not the same person

[lochiebearsmum]

My mum and sister had a bit of a go at me today telling me i am not the same "outgoing, happy" person i was before i had DS.... i got to thinking about this and i realised I AM NOT the same person i was, DS is 2 in Feb and since the day he was born i have not had a day or night to myself, he wakes a few times everynight and i think i am also slightly tired, being a mum, single or not, is a full time job and i wonder if they worked 24 hours 7 days for 2 years if they may also get snappy at times..... I love my life and my son more than anything in the world however i think motherhood has changed me.... but thats normal isnt it?

[Mum2Tyla]

sure its normal, I am a single mum but I am very lucky I ahve parents that support me and her father takes her 3 nights a week so i get to go out and be something besides a mum even though I spend half the time talking about how fantastic my kid is, i am also lucky my daughter sleeps thru and has from 3 months of age, i would be more than snappy I would be downrifgt homicidal in your shoes, motherhood changes us all, it is a life changing event, you are normal i would say you were weird if it had'nt changed you, I hope you get a chance to have a break or a ngiht out soon, you are a great mum stop beating yourself up

[LilShenanigans]

Yeah its normal... so long as you enjoy what you do (majority of the time :p), anybody who wants to comment can stick it hehehe family or not lol

And I dont really get time off either... maybe had two nights since DD was born over 3 years ago. you go slightly crazy, but I enjoy that immensely :laughing:

[lochiebearsmum]

Thank you that was lovely! My parents are very supportive but due to illnesses etc are unable to watch him for the night, FOB has no conact and my sister wouldnt know what to do.... i'll get a night/day out when he's 18!!! I am not complaining though.... all i ever wanted to be is a mum and i love it, its just nice to vent sometimes though!!!!!

[WorkingClassMum]

Even a married women with tonnes of support and two live in nannys and a wet nurse is a different person after having a baby (mind you I don't know anyone in that situation LOL :laughing: )

I can't watch war movies, or horror movies any more. I can now watch crime shows though and am passionate about so many more things

I now don't care about so many things Ilike fat ankles and fallen arches) but worry so much more about the whole world.

I'd agree with them, and politely ask when can they dig in for 10 minutes so that you can go off partying...

[mummy7]

:iagree:You are normal. We all change when we become mum's.. I think its that way for everyone.. esp if you are a single mum.. its bloody hard work!!! Ds is 10 months old and I have not had a day or night to myself either and it sure does take its toll (let alone 2 yrs).. but its the best full time job in the world..

[babyboo]

Firstly.....we have a hard enough job being mums!!! added to that we do it ourselves 24/7!!!! and I think you should cut yourself some slack and give yourself a pat on the back!!!!:)

I dont think that your mother or sister are in a position to judge or critise unless they have been in your position. Constructive/supportive cristism possibly, depending on the way it is delivered.

We all change when we have kids but I believe being a sole parent constantly, adds another element....and at times it can be a little crushing and I think that YES we are allowed to get down right pi**ed off at times. Its bloody hard, depleting and emotionally difficult when you dont have a partner to share the load - good or bad times. I think the best thing to do with 'advice' is to take what works for you and chuck the rest!!!

All in all - I think its perfectly normal!!

[Issey]

:hugs: you poor thing, you must be exhausted not having any 'me' time.

Is there anything you can do that would enable you to have some time to yourself.

Some places have free creche like gyms or ten pin bowling etc so you can at least do something for yourself. what about putting your toddler in daycare once a week or something if you aren't doing so already?

my friend who lives interstate has a home daycare lady who also takes her son overnight on occassion and it is all covered by the government (not sure how but thats what she said).

it is worth looking into what you can do, i think giving ourselves 'me time' makes us better parents as we have time to recharge alittle.:)

[sunnyflower]

You should say to them "well how bout you get off your butts and babysit for me so i can go out for some me time so i can once again be the happy out going person i once was":laughing:

[mummy7]

You should say to them "well how bout you get off your butts and babysit for me so i can go out for some me time so i can once again be the happy out going person i once was":laughing:

Lv ur work :laughing: :iagree: