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[ConfusedAndLonely]

I found out a few weeks ago I was pregnant and told my bf of 18 months who totally flipped out. I was told in no uncertain words to abort the baby or get the hell out of his life. I dont even know how far along I am til monday when they do a dating scan. I dont know if I am going to keep the baby or not. Our relationship has fallen apart. He's gone and brought a house without me. He told me he would rather do 25 years in jail thne have a baby. Told me I wont get anything outta him. Threaten to '**** me up' if I keep the baby. I don't know what to do anymore. Walking away isnt that easy as I have stuff all money. Help. Should I just give him what he wants in the hope I can save my relationship. THe thought of being a single mum and loosig him scares me to much but I don't believe in abortion.

[CaitlinArai22]

oh sweetie, thats not a relationship. thats a situation to get yourself away from, whether you have the baby or not! A man who had any love or kindness in his heart, would not threaten you like that. A real man would understand that he had to take care of his responcibilities, be accountable.

Money or no, get yourself out before its too late. there are womans services and refuges. its not easy to pack up and run, but sometimes its the best thing you'll ever ever do. If you feel you're really in danger, contact the police. "i'll **** you up if you have this baby" is a very serious threat darl, thats 2 lives he's threatening.

He doesnt love you, or he wouldnt be saying these things. He wouldnt be doing major things like buying a house without you. He is not the man for you, he is not a reason to stay, i would be afraid of what he's turned you into in 5 years, not of losing him.

Think of the bub as a seperate issue tho. you need to do whats right for You.

[Just Add Water]

oh sweetie, thats not a relationship. thats a situation to get yourself away from, whether you have the baby or not! A man who had any love or kindness in his heart, would not threaten you like that. A real man would understand that he had to take care of his responcibilities, be accountable.

Money or no, get yourself out before its too late. there are womans services and refuges. its not easy to pack up and run, but sometimes its the best thing you'll ever ever do. If you feel you're really in danger, contact the police. "i'll **** you up if you have this baby" is a very serious threat darl, thats 2 lives he's threatening.

He doesnt love you, or he wouldnt be saying these things. He wouldnt be doing major things like buying a house without you. He is not the man for you, he is not a reason to stay, i would be afraid of what he's turned you into in 5 years, not of losing him.

Think of the bub as a seperate issue tho. you need to do whats right for You.
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:hugs:for you. You've put your hand up for help, now keep it up and keep asking. There are a lot of stories around here of people who have been in a similar situation, perhaps trying sending them a pm. I haven't been, but am around.