15 monthd old Smacking

[iamLilysmummy]

my dd has started smacking other ppl..
me, nana, other kids..

its getting out of hand

how do i stop her??

i just hold her arms n say
"DONT its not nice to smack people"

:hair:

she has never been smacked.. so shes not getting it from me

[stace83qld]

hey, my son does it too..think its a phase they go thro, but when he does smack me, i just smack him back, he doesn't like it, but it stops him from doing it again in a hurry.

[Jakois]

hey, my son does it too..think its a phase they go thro, but when he does smack me, i just smack him back, he doesn't like it, but it stops him from doing it again in a hurry.



IamLilysmummy, wouldn't recommend smacking your child back:no:.
Some babies go through this stage. Just a firm no for a young child should be enough.
Dd was doing it a couple of weeks ago. No idea where she got it from either. We just looked her in the eyes, said NO and moved her away. She doesnt do it anymore.
Good Luck hun:).

[workin'mumof2]

iamLilysmummy - im not keen on smacking back either.. a firm no even works with my son. and he has asd. have you tried a distraction technique? i know when my sons teething bad is when he does this.

i hope its a very short faze for you:hugs:

[misskittyfantastico]

It's definately normal behaviour for a 15 month old - not much fun, but normal.

With DD, it got to the stage where a fair bit of the time I could see when she was getting close to lashing out and would try and distract her or change the situation BEFORE she hit or bit (she went through a biting stage as well). When she DID hit or bite, I would firmly tell her that we don't hit, we must be gentle and would stroke her gently on the arm...It's not a fun stage but hopefully it will pass soon.

[Tici]

I think a firm no does work and it's all in the tone of your voice - you have to mean it.

Then immediately after, hold her hand and show her how to touch you, nicely and gently.

You may have to do that 100 times before she gets it. But she will.

[jaq]

At that age they are learning about action/reaction ... their chief joy is watching how YOU react when they smack/bite/whatever. (My DD2loves poking you in the eyes. :devil:)

The way to stop this behaviour is to react as calmy as possible. Get too excited, and they LOVE it. They are LOOKING for a reaction.

Speak softly, almost as if you are bored. "Don't do that. It hurts." If she continues, remove her physically from you. Withdraw attention for a moment.

The flipside to this is to play lots of peekaboo/hiding/ action and reaction games. And when she does non-violent stuff - big hugs, peekaboo, etc, give her BIG reactions. Joy, laughing, etc.

She's learning about her place in the world. You need to help her learn the NICE way to get a reaction ...:goodvibes:

[misskittyfantastico]

At that age they are learning about action/reaction ... their chief joy is watching how YOU react when they smack/bite/whatever. (My DD2loves poking you in the eyes. :devil:)

The way to stop this behaviour is to react as calmy as possible. Get too excited, and they LOVE it. They are LOOKING for a reaction.

Speak softly, almost as if you are bored. "Don't do that. It hurts." If she continues, remove her physically from you. Withdraw attention for a moment.

The flipside to this is to play lots of peekaboo/hiding/ action and reaction games. And when she does non-violent stuff - big hugs, peekaboo, etc, give her BIG reactions. Joy, laughing, etc.

She's learning about her place in the world. You need to help her learn the NICE way to get a reaction ...:goodvibes:

Good advice:thumbsup:

[Freya]

DS does this, I just hold his hands and say that hurts me mummy, you need to be gentle and rub his hands on my face and give him a kiss. Then he will rub me saying 'Goontle' so that he gets more kisses.:)

[iamLilysmummy]

I think a firm no does work and it's all in the tone of your voice - you have to mean it.

Then immediately after, hold her hand and show her how to touch you, nicely and gently.

You may have to do that 100 times before she gets it. But she will.
lol i think thast the problem.. sometimes wen she smacks i just laUGH i cant help it.. wen today she slapped me in the face i just laughed so hard she kept smaking me.!! i find things funny even wen theyr not... haha

[FiveInTheBed]

I usually pout and do a bit of a sob, "ow, ow, that hurts mummy, *sniff, sniff* ...which usually results in a hug and kiss.

Then I say 'thanks for the cuddles, no more smacking now...' - and like jaq mentioned - divert their attention to something FUN!!!
Try not to focus on it for too long or punish them for it - they are learning, and sometimes thats a ball of frustration being released.



slightly off track - Ds1 shooed a fly off my back the other day and kinda slapped me as he was doing it, "oop, sorry mum there was a fly " he said...just as i was respnding to him I received an all mighty WALLOP right on my face/eye...I couldn't help but yell "OW" (so loud:o) - poor DD - she thought she was helping too - but I scared the Cr@p out of her - she sobbed for ages:(

[NibbleCurlynBub]

With mine I hold their hands and say 'awww' or make a sad sighing sound and then keep holding bubs hands and will stroke the spot where bub has hit and make a nicer noise and say 'nice, gentle' and smile.

Its all about tone. Make a sad noise at what has been done, then show bub a different way to interact which you like and make a nice noise at.

Bub will get it pretty quickly. :)
It will show bub what TO do instead of just forbidding one thing, you are offering a replacement idea.

[LilMissnBoo]

With mine I hold their hands and say 'awww' or make a sad sighing sound and then keep holding bubs hands and will stroke the spot where bub has hit and make a nicer noise and say 'nice, gentle' and smile.

Its all about tone. Make a sad noise at what has been done, then show bub a different way to interact which you like and make a nice noise at.

Bub will get it pretty quickly. :)
It will show bub what TO do instead of just forbidding one thing, you are offering a replacement idea.

:iagree: I do the same with my 14 month DD. It has been working really well.
Just have to work on DH :devil: now...He laughs when DD slaps me so she just keeps doing it!:rolleyes: