TTC - Please Off Your Suggestions

[greenapple]

My partner and I have been having unprotected you know whatties for almost 3 years now. During that time I have not been on any birth control nor have we ever attempted any birth control methods. We have been hoping to fall pregnant but nothing yet due to cysts on my ovaries.

Now I am having a bigger urge then ever to breed :laughing: and I am prepared to go down the next step of getting medical attention as to why it hasn't happened and get the correct medication / procedures so we can have our first ... As mentioned I know I have cysts on my ovaries so most likely need to find out if I am ovulating and take the correct medication to fix this

We my partner has been wanting to have a child together and has willingly been participating in the last almost 3 years of unprotected xox and has days where he will say 'gosh I wish we had a kid already' and others where he will ignore the topic all together.

We have spoken about this, several times we have planned to go to the Dr. and get this sorted but everytime this comes around something comes up and we end up forgetting about it or having to do something else. I want to persist but I am begining to sound like a nagging wife ... :ecomcity:

Is this normal? He often says we can go but I don't want the Dr. looking at my bits (oh gee great, I can get poked, jabbed but they can't look at your bits :rolleyes:) but I brush it off and say 'babe I am the one with the condition I will be looked at first and until I am ovulating every month they wont be going near you' to try to build his confidence.

One day he is like lets do it others he is like lets wait the next he is ignoring it all together. I don't know what to think and it is screwing with my head. I don't want to keep bringing it up because I start to sounds like a whinging nagging partner.

I know most of the times he needs that little extra push with things he is not confident with such as general things and trying new stuff, he is not one to try to hard in fear of failure. Should I just persist, do what I need to do to get us the BFP or should I wait for him to become ready ... (I am begining to worry that will be never as he keeps putting this off so much)

We are both under 30 but I never have thought of myself as being an older mum. I want a young family.

I am at my tethers with this, it is the most frustrating thing ever :hair:

[greenapple]

And to add to the above, I for the last however many years we have been together (lost count) have given my full attention to him. I am begining to think he is worried that I will take that attention away from him and give it to the new member of the family... How can I now (without being UTD) proove he will always be my number 1 ??

Kinda cute. having him around is like having a very big baby ... and I love it!!

[KerriO]

It sounds like you may need to go to the doctor by yourself, just to start with and then if it is not you that has the problem then you work on getting him to the doctor.
Men are just big babies when it comes to going to the doctor.
It sounds like he does want to be a daddy he just doesn't like the doctor.
Goodluck, and make an appointment today!

[PreggySiren]

Hiya greenapple :wave:

If I was in your situation, :iagree: I would also make an appointment to see the GP on my own. Then I'd come home and say to my partner "Gee, I really wish I had you for support when I'm at the doctors. This is all really confronting..." Which it would be for me, so I wouldn't be telling fibs... plus, boys often take on a role of "protector" so this might get him into gear to come along. Also, by saying it's confronting, he'll know that he's not the only one intimidated by the doctor.

If this didn't work really quickly, I personally would probably chuck a bit of a tanty :laughing: But I don't recommend that part!

Best of luck to you :)

[ringneck]

Tell him the dr wont look at his bits lol if anything all they will ask is for a SA which he can do at home, you can get the container he does his deed you take it back he doesn't need to go near the dr if he doesn't want to but maybe tell him this but say that you would really like him there for support as you feel like it is you that has the problem and you're going to need him to hold your hand when and if you get bad news.