Aarggh - she's driving me nuts!

[2littleprincesses]

My little girls is 2y8m - And REFUSES to go to the toilet. She knows everything about going. lid up, pants down, sit down, stand up, wipe, pants on, shirt down, close lid, flush. She pretends on her chair etc etc

BUT SHE WON'T GO!

It's driving me totally batty.

Can anyone please give me any good news - any advice? The way she's going I'll have to go to her school at recess and lunch time to change her nappy. grrrr.

Sorry, but I'm really cranky right now after another failed attempt

[tyhleigha & izaiah's mum]

my daughter use to be like that so i decided to put some strawberry shortcake stickers on the toilet wall and from that day on she has gone :thumbsup: . maybe try that i dont know all kids are different. good luck :fingerscrossed:

[2littleprincesses]

I've tried tigger and hi5 posters on the walls.

I've tried bribing her with everything imaginable!

I swear this kid is just trying to send me to the cuckoo's nest!

I honestly don't know what's stopping her from going. She even tells me that she likes wearing a wet nappy, likes when I'm cranky. She's just a little smartypants (I mean that affectionately) who has an answer for everything!

[tyhleigha & izaiah's mum]

im sorry i couldnt help you
best of luck:fingerscrossed:

[FourAngelKisses]

If it were me, I'd put her back in nappies for a couple of months, she probably isn't quite ready yet. My kids were 3yrs 3mths and 3yrs 1mth when they were trained, they really weren't interested before then. Matthew will be 2 next week and I don't think he will be ready to go before the age of 3 either, he seems to enjoy sitting in wet and dirty nappies. :rolleyes:

Maybe take her undies shopping though and have her pick out ones she likes.

[2littleprincesses]

She has 10 pairs of undies. But she prefers to put them on her arm and sing "samba samba carnivale ola ola wave your hands" like Kellie in H5.

I actually bought DD2 a few pairs yesterday, for her first birthday.

When I put her undies on her she says "i like the undies, nice and soft", and she seems to really cooperate until she needs to wee.

Other problem is, her grandmothers are on my back about getting her toilet trained. My mum actually said to me this morning "give her to me for a week". Might take her up on that offer.

[FourAngelKisses]

Good luck with it, it can be a frustrating time. I actually ahd to force Jacob to be toilet trained. He had outgrown cloth and disposables by the time he was 3, but at 3 and 3mths he still wasn't trained. I sat him on the potty and told him he wasn't moving until he had peed. After 30mins he went............and filled it right to the top. :smiliedance: My mum was on my back since he was about 16mths about how he should be dine by now :ecomcity: :ecomcity:

[Chickadee]

I'd also put the potty away for a while, or take your mum up on her offer.

My dd is coming up to 2y6m and while she'll sit on the potty she doesn't actually do anything there. She likes to sit and read :laughing: Very occassionally she'll do a wee, and usually only if I happen to get her on there when her bladder is full. Try first thing in the morning and right after a nap. But I'm not stressed over TT (yet). I ask her if she wants to use her potty and if she says no then that's fine. When she starts approaching 3 I might start pushing it more but I'm trying to wait till she's really ready.

[Reidymac]

You have a friend in toilet training torture 101. My little girl is also 2y8m, understands the how and why of toileting - after months of preparation, planning and pretending -yet adamantly refused ‘to go’. Monday was our turning point. I’ll be first to admit a measly 3 days of successful toilet training does not make me an expert but I can share how we finally got to this point. :o

The Easter bunny (EB) delivered DD a basket of toilet training goodies. As they are from the EB it’s taken the pressure off me being the only instigator and DD considers him to be a higher authority who should be obeyed. Maybe Tigger or Hi 5 could be your higher authority and basket sender. The basket was full of toweling training pants, a chart and smiley face stickers to map progress, a stamp, some sugar free lollies, a series of surprise packages to be opened at certain milestones, underpants and a back up pack of pull-ups (very exciting).

On Monday we went cold turkey – no more nappies and staying house bound until DD gets the hang of using her toilet (harder on me I think). On Monday morning she dressed in the training pants with no trousers over them (out of the ordinary enough to be a constant visual reminder). I explained that the EB said to start on this day, that he would be waiting to hear from us, how the chart worked and that underpants do not catch the wee/ poo like nappies, if she didn’t use the toilet she would get wet and so would the floor. She didn’t like the idea of that at all!

She went!! and wanted to keep going every 20 min for the rest of the day. For each successful toilet use she puts a sticker on her chart, we write the number over it and stars hearts etc, we sing and dance around and give 3 cheers. For every 10th she gets stamps on her hand, a little packet of dinosaur lollies, 50c in her money box and that much closer to a surprise package (little coloured pencils and cheap stuff). We also rang the Easter bunny who lavished her with praise and asked for regular updates (daddy does excellent impersonations). The one time she tested my theory about getting wet she was appalled and embarrassed enough not to want that happening again (hopefully her stubborness will work in our favour on this front). I just gave her reassurance it was OK and cleaned up without fuss. I ask if she needs 'to go' every 30 min, but she also tells me when.

We are still going very regularly which I’m finding hard with my bf 5 month old, but I’m determined to drop everything and go when she needs to. Today we tried the pull ups but she realized they were more like a nappy and felt comfortable wetting them almost straight away without fear of 'getting' wet… so back to the training pants (they have some foam lining that minimizes the mess but allows for the shock of getting wet).

It’s only 3 days, but a huge step forward for a little girl who absolutely refused ‘to go’ before. You have my sympathy and best wishes, hope you have some success with your little princess soon.

[FourAngelKisses]

What a great idea!!!! I hope it keeps working for you.

[2littleprincesses]

Wow, thanks for the great ideas there. Congratulations!

I phoned parentline on Friday as I was really frustrated (you may have guessed) And the woman there told me that she probably wouldn't be ready until next summer (easier to run around w pants off etc), I almost had a heart attack!

But - I will have a good think about who can deliver a basket full of TT presents, and build up a nice supply. Maybe Tim from Hi5 can, or maybe Jeff (her imaginary friend, because he wees on the potty)

Thank you again,

[2littleprincesses]

Well, today I've decided to try again - so far she's been really good - she's wearing undies and trackies and tells me that she will go on the toilet when she needs to wee. yeah yeah, call me a cynic but I don't really believe her - she knows to say what I want to hear. She has gone for a nap now with her undies on.

Oh well, let's see how it goes. I'm feeling kinda relaxed today as I did some cleaning this morning and don't really have anything else that I NEED to do today.