Try for a girl? - baby no 4

[WDT]

Hi all I have 3 boys and am considering going again! Up until my third son was born I was oblivious to the idea of wanting one sex or the other. I thought you would just be ecstatic with a healthy baby. I truly did not expect to care, even thought it would be much easier having them all the same. I was really shocked to come home and find I was actually sad about having a third boy. I think it was more sadness about never having a girl as we had planned on three kids. Anyway he is now six mths old and I am thinking (every day ) about the possiblity of trying again. I really want to be sure I want a fourth child as I do not want to be upset over the (at least 50%) liklihood that it is another boy. I think I am now cool with the idea of giving it a go and if it is a girl then that would be very exciting but if it is a boy then that will lovely too. But then I worry that I am kidding myself:confused: Hubby says he is happy to go again if I am sure I want a fourth baby, not just that I want a girl. He was delighted with a healthy boy and was quite distressed that I got tearful about it. Anyone else been in this situation? Any advice would be great as I am going mad weighing up the pro's and cons every day!

[Hokey Pokey]

Hi WDT
We would love a little boy next year....
Anyways from what I have gathered to get a girl you need to have sex few days before ovulation, as the closer to ovulation the more chance of having a boy!

[Mamaduke]

I always thought that it didn't matter what sex the baby was as long as it was healthy, but when I found out I was pregnant for the second time, I was really excited about having a little girl. I went out and bought some girl clothes in anticipation of my little 'mini me'. I knew that there was a 50/50 chance that this baby I was carrying could be a boy but I didn't realise at the time how hearing those words at the ultrasound "It's a little boy" would affect me. We were also told at an appointment with the ob that the placenta was covering the uterus at the time of the ultrasound but to be honest I couldn't have cared less...it wasn't a girl and I was devastated. Before I knew it I had spiralled into ante-natal depression and found it virtually impossible to even get out of bed in the mornings, let alone shower and care for Jesse. I've always been a very 'normal' person, never letting things get to me and always seeing the positive in situations so I knew that something was definately wrong. I had thoughts of throwing myself down stairs or just getting in the car and driving away - so engulfing was this disease which, if you had of asked my opinion on depression a year before, it would have been "there's no such thing as depression, it's just the Western world's cop-out for things not going our way"...my how things changed. I spoke to my ob about my feelings and was immediately referred to a psych who specialises in AND and PND, and with the help of the medication I got better.
After seeing Lukey I immediately fell in love with him and although he does test my patience (as any child going on 2 does) I couldn't imagine life without him.
DH & I were sure that we would have another baby after Lucas, and like you, it is in my mind that I would love to have a girl (I've even looked into different ways to 'ensure' one sex) and I know that I would be kidding myself too that I would be just as happy with another boy, but we're now thinking that 2 healthy boys might be enough for us...and so what if I don't get to plan a wedding...it's not a guarantee even if I did have a girl!
But then again you never know...:p

*By the way, if you want my adobe file on 'choosing the sex of your baby' just pm me your email addy and I'd be more than happy to send it to you!

[shelbelbabe]

Anyways from what I have gathered to get a girl you need to have sex few days before ovulation, as the closer to ovulation the more chance of having a boy!
thats true. the reason being that girl spermies swim slower, but live longer, boy spermies swim faster but die quicker. Therefore, the girlies will hang around long enough for the egg to come down.
I also heard that your diet can play a part. Apparently, if you have more dairy before and during conception more chances for a boy. Savoury, spicy food for a girl. Reason being (TMI alert) it changes the acidity of cm, makes it more hospitable for either spermy. I would research this more if I were you, I only heard this, have never researched iit for myself, though I probably should!!

best of luck sweetie :fingerscrossed:

[shelbelbabe]

Quote mamaduke
By the way, if you want my adobe file on 'choosing the sex of your baby' just pm me your email addy and I'd be more than happy to send it to you!
can you send it to me too please?

[Mamaduke]

Quote mamaduke
can you send it to me too please?
Sure can...you just need to pm me your email address.

[shelbelbabe]

:eek: whoops, sorry, its the other way around (the diet thing)
from http://sheknows.com/about/look/3545.htm


As related to what one eats, the consensus today is if there is any dietary influence, it is limited. Previous studies have shown a mother-to-be's diet high in potassium and sodium including vegetables, bananas, fish and meat may favor the conception of a baby boy.

A diet high in calcium and magnesium including milk, beans, cereals, cheese and nuts may favor a baby girl. Because of the minimal influence, if any, on the outcome of the sex of the baby, the best advice is to eat a healthy diet during the time you are trying to get pregnant and then all through pregnancy.


sorry

[melbryan]

I had the same feeling as a fellow bubhubber on this thread.
I grew up thinking I would have the perfect family of four, one girl and one boy. I have a son who is two in one month and was looking forward to a girl just like me. A quiet sit with mummy and do craft type. I had the son just like his father and had a mighty hard time with him. He is very trying and whenever I see a little girl they are just so different to boys I would love to experience this.
I think that boys grow up and move on with their lives move away with their girlfriends and they don't have much to do with their mum's anymore which kind of makes me sad. My husband is from 3 boys and they are all like this. As a daugher I am very close with my mum and rely on only her. I think I would miss out on this if I didn't try for a girl.
I am now really looking forward to seeing my new second baby boy but I was devastated when I found out and cried all night and the next morning.
I have talked to my partner about another baby but he says it'll be a boy and I say no it'll be a girl. If it's another boy well so be it, he will be someone special and we will nurture him so he grows into a wonderful human being. That is to be our challenge in life.
I felt sad for a second until I realised what a miracle was happening inside of me. I wonder how I will feel with the third. No more for me after that though. I have already said three is enough.

[Terrible2+1cutie]

I am currently TTC #3, i have 2 boys already and would dearly love a girl, i share this same concern though, would i be dissappointed if i have another boy? I think i would be at first but would love him just the same. I have been reading up on all these ways to get a girl and my DP keeps saying dont be silly none of these things will work so he isn't willing to give anything a go. I have heard that to have a girl you have to have sex lots and lots and lots where as to have a boy you only have sex just before ovulation.

Catherine

Mum to Blaze and Bailey

[CJJHRA]

When I was preg with bubby number 6, DH wasnt sure if he could love yet another boy, and honestly, to some point I found I was the same.

I was a little sad after every boy I had, but after the first cuddle and that, of course couldnt be happier. When I was preg with the twins, after having 3 boys already, I just knew they would both be boys, DH said, oh come on one has to be a girl, and at the u/s when they said, boy, boy, DH's heart sank, I just laughed. Took him a few weeks to deal with it, so thankfuly we found out before hand.

So for us, having a little girl was a very big suprise, we never tryied anything different (actually we decided 5 was enough, but DD snuck in there)

Just hope you dont get twin boys :eek: Like I did

[WDT]

Hi all thanks for your views. Yes lots of wives tales and possibilities out there - all with oh a 50/50 chance of working I guess! Allannah's mum I was interested to hear what your opinion was. My MIL had twins in her fourth pregnancy so that may be a risk :eek: Will let you know whether we go for it - I think :confused: am coming to the conclusion that what the heck I love all my kids and the more the merrier in the long run!

[shelbelbabe]

It's so interesting to hear all this. Everyone always says 'oh it doesnt matter what gender the bub is,' But I have to say I want a son. thats not to say i would love a girl less... but i want a son. I would be happy with one kid, maybe 2. I know that if my 1st was a girl i would try again, for sure.
Good luck everyone!!

[wa mum of 4]

Hi,
I had the same situation last year.
I had three boys and desperatly wanted a girl. Yippee I got one. I cant say if this will work for you but here it goes.
I am studying nursing and looked in to it, The male sperm cant live inside the female body for too long and they wear themselves out quickly (fast swimmers).
Its all down to timing, If you know when you ovulate have sex 2 to 3 days before.
The male sperm would have died off and if you are lucky enough a LITTLE GIRL!!
Hope this helps.
Sarah:fingerscrossed:

[shelbelbabe]

Isn't it interseting that boy spermies are faster but don't last as long, and girlies are strong and survove longer... just like we are in society...

[WDT]

A friend of mine reckons that that boy and girl sperm are just like their adult counterparts;

The males are all "way hay lads lets go for it", who can take this corner the fastest and zoom off without a second thought.

The female ones are waiting at the back checking everyone is holding hands, have been to the toilet , put on their sunscreen and hats and have packed a snack and a bottle of water, only then are they ready to start out on the journey. :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

[cwsmum]

Anyways from what I have gathered to get a girl you need to have sex few days before ovulation, as the closer to ovulation the more chance of having a boy!

This theory worked for us :D We were hoping for a girl and our DD is just over 6mths old now.

I didn't even bother telling DH what I was trying, he wouldn't believe that it could work anyway. I also didn't change anything in our diets, all the 'girl' foods were ones I don't like anyway...I think we were both eating mainly 'boy' foods...

Really, the only other thing that was different was that DS was concieved in the middle of winter and DD was concieved in the middle of summer...maybe that affected something?

Good luck with whatever you decide :)

[TwoBlue]

Its all down to timing, If you know when you ovulate have sex 2 to 3 days before.
The male sperm would have died off and if you are lucky enough a LITTLE GIRL!!


This didnt work for us...



Really, the only other thing that was different was that DS was concieved in the middle of winter and DD was concieved in the middle of summer...maybe that affected something?

I have heard heat is a thing... our second DS was conceived in summer also but it wasnt overly hot from memory.. i have hear a really hot bath pre sex helps conceive a girl.

good luck