I have family here, and I have the bf and his family... his family are all in WA, and I figured there's nothing he could do on Christmas, so allowing him to have Chanel would really brighten his day, and actually give him something to celebrate.

BUT... he's going to WA, and after this Sunday (and this is only because i'm forcing him to have her this Sunday), he won't be seeing her until after New Years... :thumbsdown:

So it's not like he really cares anyway.

I hope to never do alternate years when she's older.

We did it, and i hated it. I'd much rather spend every Christmas with my mother, as bad as that sounds. We had a tradition. She stuck to it once she and Dad broke up... he didn't.

One year he even made us spend Christmas Day with his gf's jehovah's witness family! So it wasn't even Christmas!

That was awful.

[alphafemale2901]

Previously my SS has spent a weekend prior to Christmas with his incubator, but she hasn't contacted him this year since July has been very forthright in instructing us that my SS is not to contact him ever; she will call him when she wants to speak with him.

The court orders say that she is to give us three weeks notice of the weekend she would like to see him, and as long as it fits in with our plans it is arranged. However, as I said, she has made no contact and it is well within 3 weeks of Christmas now, so I guess she won't be seeing him at all around Christmas time this year.

On the flip-side DH hasn't seen his other kids since October 2007 and doesn't make contact with them or wish to have them here. So overall its a pretty sad and tragic situation for all of those kids, but its got nothing to do with me. The courts, lawyers and the incubator have made that very clear.

We will have a lovely Christmas here with my family, my two kids, DH and my SS. My SS hopefully won't feel like he's missing anything. Like my two precious children, he will be spoiled rotten by everyone and have a wonderful day.

:reindeer:

[michelleand2girls]

I have an arrangement with my ex, that alternate years we have the girls from christmas eve until boxing day morning, it means they get a quality christmas with either parent without being shifted all over the place. so this year is mine and my new husbands turn to have them on christmas day.
the years we dont have them,we postpone christmas day til the day we do have them.
the girls enjoy it as they get two whole chrstmas days.

[LizzardLover]

I have an arrangement with my ex, that alternate years we have the girls from christmas eve until boxing day morning, it means they get a quality christmas with either parent without being shifted all over the place. \

:iagree: I have a similar deal with my ex. My family have always celebrated xmas day and his have always done boxing day. So DD is with xmas day and I drop her at his house 9am boxing day :) When she's older if she wants to stay with him xmas eve/day i'll probably let her but right now it just works better the way we have it set up.

The way we do it she has all day to look at and play with her toys etc... and the next day she can do it all over again with dad!! Both families celebrate slightly differently, so this way she can just relax and enjoy each families xmas :)

[Eggflip]

I am dropping DS off for christmas eve and then picking him up about eleven. I also think that it is mighty nice of me in doing so :yelclap:

[Just Add Water]

We will have the kids till about lunchtime on Christmas Day, then DH will drop them at their mother's for the afternoon and probably pick them up about six. They may or may not go back over on Boxing day (they are not allowed to stay the night). I think it's rough on them as they have to up and leave in the middle but they didn't see her at all last year as we went away so we have to do something.

[MummyCharmzy]

We alternate years, its DSS BM year so she gets him 3pm christmas eve until 3pm christmas day. I'm sooo happy it worked out like this as it means DSS gets christmas morning with us for babies first christmas next year :)