Negative reactions when telling friends you are TTC

[carleena]

Has anyone ever had negative reactions when telling friends that you are TTC?

I told a close friend today that DH and I are currently TTC. I expected her to be happy for us but instead said "why can't you wait until after new year". I was quite upset by her reaction and am now too nervous to tell anyone else in case they are the same.

[bubbleyblossom]

Im not TTC but had to say something in here ( I hope you dont mind).... I dont think your friend had the right to say that, it is yours and your DH's choice to TTC, and especially when you do it!!! I dont think you should worry about what others would say because it is not up to them!

[BrAins]

we told people we are ttc#4. most people are happy. we do get the omg are you crazy comments. i just dont care what other people say though

[chhandita]

I recently told a close friend about ttc. She didnt really react...but later as i was talking about having to buy folic acid, she said and i quote "Instead of taking all these tablets, why dont you just ty harder":laughing:
This coming from someone who got preggo while on the pill...needless to say, am wary of telling anyone abt ttc.

and can anyone tell me how to "try harder" ;)

[Electric Rodeo]

I recently told a close friend about ttc. She didnt really react...but later as i was talking about having to buy folic acid, she said and i quote "Instead of taking all these tablets, why dont you just ty harder":laughing:
This coming from someone who got preggo while on the pill...needless to say, am wary of telling anyone abt ttc.

and can anyone tell me how to "try harder" ;)


If only taking folic acid got you PG:p

I can't beleive people make comments like this. My friends have got a rough idea that we are ttc now and I haven't had any neg feedback.
I'm sorry Cchandita and OP that people say these things.
As for trying harder pfft??? Not sure how either:D

[Square777]

It is no-one elses business what you and your husband choose to do, when you make informed and rational decisions.

I'm currently pregnant, and work in a ward full of nurses, mostly women, heaps of whom have/having littel babies/children.

I'm constantly asked by colleagues (not people I consider friends, but work firends, if oyu know what I mean) asking if we are ttc.

I always say no, because its none of their business, and if i want people to know i will tell them, i find it incredibly intrusive when they ask.

Well i got asked the other day if we were ttc, and lied and said no. another lady pipes up and says, well you're too young anyway.

Like its her business!!
I have a uni degree and great job, my hubby has a trade, we have built our house gotten married, travelled etc.

So anyway, sorry for the rant.

But what I'm basically getting at is its no-one else's business, and if they can't be happy for you and accept your decision that you and your hubby have made together as a family, then her opinion isn't really worth much.
Its up to you who you tell, but never be ashamed be proud to be wanting to make a family, and I promise most people will be really happy for you! They are the ones who matter.

[ringneck]

I was really worried what people would think so we didn't tell anyone until we realised it was going to take a while and 99% of people were ecstatic for us you will always get the handful of people who are rude and make nasty comments i say they are just jealous they haven't found the right person yet.

[carleena]

Thanks girls!!

The friend in question is very much single and seems to be under the impression that it is very easy to fall pregnant. She continued on telling me about a girl she works with who apparently fell pregnant after being off the pill for 4 days and that I should be careful that it doesnt happen like that for me!! I then told her that I had stopped taking the pill in August and nothing had happened yet. If only it was that simple!!

I hadn't really planned on telling that we were TTC but as I am so excited about the whole thing thought that I could tell my closest friends. 1 of them was fantastic about it though - she has 2 kids of her own and said that she is so excited for me that she actually has butterflies!! If only everyone was like that.

[iMischa]

my friends were happy for me, except one who is having fertility issues herself which i understand!

its actually my dad who had a negative reaction!! 'why? why would anyone want MORE kids?' lol as if i had 10 already or something.. now he just doesnt acknowledge im actually pregnant, no congrats, no comment if i mention my morning sickness etc.
its weird. he loves my DS more than anything, he rings me up asking me when im bringing him over coz he misses him. he constantly spoils and plays and stirs him..i thought he'd be excited he'd have another little person to keep him company and play with..but it doesnt appear that way yet.

ive decided to not let it bother me at all.

it sounds to me like ur friend might be envious that she isnt in a position in her life where she has someone let alone someone to settle down with and have kids..either that or she feels like she wont be able to relate to u once u have a baby (it sounds silly but i have a friend who doesnt have any children and she avoids me like im a bad smell...she tells my other friends 'i dont bother anymore, why would i? we have nothing in common anymore now she has HIM' (my ds) lol

it could be a factor of things but the main thing is dont let it get you down, you know what u have dp have and what u both want and no one should make u feel bad for that. good luck!! :)

[EcstaticMumToBe]

Hi girls, was just having a quick read of this thread and thought i'd add..

I told 2 of my friends that we were TTC and they are both people that I had thought would be supportive... one said you cant do that you'll be fat for your wedding.. which I took quite offence to, i'd loved to have a baby and how i look shouldnt matter.. not to mention i would have only been a MAX of 4 months and not showing so much that i wouldnt fit in my dress..

and the other was more concerned about me losing my party life.. quite a big shock to me cause i've had a great run with my party life and they know im ready to settle down..

I didnt say anything to them cause its their opinion but it would have been nice to have some support.. only support has been from friends with children already.. except for the odd comment of "you want to have a baby now but wait til you fall pregnant" lol.. all jokingly of course :D

I sometimes wonder if its jealousy from some people.. but everyone has different opinions i suppose.

[c2p08]

Has anyone ever had negative reactions when telling friends that you are TTC?

I told a close friend today that DH and I are currently TTC. I expected her to be happy for us but instead said "why can't you wait until after new year". I was quite upset by her reaction and am now too nervous to tell anyone else in case they are the same.

ehy, i had a similar reaction from my sister when i told her.. she told me i'm to younge and stupid and have to learn to look after my daughter first...

shes angrey at me coz i'm stil home with #1 now, shes 2, and when we told her we were thinking bout number 2, she hit the roof and stopped talking to me. acted as though it was the wrost thing in the world.

[Elestrial]

:no:I am so sorry that someone said that to you. It not ok. Maybe she meant it would be easier not to be pregnant over Christams, what with the drinking, etc. It's the only thing I can think of that would possibly cause someone to say something so hurtful.
Blessings on you and you pregnancy (which I KNOW is just around the corner). It's going to be your little Christmas miracle - a perfect addition tot he party season! :yes: