diamonds22
19-05-2006, 10:19
I need to vent about my sister..its cool if know one reads/replies..I just have to get it off my chest...even though its really trivial!
My mum is throwing a surprise party for my dad this weekend...and anyway my sis is sorta organising it (she loves to try and score brownie points cos she’s like the 'black sheep' of the family..but for some weird reason she feels that she need there approval on everything!!) its pathetic...(shes 28 i've just turned 22) anyway...when I seen her last she said "Oh you need to put in for the cake>>>and I said well how much is the cake...she said it was $120 and she wants me to put in $60.00! (that’s just for the cake...no pressies or beer yet)
I told her girlfriend (cos shes the one that mentioned it to me) that I wasn’t happy with the amount...its far to much for a cake! (its not even for a big occasion!) I asked her "what’s wrong with a Cheese Cake shop cake for around $30??" she said "No were getting this one".. I told my mum that I wasn’t happy about it (my hubby and i are far from poor...but were really trying to change our spending habits and have a strict budget..we have just brought our 2nd house (on our own) and we having our first bubba and we havent even finished buying all her stuff at the moment!! Claudia comes first!!)...so we are a lil tight at the moment...well we don't want to go into our savings when it can be avoided by making sensible decisions...to me 60.00 on cake isn’t sensible, rembering it's not 60flat...it will be over 100 after we get a pressie and bring food and beer!..that just silly to us now we have our priorities straight! Oh god I must seem like a total scab!!:o If it was for a big event I wouldn’t mind so much...but this is just an ordinary surprise party!
Okay next thing... lol mum asked me to get to cartons of crownies (everyone presumes were rich cos we have 2 houses...but were not..we manage and have to manage smartly) anyway I told her that cos we just settled on the second house..were a bit tight...can you get someone else to buy it??? she said it was fine that she would get my sis to do it cos anyway her g/f probs gets a discount...so that was good as it took the stress off me and hubby....but surprise...my sister said "yes" to mum then comes running to me behind her back ands asks me to get it and to drop it off at her place!!!!!(obviously dosant know mum asked me first but i declined..so she wants us to buy it and her take the glory..i dont think so!!) (actually she got her girlfriend to ask me cos she thought I wouldn’t say no to her!) (i don't want to tell her we are tight at the moment..its none of her business) I said we don’t get a discount and said no...she got ****ty and kinda hung up.
I dunno i think i'm being really stupid about it...but its just burning a whole in my pocket..and they are making me feel obliged to keep spending our money (just so they can impress dad and get in his good books...there was another drama a few weeks ago..so they are feeling bad)...I just want to just bring a plate of food and a lil pressie for my dad and our own drinks (obviously i wont be drinking cos i'm preggy..but they still expect me to pay!:eek: ) i REALLY dont think that is unreasonable!!
okay last thing..we have a boys name picked out (just in case...and if we don’t use it for this one it will be for the next one) and anyway its similar to my Dads name...(dad is John...and we want to call a boy if we have one Johnny Robert(i heard the name johnny from the O.C and love it)...when I told my sister the name all she said was "ooooooh Johnny....and I could hear her repeating it so she could look at her partner...and probably roll there eyes" then that’s it ! she didn’t say oh that’s nice or anything!!!:banghead: she just thinks were doing it to impress dad and to be honest it really didnt have anything to do with him! (but now were going to say it to annoy them)
She just pi$$es me off...everything has to be a drama..shes in constant competition with me cos she feels she has something to prove to mum and dad (she gays and eveyone is against her of course!!:rolleyes: oh and its my fault i'm in a 'normal' relationship (her words not mine) and that I’m mum and dads fav cos i'm the first to have a baby and my hubby and I are long term recognised defacto (we would have been married way before the lil baby even existed like 2 years ago..but when we started planning our wedding...they quickly had one in the month we wanted ours!! so it tainted it for us....so we just got on with our lifes..buying the houses ect and will have a wedding when we can afford a nice one..but its still annoys me cos she did it deliberately and I wanted to be traditionally married before we had kids..but its no big deal that were doing it back to front now..we are going to be betta off...at least we dont have stacks of loans/credit cards like them!)
i dunno the more I think about her the more she annoys me...we are SOOO so different (oh and god knows where there soundly come up with all this money...they are on the dole!! mum secretly gives them money behind dads back!! but they are hardly in a positon to go wasting money like that when I can see there kid needs new stuff!!)
Sorry all!!!! i feel beta getting it out there now!lol i should by a diary so i don't have to bother everyone!!
My mum is throwing a surprise party for my dad this weekend...and anyway my sis is sorta organising it (she loves to try and score brownie points cos she’s like the 'black sheep' of the family..but for some weird reason she feels that she need there approval on everything!!) its pathetic...(shes 28 i've just turned 22) anyway...when I seen her last she said "Oh you need to put in for the cake>>>and I said well how much is the cake...she said it was $120 and she wants me to put in $60.00! (that’s just for the cake...no pressies or beer yet)
I told her girlfriend (cos shes the one that mentioned it to me) that I wasn’t happy with the amount...its far to much for a cake! (its not even for a big occasion!) I asked her "what’s wrong with a Cheese Cake shop cake for around $30??" she said "No were getting this one".. I told my mum that I wasn’t happy about it (my hubby and i are far from poor...but were really trying to change our spending habits and have a strict budget..we have just brought our 2nd house (on our own) and we having our first bubba and we havent even finished buying all her stuff at the moment!! Claudia comes first!!)...so we are a lil tight at the moment...well we don't want to go into our savings when it can be avoided by making sensible decisions...to me 60.00 on cake isn’t sensible, rembering it's not 60flat...it will be over 100 after we get a pressie and bring food and beer!..that just silly to us now we have our priorities straight! Oh god I must seem like a total scab!!:o If it was for a big event I wouldn’t mind so much...but this is just an ordinary surprise party!
Okay next thing... lol mum asked me to get to cartons of crownies (everyone presumes were rich cos we have 2 houses...but were not..we manage and have to manage smartly) anyway I told her that cos we just settled on the second house..were a bit tight...can you get someone else to buy it??? she said it was fine that she would get my sis to do it cos anyway her g/f probs gets a discount...so that was good as it took the stress off me and hubby....but surprise...my sister said "yes" to mum then comes running to me behind her back ands asks me to get it and to drop it off at her place!!!!!(obviously dosant know mum asked me first but i declined..so she wants us to buy it and her take the glory..i dont think so!!) (actually she got her girlfriend to ask me cos she thought I wouldn’t say no to her!) (i don't want to tell her we are tight at the moment..its none of her business) I said we don’t get a discount and said no...she got ****ty and kinda hung up.
I dunno i think i'm being really stupid about it...but its just burning a whole in my pocket..and they are making me feel obliged to keep spending our money (just so they can impress dad and get in his good books...there was another drama a few weeks ago..so they are feeling bad)...I just want to just bring a plate of food and a lil pressie for my dad and our own drinks (obviously i wont be drinking cos i'm preggy..but they still expect me to pay!:eek: ) i REALLY dont think that is unreasonable!!
okay last thing..we have a boys name picked out (just in case...and if we don’t use it for this one it will be for the next one) and anyway its similar to my Dads name...(dad is John...and we want to call a boy if we have one Johnny Robert(i heard the name johnny from the O.C and love it)...when I told my sister the name all she said was "ooooooh Johnny....and I could hear her repeating it so she could look at her partner...and probably roll there eyes" then that’s it ! she didn’t say oh that’s nice or anything!!!:banghead: she just thinks were doing it to impress dad and to be honest it really didnt have anything to do with him! (but now were going to say it to annoy them)
She just pi$$es me off...everything has to be a drama..shes in constant competition with me cos she feels she has something to prove to mum and dad (she gays and eveyone is against her of course!!:rolleyes: oh and its my fault i'm in a 'normal' relationship (her words not mine) and that I’m mum and dads fav cos i'm the first to have a baby and my hubby and I are long term recognised defacto (we would have been married way before the lil baby even existed like 2 years ago..but when we started planning our wedding...they quickly had one in the month we wanted ours!! so it tainted it for us....so we just got on with our lifes..buying the houses ect and will have a wedding when we can afford a nice one..but its still annoys me cos she did it deliberately and I wanted to be traditionally married before we had kids..but its no big deal that were doing it back to front now..we are going to be betta off...at least we dont have stacks of loans/credit cards like them!)
i dunno the more I think about her the more she annoys me...we are SOOO so different (oh and god knows where there soundly come up with all this money...they are on the dole!! mum secretly gives them money behind dads back!! but they are hardly in a positon to go wasting money like that when I can see there kid needs new stuff!!)
Sorry all!!!! i feel beta getting it out there now!lol i should by a diary so i don't have to bother everyone!!