holding pooh in! (dunno if that makes sense?)

[angel_one]

any how, my problem is that my almost 3 year old dd is doing the tt thing and is fine with wees, and use to wait till the nappy was on to do a poo, but since she did her first pooh in the toilet (last thursday -todays tuesday!) she hasnt been again, i sit her on the loo she does the wee and we ask if she needs to do poo, she's like no, and shes still wearing a nappy to bed at nite, and still hasnt done anything.

right now im not concerned as to where she does it aslong as she does it!

is there anything i can do to get her to go?

[sunnyflower]

i had a friend whose daughter had the same problem,she decided she didn'r want to go on the toilet and it ended up being a big drama and she ended going to a psychologist about it.anyway the psychologist said don't make a big deal about it because it can become a power issue,if she wants to go in her nappy,then let her but when she does go ,make a big fuss and tell her how wonderful she is etc.give her foods like prunes,fruit,fruit juice,sneak some bran into her cereal.good luck and try not to stress!!

[Ange&Seth]

I actually had a problem with this when I was young. my mum reckons it started when I was about 18 months old. Apparently I got that badly constipated and it hurt that much when i went to the toilet, that I got scared and just stopped going. I would even sit down on my knees to stop myself if I felt like I needed to go. This has caused big problems for me, and mum tried everything.

Has she been constipated? Maybe you could get a Microlax Micro Enema from the chemist and give it to her? It'll make her go, it might be runny but at least it'll be out of her.

Sorry, I don't want to scare you by what I've said but I even had trouble right up until I was a teenager. It became a habit and even though I needed to go to the toilet, sometimes I would find myself on my knees again, trying to stop myself going, purely out of habit.

The rest is TMI and I don't really want to share too much on a community forum but if you'd like some more info, then PM me.

Hope she comes right soon :fingerscrossed:

[Harry&Max's Mummy]

Our 3 yr old son is tiolet trained for wee's , so during the day he is right in undies. However he also holds his poo's until the evening when i put a nappy on him to relieve him self and then another to go to bed. We have tried the incentive thing also ( i have bought him a thomas carriage ) and keep talking about how he will get it if he does one on the toilet. He knows he will get it if he goes but not ready yet.

[3cherubs]

WOW, i have the same problem...
I started TT about 2 weeks ago with my 2 and a bit yr old DD, she is good with the wees. She goes to the big toilet and no dramas. BUT, the poos we did 2 in the toilet then she stopped. I have not made a big dea about it either.
I know she needs one, but holds it in. can this make them constipated??

[neans74]

Having worked in a creche for four years I have seen many toilet training problems, it's very common for little ones to not want to do poo on the potty or toilet and have seen many that prefer a nappy for it. All I can say is be relaxed and tell them it's fine if they want a nappy on for a poo, keep reminding them that the potty or toilet is there for them, but every child I have seen that prefers a nappy has always grown out of the habit. Definately don't make a big deal about it. The children I've seen that start holding it in, gradually lose that habit too if mum and dad are relaxed about the whole thing. :thumbsup:

[MummyCharmzy]

We've had this problem with zach until TODAY he finally poo'd for the first time in the potty... his problem was he didnt seem to know how to make himself do it at the right time, it just happened when it happened....

my dad looked after him today while DP and I went out for lunch and did some shopping and came home and dad had taught him how to 'push it out' .. he sits there and grunts and holds his arms up in the air doing pushing motions and this helps him to know do a poo... sounds odd but really works, hes done 2 since then but HAS to do the grunting and pushing motions to make it happen!

[angel_one]

well ladies, thanks for your replies!, we have succeeded!!
she is still only going about once a week well almost twice now, but we went to the doc over another matter and i happen to ask him about it and he said it is completely normal and she may contine like this for a while!, but she isnt constipated cause when she goes shes fine, just have to remind her that the toilet is the place to do poos too!, and she achieved her prize for doing 3 poos in the loo!! so barbie shopping we shall be doing on friday!! lol- god its already started!!!!
and we havnt had a nappy mishap (except for the day we washed the car) either wet or poo in a few weeks now!! sucess!!!!!!!

[PhAnToM]

Well, this is very common it seems.
My DD was the same. For the longest time she wouldn't poo in the toilet.
I'd ask her to go and she'd just say "NO!".
So I pulled out the sample tub of sudocream out of the bounty bag and told her that when she sits on the toilet and i put that "special poo cream" on, it will make her do her poo magically and it won't hurt!

I put it on and VOILA... there it was. She did want it everytime she sat on the toilet for about 2 weeks. We went shopping and she needed to go. I took her to the toilet and she told me she needed her special cream. I freaked bc i hadn't packed it. I told her we didn't have it an she jumped off the toilet and went through her nappy bag and found it. (seems she thought ahead while Mum didn't. She had packed it before leaving the house! :laughing: )
Anyway, the "special cream" worked a treat. After a couple of weeks of using the cream, every now and again I'd skip it until she didn't think about the cream to do a poo in the toilet. Been 6 months now, she hasn't done a poo anywhere but in the toilet since the special cream. Shame about how we've struggled with her regression of the wee issue lately. :thumbsdown: