castlemum
20-05-2006, 23:45
Hi :)
Need a few anxieties dealt with, hence the post! I'll post my history so you know where I come from.
I have two children already, both of whom were conceived in 1 month of trying (as in, the first month possible). My first, unplanned, I'd never been on the pill or anything before. The second, I'd been on the pill for about 12 months when I stopped and conceived her. She's 5 now. I've been off the pill for 19 months, after most of the 3 1/2 years before that on it (going off periodically for a few months, then back on).
Both children were born via c-section. The first was emergency after 8 hours of induced labour due to foetal heartrate drop to 28bpm. On doing surgery they found he was engaged wrong and that my pelvis wasn't 'opening' - the bones are too thick to allow the movement required, so no babies head was going to fit.
As a result DD was an elective c-section based on the above findings as well as the possibility she was failure to thrive and may not cope well with stress of birth and any labour complications. She surprised everyone (perfectly normal, healthy baby, just small - still is).
Anyway after that operation I developed a bad infection. My doctor at the time said it appeared to be from the outside skin layer all the way down through to the uterus. It is believed that it was missed while I was in hospital (though I remember comments like 'that is a bit weepy' while there, nothing was done). I was put on antibiotics. I'd gone from walking upright and feeling somewhat healed to feeling like I'd had the operation all over again at the worst.
The pain cleared up as I took the antibiotics, so as far as I knew the infection did too! I had no further obvious complications or anything.
So I come to now. 19 months off the pill, cycle back to 'normal' (which in itself took over 12 months - sometimes I was as much as 3 weeks late). But I'm not falling pregnant. For me this is such a new concept - both of my children were conceived so easily!! I had looked into secondary infertility so I know it is possible but I wonder what the hell is going on! Is that strange to be feeling a bit let down?
We never expected we'd fall immediately with any pregnancy and accepted that twice didn't mean it would happen now but I guess I just wonder why I suddenly feel so infertile. I'm not at all concerned about being off the pill. We don't have a lot of 'attempts' but part of me says well we 'attempted' (if you get my drift) one time in each month that our kids were conceived! One is all it takes! Our attempts have occured when they 'should' occur.
Anyway DH is as clucky as hell, so am I and my best friend wants me to have a baby (lol) - none of them are putting pressure on me but I still feel frustrated - when my friend says she wants me to have a baby I think well so do I! But have no explanation for why I haven't fallen pregnant, and so I just say no way. My 5yo desparately wants me to have a baby - this is something she'd discussed since she was 1 or 2! Always asking me for another baby. She's even picked names (Chloe or James, apparently lol before that it was Barbie and DH Junior). She has spent the weekend asking how babies are made - and this is a no nonsense kid, she wants the real information (and accepts it without a problem) and then wants to know why we can't go do that to give her a baby brother or sister. How do I explain that I am trying??
Anyway sorry for the long post. What I wanted to know mainly was the process - what happened with going to a doctor? What happened from the time you decided to look into it? Anyone with secondary infertility issues, what happened for you? The process scares me as much as anything else does - what will they do, what will they find and so on. I'd really appreciate someone walking me through the steps they took when they had trouble.
Thanks if you read this far.
Need a few anxieties dealt with, hence the post! I'll post my history so you know where I come from.
I have two children already, both of whom were conceived in 1 month of trying (as in, the first month possible). My first, unplanned, I'd never been on the pill or anything before. The second, I'd been on the pill for about 12 months when I stopped and conceived her. She's 5 now. I've been off the pill for 19 months, after most of the 3 1/2 years before that on it (going off periodically for a few months, then back on).
Both children were born via c-section. The first was emergency after 8 hours of induced labour due to foetal heartrate drop to 28bpm. On doing surgery they found he was engaged wrong and that my pelvis wasn't 'opening' - the bones are too thick to allow the movement required, so no babies head was going to fit.
As a result DD was an elective c-section based on the above findings as well as the possibility she was failure to thrive and may not cope well with stress of birth and any labour complications. She surprised everyone (perfectly normal, healthy baby, just small - still is).
Anyway after that operation I developed a bad infection. My doctor at the time said it appeared to be from the outside skin layer all the way down through to the uterus. It is believed that it was missed while I was in hospital (though I remember comments like 'that is a bit weepy' while there, nothing was done). I was put on antibiotics. I'd gone from walking upright and feeling somewhat healed to feeling like I'd had the operation all over again at the worst.
The pain cleared up as I took the antibiotics, so as far as I knew the infection did too! I had no further obvious complications or anything.
So I come to now. 19 months off the pill, cycle back to 'normal' (which in itself took over 12 months - sometimes I was as much as 3 weeks late). But I'm not falling pregnant. For me this is such a new concept - both of my children were conceived so easily!! I had looked into secondary infertility so I know it is possible but I wonder what the hell is going on! Is that strange to be feeling a bit let down?
We never expected we'd fall immediately with any pregnancy and accepted that twice didn't mean it would happen now but I guess I just wonder why I suddenly feel so infertile. I'm not at all concerned about being off the pill. We don't have a lot of 'attempts' but part of me says well we 'attempted' (if you get my drift) one time in each month that our kids were conceived! One is all it takes! Our attempts have occured when they 'should' occur.
Anyway DH is as clucky as hell, so am I and my best friend wants me to have a baby (lol) - none of them are putting pressure on me but I still feel frustrated - when my friend says she wants me to have a baby I think well so do I! But have no explanation for why I haven't fallen pregnant, and so I just say no way. My 5yo desparately wants me to have a baby - this is something she'd discussed since she was 1 or 2! Always asking me for another baby. She's even picked names (Chloe or James, apparently lol before that it was Barbie and DH Junior). She has spent the weekend asking how babies are made - and this is a no nonsense kid, she wants the real information (and accepts it without a problem) and then wants to know why we can't go do that to give her a baby brother or sister. How do I explain that I am trying??
Anyway sorry for the long post. What I wanted to know mainly was the process - what happened with going to a doctor? What happened from the time you decided to look into it? Anyone with secondary infertility issues, what happened for you? The process scares me as much as anything else does - what will they do, what will they find and so on. I'd really appreciate someone walking me through the steps they took when they had trouble.
Thanks if you read this far.