D-Day tomorro... wish me luck!

[shellmabell]

Well after months of deliberating and arguing with myself I have finally decided that I have to break-up with my boyfriend of 7 months. I am going to do it tomorrow, but I am nervous, scared and still a little bit unsure. He is so wonderful- what if I never meet anyone as wonderful as him ever again and I regret letting him go?
Deep in my heart I've always known that he isn't right for me, but I've been hoping that I would change my mind and grow to love him because I know he is a really great person and could make me happy. But I realise now you cannot make yourself love someone no matter how much you want to. And I don't want to settle on someone who I am not madly in love with just because he is a decent person. So tomorrow I somehow have to break the news to him and I am dreading it. I know he is in love with me so he will no doubt be very hurt and upset and I hate to make him suffer. But I guess in the long run it is for the best.

Anyway, thanks to all the ladies who helped me make up my mind about breaking up with him. I now know that this is the right thing for me to do and will put an end to my sleepless nights worrying about what to do....

[mumof3cuties]

:hugs: sounds like u are doing the right thing by you, no use trying to stay in a relationship without love. though sometimes it might seem like the "safe" option, u would not be being true to yourself

[Bubmum]

Aw chicken, good luck. I am sure the day after, you will know if it was definitely the right decision. Hope it goes well.

[OneBabyBoy]

Awww that sounds so sad :(

Have you done it yet? How did it go?:hugs:

[shellmabell]

Hi Girls,

It's all over now. We had a nice long chat tonight and even though we were both upset and crying, we know in our hearts that it's for the best. He is truly a great guy and he was so understanding and supportive of me making decisions to move ahead with my life so I really felt relieved afterwards and not too guilty. I know that he will meet someone soon enough that can love him the way he deserves. And as for me, well I just need some time alone to sort some things out for myself before I can even think about anyone else.

thanks everyone for your support and advice. As I said this is my first relationship since breaking up with my husband and I am totally clueless.
All your wisdom has really helped me make these decisions.

[Tieko]

Congratulations hun! :thumbsup: I responded in your first thread about this where I was also in a simialr situation....just letting you know that I also broke up with my bf a few weeks ago - we were together 8 months and I feel soo much better for it!! Of course I still miss him and like him and want to spend time with him...but the relief of not having to keep 'umming and arring' in my head the whole time about if I should stay or go is enormous!! It was a hard step to take - breaking up with a great guy, but in the end it is one I'm glad I took. Hope you are feeling good about it all :thumbsup:

[mumof3cuties]

the more you date and the more relationships u have, the better equipped you will be to recognise when youve got something really good ;)

i think its a common mistake people make - getting into everything too young, when they dont have enough relationship experience to know if its really gonna work long term.

my bro and his gf met when they were 16 and were madly in love for over 6 or 7 yrs so assumed that for everything to work that long, that it would keep working forever. but people change so much in their late teens & early 20s, that when they get to their mid twenties the r/ship might not work anymore. its what happened with my bro and his gf, but now they are married and have a 2 yr old, ;but are unhappy:(

maybe if theyd had more dating experience then theyd now be in happier relationships, so hopefully this will happen to u (and the rest of us), experience will lead to ultimate happiness :goodvibes: