Need to vent or I will break

[donna-maree]

I'm starting to feel like the whole world is falling apart.:gloomy: I've been living with my partner for the past 10 months and I miss my family and friends. Now with my baby due soon I feel so lonely and confused. My partner isn't helping the issue either. He does love me but he always seems to put his family and friends before me. We moved to a dump of a caravan park and because of him we got evicted last week and now live with his uncle and his family. Problem is I had little privacy and time to myself before, well now I have none. I try and talk to him but he doesn't have time to even hear what I want. He now won't even let me name our baby it's gonna be his choice, so he thinks! I hardly get to see my family who are my stabilty becasue they live 2 hours from me and he hates going up there coz of things he did before he left over a year ago. When I do get to see them it's for 1/2 hour at the most and I don't wanna go but I'm torn between everryone.:crying: I really need him to understand but because he hates his mum he doesn't see the bond I have with mine. Starting to feel like I don't belong anywhere anymore. He cuts my friends of so now I have no one I can turn to for support or just to go shopping with.

Me 28:
DP 26:banghead:
Bubba girl due 28th May:smiliedance:

[Ange&Seth]

Oh Chic :hugs:

I'm not in your situation, so I'm not gonna tell you exactly what to do. But I always say that you should live your life for yourself, if you have kids - live your life for yourself AND your kids. You're obviously unhappy, and that will be transferring to bub. You don't need any stress right now. You need to be happy cos - you're gonna be a mummy!

Do you think you would be better off without DP? Or at least living apart from him for a while? Every girl needs her mum, and even more so when she's about to have a baby. I think he either needs to realise that you need support and straighten up, or you need to go home to your mum for a bit. Even if it's just for a week or so.

Do you have msn? I'm taen_dreamweaver@hotmail.com if you want to add me and have a chat. Lame address I know, but at 13 i thought it was cool :rolleyes:

[bronny-jane]

dont let him pick her name, you know how stupid it will be:D
i honestly think he's just going to leave you after he gets the cash from the baby, or he'll spend it on drugs, look what he did with his loan.

why not move back here, he cant stop you, you can stay at our place for a while till you get your own place.

the only reason he doesnt want to come back here is cause you want to.

why not take some control for once, and let him follow your lead, if he truely loved you he'd follow you here, i gave jeremy 12 hours before we moved back, and he came.

if you dont put yourself first, no one else will.

good luck at your appointment today, hope you get to have baby tomorrow, im sick of waiting:D :wave:

[MumsieMel]

Everything Bronny said!!! :yelclap:

[Jem]

Sounds to me as if Bronny is offereing you a chance to take a stand for yourself!!
I have ALOT going on in my life at the moment.. and If i was closer to Bron i would JUMP at the chance head first!!! :yes:

[donna-maree]

Yeah bronny always ends up giving big sis advice! Thanx. Not sure what I'm gonna do. Don't worry sis, I've already organised what's gonna happen with the abby bonus plus I'm gonna get the baby payments now..not what he thinks though:laughing: Sick of hm trying to tell me what to do, wear and who to talk to. I'm giving him till she's born to change or I'm getting the social worker to get me out.

Let you know how everrything goes one way or another with my appointment today. You just keep your head up ok sis:hugs:

Me 28
DP 26
Bubba girl due 28th May:yelclap:

[bronny-jane]

how many chances does someone need to change?
people dont change, and behavour is rarely modified to suit anothers needs, especially when he gets everything his own way regardless of what you say;)

[mumslilspunks]

how many chances does someone need to change?
people dont change, and behavour is rarely modified to suit anothers needs, especially when he gets everything his own way regardless of what you say;)
Completley agree with bronny and just want to add if this is what its like now it will be ten times worse when the lilttle bub comes along!! Id say do it know other wise it will be so much harder to do it with a baby!!:hugs:
You go through so much in the first comple of weeks of having a baby, the lack of sleep, hormonal changes and thats just the tip off the ice berg! Not wanting to scare you but you will really need family and friends around you when you have this baby and obviously HE WONT BE!!!!!

[~Danni~]

I think the other ladies summed it up pretty well, good luck and i know we will be all thinking of you, as everyone else has probably said if you ever need someone to talk to i always have time! Good luck with bub (and every thing else) :hugs:

[razzle]

He does love me but he always seems to put his family and friends before me.
Sweetie this is not love - it's selfishness. Go home to your family and let him get his priorities right before you let him back into your life.

[FourAngelKisses]

Okay, I don't want to come across too blunt here, but I don't know how successful I will be at doing that.

Kick his *** to the curb and move back near your family. He sounds very selfish to me. He got you evicted out of a caravan park, you don't want to be getting evicted out of anywhere once you have a baby. You need a roof over your head, but more importantly, your child needs one over hers. Why should he get to pick the name of the baby?? It is yours as well as his, names should be something that both parents agree on.
Why has he cut you off from your friends? You need them around you more than ever now that you are about to have a baby.

Move back to your family.....it sounds as if he doesn't have a job (I could be wrong there, sorry if I am), so he doesn't have anything keeping him there. If he truely loves you, which I doubt from what I've read, he will follow you back and make an effort at changing.

Best wishes, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

[MissBrightside]

I agree with the other girls. Dont wait for the day he will change cos he never will, people dont change. I was with someone like this for 8 years, we broke up 4 months ago, and I am so much happier, I can do what I want when I want, I am finally trying to save some money for me and my boys. I also know that my life is so much better than his, I have a house, family and am making up with friends I lost along the way cos he didnt like them. He is living here and there, no money,no job, no real friends etc etc. Basically he will never treat you the way you need to be treated. You DO NOT deserve to be treated this way. Nobody does.
If you leave you will be ok, it sounds as though you have family that love you and will help you along the way. Take up their offer! These are the people that will be there for you no matter what!

[donna-maree]

I have to admit it's a big decision but for some reason we were brought back together last year and things were good til we moved down here. Problem is he is easily led by the wrong people and they have no respect for me. Well yesterday I put my foot down for once :yelclap: He spent his money on me for a car not on drugs or his friends. His friends rang up wanting him to go over and he told them that he was staying home with me because I wasn't well ... even though I was. He is starting to see the light, hopefully I can stick with it for my sake and his. He has been through too much hurt in the past 12 months coz it's nearly a year since his dad died in the car when he was taking him to hospital. At least he has agreed with me that we need to move to an area and try and start our lives again. We found out yesterday that his mother, who hates me but acts like she doesn't, wants to get a house down here and move in with us. Like hell!:mad: He said no way were we living with her again, she would just try and take over our daughter like she did her own daughter's kids.

Sorry bron but you won't be an aunty for a bit yet. Think you jinxed me the other day when you said I would go over!

Me 28
DP 26
Bubba girl due 28th May:smiliedance:

[bronny-jane]

sounds like your still going round in circles:rolleyes:

[donna-maree]

Nah. It was my payday today and I did exactly what I planned to do with it. Things are starting to look up. Now when he says he loves me I just say yearh whatever. He then gets a really hurt look in his eyes and goes quiet then realises that I am feeling like **** and need to be put first for once

Me 28
DP 26
Little princess due 28th May:smiliedance:

[Hokey Pokey]

:hugs: for you...

[donna-maree]

Found out yesterday some information that could possibly explain DP behaviour and attitude.:detective: It seems that every serious relationship that he gets involved in the parents always break up. They all have the same reasons... it's not that he's a bad guy it's coz he isn't from a family with money or a name. One even split his engagement up because he wasn't Italian or rich!!! Well now I have to try and explain to him that his distancing me from my family becuase of this isn't helping me. I love him and he should realise that I wouldn't have gone out of my way to track him down after 12 months to find him if I didn't. Need to make him see that I am not going to let anyone make my mind up for me. I'm old enough to do it and I have our daughter to think of too. I can't leave him because of this. I have to stand by him to make him realise that not all women bow down to their families opinions. This time I'm right. He has changed and has started being very protective of me in regards to his mum and friends so I have half the battle won. :thumbsup:

Me 28
DP 26
Bubba girl due 28th May:smiliedance:

[bronny-jane]

hmmm....more excuses i see