View Full Version : Bub with you in recovery?
bekkyboo
19-05-2006, 11:02
Ive been booked in for a c-section due to my heart still not being settled, and i was wondering what happens with bub while your in recovery after the op..?
Some midwives have told me that they will quickly show me bub, then do his checks and then give me a quick hold before im shipped off to recovery. Others have said that ill be able to hold bub through out recovery.
What am i able to demand? I want skin to skin contact as much as possible, i want to be able to breastfeed ASAP, and i want him in with me during recovery.
All these things can be listed in a birthing plan, but will they jsut be ignored?
Well it all depends on your hospy..mine they showed me I kissed her and then they took her off with DP to weigh her etc..then he came back with her..but I had a huge haemorrage and was vomitting during my caeser (sorry if I am scaring you) so he was taken out with her and then I went to recovery on my own..he ended up coming to recovery with her (against midwifes wishes) so I could feed her and meet her properly.
Hospitals have lots of policies something to ask about!
Hokey Pokey
19-05-2006, 11:16
I'm not too sure as I was put to sleep sorry!
But I know many women who got to hold their babies for a few minutes!!
I kissed bubs and then he was checked... and then my parents and DH got cuddles before I came out of recovery..
it is nice that you want all that contact hon... but honestly?? after my c- section I was completely exhausted (I did have labour first though... so that may make a difference) - I was in no mood to hug or feed bubs... instead... I slept :D
- Jack got lots of cuddles and stuff though (dh and family) - and he was happy until I got back to my room ( I think 45 minutes was my recovery??)
then I got lots of cuddles :D
xxx
My first c/section I was able to hold my DSwhile they sewed me up, and held him in recovery (while DH took off and emailed photos to all of our friends and family).
I'd assumed that this was the go with everyone, but after reading some of the stories on here, I'm checking with my dr on Tuesday if the same thing goes in this hospital if I have another c/section (different state and different doctor). I'm pretty sure you just have to check with your doctor.
jazajess
19-05-2006, 11:22
well i seen hayden 4 around 2 min and then df and hayden had to leave and it was about 1 hour and a half after that i got 2 see them again...
Chickadee
19-05-2006, 11:34
When DD was pulled out she was immediately taken to a bassinette in the operating room - she pooed as she was being born and had to be cleaned up. She had all her measurements etc, DH went over and cut the cord and then she was brought to me (wrapped up) as I was being stitched. I held her throughout the stitching. She came into recovery with me but was in a bassinette under lights (still pooing, lol). I have a few blank spots in my memory but apparently I held her as I was wheeled upstairs to my room and wouldn't let her go. And that surprises me as I didn't think they'd let me carry her while my bed was being wheeled around?
You're not going to get what you want unless you ask and demand it. Unless there is a good medical reason I don't see why you can't hold bub in the surgery and attempt your first bf either there or in recovery.
My DH held DD in recovery and did skin to skin, I was too woosey, but breastfed her within 30 mins. They love skin to skin, if you can't do it, get your partner to and put it in your birth plan.
whitsundaysmumma
19-05-2006, 12:15
All mine were taken staight to NICU and I had general anaesthetics so that changed things.
All of my friends, with no complications, had a quick hold whilst they stitched, bubs were taken off for usual checks and then returned to the ward with their mammas and pappas about 1hour later. Will depend probably if you and bub are all ok.
How exciting for you.:smiliedance:
bekkyboo
19-05-2006, 12:40
C-section is planned, they are giving me a spinal block, not an epi - as they told me that would be a better option with a planned ceaser as they dont need top ups and dont have windows of pain.
Jen, as you know i wont be going through a labour, so it might be different.
I just feel as tho im going to get railroaded by the midwives into doing things i dont want. Ive been too much of a push over lately and im worried that i wont get what i want. Ill have to talk to DH and make a plan, i know that he will inforce it, he will breakdown doors if he has too.
Thanks for all the replies, i know that what i want isnt asking too much!
Try negotiating with the hospital first, check out their flexibility....
My c/sec in the UK was great, I was only separated from bubs for about 20 mins, during the stitching, but I'd given strict instructions to DH to have skin to skin contact during that time - it is something he remembers with great happiness.....I held bub until they took him, and then was handed him back once I was in recovery, and then he never left me after that... (I even co-slept with him in the hospital).
My c/sec in Hornsby NSW was a nightmare - they were very cold-hearted, and wouldnt let me hold him for about 3 hours. I kissed him briefly for about 10 mins in the theatre before they took him away, and then spent my time alone in recovery with the nurse - it was very difficult emotionally. The only consolation is that, again, I'd given my DH strict instructions about having that intimate contact, and again, he remembers that time with our bubs extremely fondly. I kept holding onto that image of DH bonding with our baby, and that is what kept me from totally going bonkers in that recovery room.
So, definately do your research......maybe if you have a doula they might be able to negotiate on your behalf. My private midwife will be the super negotiater for me if (G-d forbid) a c/sec becomes necessary. Just last week she negotiated a beautifully empowered c/sec for a dear friend of mine who had been trying for a HBAC, which was in stark contrast to her first c/sec where they tied her arms down!.
SilverStarfish
20-05-2006, 20:23
I had a non-emergency c-section with my DD at the Mater in Brisbane. I gave her a kiss seconds after she was born, and then she went over to the table with DH to be weighed and measured. DH stayed with her while I was stitched up, then DH got to wheel her in the little plastic tub thingy and we all met up in recovery a few minutes later. I got to hold her and breastfeed her there for about an hour (DD was a little cold, so we had one of those heat thingys over us)
When it was time to go to the ward, DD was put back in the tub and DH wheeled her over.
I was really happy with how it all went. A really positive experience :thumbsup:
kadownie
20-05-2006, 21:18
You definately need to have a birth plan- and talk to someone at the hospital before your section. Are you public or private? If you are private your ob will be at the birth. At your next appointment show him your birth plan- get him to sign it. It is a legal document- they need to abide by it if they can.
It is a bit tricky if you are public as you don't really know who's going to be performing your ceaser- where are you having bubby?
When I had my c-section (emergency) they took bubs away, wrapped them up. I think they brought my boy back in- but I couldn't hold him (sounds awful but I didn't really want to- I was way out of it afet labour and pushing- but he had cuddles with his dad- which was special.) I'm not sure where my little girl went- but when I went into recovery (about 30 mins later) she was with mum.
If you want skin to skin- you need to demand it! I think part of the worry is the operating room is cold- too cold for bubs- but placing bub on you and covering bub with a rug would do the job IMO. Also if bub has any complications then of course they need to be attended to!
If you want any help writing your birth plan- just PM me- I'd be more than happy to help!
;)
bekkyboo
22-05-2006, 16:03
im a public patient, at logan hospital. If i go through to my booked date, my ob that has been assigned to me at the start of my pregnancy will be preforming it, otherwise its who ever is there kinda thing.
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