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Jem
17-05-2006, 14:35
Im really scared of what the future holds!

I know i have to take one day at a time.. and focus on now... but seperating, and doing it alone is so much to deal with... more-so because im codependant!

How did you ladies find the courage?
How did you stay strong and focused, and not weaken and continue staying in a bad relationship ?

There is light at the end of the tunnel... the first step of kicking him out will be the easiest... its the "keeping " him out.. and Not allowing him back in that i will find the toughest! :confused:
Grizabella
17-05-2006, 14:41
I'm not a single parent, but grew up in a single parent family. All I can say is that you are making the best move in regards to your childrens lives! My father was aggressive and abusive, and I thank God every day that my mother left him. She was a better role model to me by not staying in that situation and not letting me grow up to think that that kind of behaviour is acceptable.

It won't be easy, but it will definately be worth it in the end for yourself and your children! Just think of it as a new beginning for yourself, and a time for you to be treated with the dignity and respect that you rightfully deserve!

Good luck with your new life! And may you have many happy times to enjoy from now on!:hugs:
*Chels*
17-05-2006, 19:49
Good luck Jem:hugs:
All the best with it all,just remember that you are doing the RIGHT thing!!
You and the kiddies will be much better off:thumbsup:
Jem
17-05-2006, 19:51
Good luck Jem:hugs:
All the best with it all,just remember that you are doing the RIGHT thing!!
You and the kiddies will be much better off:thumbsup:

Thanks Chels :)
justtwogirls22
17-05-2006, 20:01
jem taking that first step is the hardest - i put off for so long cause i too didn't think id cope but now 4 months on im soooooooooo much more happier - dont get me wrong there are tough times but the fact im doing well just the two of us is great - good luck & pm me if you need to talk more :hugs:
TwoBlue
17-05-2006, 20:11
Jem you are sooooo doing the right thing for you and your children.

you are obviously an amazingly strong woman just to make the step to leave so i am guessing you'll be just fine as a single mummy :thumbsup:

i took the huge step to leave my DH (years ago now) and it was so hard and i didnt even have kids with him !
I was scared of being alone forever.
Obviously that didnt happen :D I met a wonderful man (now my DH) and now have two beautiful sons.

My thoughts are with you :hugs:
ButterflyKisses
18-05-2006, 17:21
:wave: Hi Jem, I'm not sure whether we've come across each other on here before but I just wanted to say I hope everything works out for you and your little ones.

I know it's going to be hard for you for a while but be strong and everything else will follow.

You are doing the right thing by yourself and your beautiful children and years down the track you will look back and wonder why you hadn't done it sooner.

Take care and be kind to yourself - remember you and your children deserve happiness more than you need a bad marriage

:hugs: :hugs:
Jem
27-05-2006, 15:55
Today is a bad day!

Its now been 10 days since the seperation.....

My ds2 turned 1 on the 24th, and not even a card was sent from his dad... i know i shouldnt let it bother me, And that should be more then enough for me to see what kind of a person he really is!!

I just wish i could fast forward a few months down the track..... they say time heals!! I just wish it would hurry up :crying:
Ange&Seth
27-05-2006, 16:39
Oh Chic, that's terrible :( But things will get better, and you have made the right decision, I'm sure. Can't imagine how hard it must be right now, but you seem like a really strong woman and you WILL get through this.

:hugs: to you in the meantime though darl.
Jem
27-05-2006, 19:52
Oh Chic, that's terrible :( But things will get better, and you have made the right decision, I'm sure. Can't imagine how hard it must be right now, but you seem like a really strong woman and you WILL get through this.

:hugs: to you in the meantime though darl.

Thanks Ange...

Its really good to hear positive words!! re-enforcing that i CAN do this makes me feel a hell of alot better

Cheers :)
iluvmeboyz
27-05-2006, 20:09
hope everything will be ok with you and your children chin up and you will get there .
Jem
27-05-2006, 20:12
hope everything will be ok with you and your children chin up and you will get there .

Thanks :).... ... ...
SamanthaJane
28-05-2006, 11:45
I kow this thread was started a while ago.... but i just wanted to say... all the best Jem u and ur children will be fine:hugs:

I know what u mean by wishing time would hurry up... it goes so slow when u are counting the days:(