I yelled at my 14-month DD and fell guilty

[vickymom]

I was cooking dinner and she was clingy, holding my legs all the time, and crying with no tears. i cut my thumb and she was still there. I couldn;t help yelling her.
and she cried hard.

I felt so guilty.

DO I have a anger issue? IT happen several times already. I am not patient enough.

Do you ever yell at your kids?

[stardance]

not yet but have felt like it :hugs:
we are all only human ;)

[thth]

My much older 2 ( 11 ) , I have yelled at plenty of times and still at their age feel guilty about it.. If you find you are getting too stressed out or losing patience take a couple of minutes of chill time by yourself. If need be put your daughter somewhere where she cant hurt herself etc and just sit back, have a coffee , some quiet time...

[Issey]

:hugs: dont be too hard on yourself we all do things that we wish we handled differently, just try to think how you would handle it next time a little better.

i have yelled and lost my temper with DS. I reflect back and remind myself that he doesn't understand everything in the way we look at things so I try to stop give him my attention and get him involved in something else so I can finish doing his dinner or whatever it is.

i try to explain also what I am doing, like mummy has a sharp knife :ecomcity::ecomcity: you must stand back or sit over here and watch, give them something they can do to help if possible.

[PunkyDiva]

What Debster said :thumbsup: and some :hugs: cause being a mummy is not an easy job.

[MrsMiggins]

Oh my goodness!!! Some days I feel like that's all I do - yell!! :( Yes, I do feel bad about it.

My DS is incredibly clingy at home and it makes it impossible to get anything done! Sometimes I get very frustrated with it and yell at him. I always feel terrible about it afterwards.

Last night, I was trying to get DD dressed for bed & she kept mucking around and rolling around on the floor. I was worn out & getting cranky and just as I finally thought I'd managed to get through to her that she had to lie still while I put her nappy on, she lunged across my legs again. Well, I lost it at her and yelled. She got all teary and said to me (this breaks my heart even writing it!) "I was just leaning over to give you a kiss, Mummy" :( :crying:

I felt awful!!!

Best you can do is to use it as a lesson in patience. There were a few times today I started getting cranky at her for not listening/ignoring me etc and I just thought back to that & it made me regain my composure somewhat.

[PunkyDiva]

I learnt early on to apologise to my children when my own behaviour was unacceptable :p
Patience and perserverance are two things parents need in truck loads.

[Scout]

I learnt early on to apologise to my children when my own behaviour was unacceptable :p
Patience and perserverance are two things parents need in truck loads.

That's really nice - I think I might have to print that out and remind myself each day. :hugs:

[CaitlinArai22]

golly gosh, mine hasnt arrived yet, but i know from minding other peoples kids, it happens!!

First time i was about 14, minding 3 little boys (terrors!), the middle one was about 6 and VERY huggy, anyway i was in the kitchen ended up with a steam burn, and actually told him it was his fault, i think i called him something pretty awefull too.
sad part was he was the quiet well behaved one. he was just always under my feet, and so the second the other boys started acting up, i couldnt cope with his clinginess and million questions.
I ended up in tears apologising and he was so sweet, like he was the adult, and he told me he wouldnt tell on me :)
His mum and dad came home and i tearfully told them as well, feeling guilty, and they got him and double checked he knew how sorry i was, and then said "cause, we all know, adults can make mistakes and do silly things too"

I have used this line ever since! i still snap occasionally, i imagine i will more so with my own children, that happens, but i think being able to explain afterward and be sorry is the important part, and a good lesson for kids to learn.

Mummy is only human too!

[pkbub]

I have a DS the same age right now, so can totally relate. If he is being too clingy while I am in the kitchen I might put him up in his highchair and bring it in close so he can see what's happening and give him a bowl and a whisk or something different to play with.

Another thing I do sometimes is to take a break and devote 5 minutes of my time to him. Wash my hands and sit down on the floor with him and play a game (of peekaboo with a tea towel, or chasing, or bounce a ball) and give lots of cuddles. They really just want your time:yes: Often he will go away quite happily to play by himself after that and let me get on with what I was doing - or a bit less clingy anyway;)

I know it's hard in the moment but take a breath and think that they can't tell you what they need - they just act silly sometimes. All they want is you. And this time is so short and precious - before we know it we will be the ones begging for hugs when they are teenagers and too cool for us!:cool:

[BeautifulBoys]

I was cooking dinner and she was clingy, holding my legs all the time, and crying with no tears. i cut my thumb and she was still there. I couldn;t help yelling her.
and she cried hard.

I felt so guilty.

DO I have a anger issue? IT happen several times already. I am not patient enough.

Do you ever yell at your kids?

You DONT have a anger problem @ all,I wish I had more patience,but we are not perfect.
Yes I do :o Well only DS1 as DS2 is 5months old.DS1 is nearly 3 :hair: often I find I'll snap at him but generally he has pushed me to breaking point,I feel guilty all the time....the other week I had a meltdown :crying:& I swore at him which I never do :no: so my dear you are not the only one.
:hugs:

[BeautifulBoys]

I learnt early on to apologise to my children when my own behaviour was unacceptable :p
Patience and perserverance are two things parents need in truck loads.


I have said sorry also,DS1 said mummy is sad :( because I was crying when I got so angry & stressed.

[~Candy~]

Your little one probably cried because it was a shock...it's quite normal as we all seem to have patience with our little ones, but there comes a time when we need to snap!
My dd who is 3..nearly 4...she's going through an emotional stage..she's used to me yelling, but not directly at her (usually at the older 2), and she'd cry because I hurt her feelings.

Don't feel bad....you are only expressing your feelings that I'm sure you have put away untill now...and your little one needs to learn that you need your own space/time to yourself also.

They do get past this stage...they are simply learning that they have feelings and they get hurt..but you also need to explain to them when they are calm, that you need you own space, specially when it comes to cooking ect :)

[pixiemum2]

I hate to say it but I yell at my DS quite often. He is nearly 2.5 years old and he does not listen to me. I will repeat things 5 times and end up having to yell for him to do what I have asked. I hate it but he won't repsond otherwise.

I agree that your DD responded the way she did because she is not used to you yelling at her. Don't feel bad, you can't stay calm all the time.

[mum2bubba]

Don't feel bad.

We all have bad days. I yelled at Skye today because she wouldn't sit in the pram, I tried to buckle her in but she kept arching her back and I was getting frustrated, so I yelled and said 'for **** sake, Skye just sit down!' :(

Then she started kicking Hayley in the back (we have a tandem pram) so I had to put Skye in the front.

[Mummy2Noah]

Your not alone hun
I find Noahs at an age im constantly yelling at him!!

[vickymom]

I hate to say that but I DO feel relieved to know so many mums have similar experience. I am not the only one.

I am 25 now and do not work. Staying at home taking care a little one is like to put me in a cage. I tried my best to keep my temper and patience. Just sometimes i was pushed to my limited. and my husband always blames me for anything happens to our duaghter. He says it is my 24/7 job to take care our daughter because i don;t work outside.