What can I do for her?

[giggles]

This could be long winded..........

My DD is 9 months tomorrow.

She doesn't roll. She goes to her side and looks around but will put more effort into staying on her back than in going with the roll. She has been sitting unsupported since about 5 months so that is pretty much where she stays. She will twist and play to the side but won't venture toward actually getting out of the sit position. Obviously with this, comes no crawling or attempt at it and no other sort of movement.

The problem is the frustration! She is basically at a stage where she is whingeing all day long because she wants to be going somewhere but can't.

I am spending all my time playing with her on the floor (not complaining, but I know she would love to do things for herself) and trying to get her little limbs moving around and her body rolling but she protests the whole time. She is clingy and hates it if I go somwhere because she can't come along behind me like she wants to. If a toy rolls too far out of her reach she makes no attempt to get it, just cries. Tummy time is heartbreaking. her legs would be standing but her arms just won't make the effort to support herself. She holds her weight really well on her legs but without movement she is not learning to pull herself up onto anything.

I feel like I have done as much as I can to help her, I get distressed when she does and end up doing things for her. It tears me apart, especially when we are with other babies and they are all on the go.

We have seen two physios, one who told me I had a skinny weak child and I couldn't bring myself to see again and one who thought an hour long session was OK for a 7 month old baby and that her crying was OK and we should "just work thorugh it"

I now have a referral to a paed and hope he is going to be able to offer me some sort of magic solution (silly thinking I know)

Am I the cry baby? I am struggling to just get on with it. Just feel like having a bloody good cry myself actually!

[InSaneOne]

some babies just take there time. at playgroup yesterday i was talking to a lady and she was commenting on how well beth is walking then she asked how old is she. i told her 9 months. she said her little one didn't crawl until 14 months and was just starting to walk at 20 months. but he got teeth at 4 months. now beth was crawling at 4 months and walking by 8 months but she still hasn't got teeth.

each bub will do their own thing in their own time. i think beth crawled early because she is quite tall for her age and was able to roll over from 2 weeks old. and she loved to be on her tummy all the time. i think that the babies that are mostly on their tummies tend to crawl quicker than babies who prefer to lay on their backs.

just be patient and let your dd do her own thing. it could be a month or it could be 5 months. she will do it when she is ready.

[MissBrightside]

My second son didnt crawl until he was 13months and started walking when he was 16months, my first son crwled at about 9 months and walked at around 13months, so I think all babies are different. My brothers baby is almost 11 months old and she dosent crawl yet either.

[CJJHRA]

one of my kids never rolled, well ok, they did it probably once, just didnt like it I guess. My DD was slow to crawl, I thought she would be doing it early to keep up with her brothers, but she took it all in her own time. When DD was about 9months old I got her this play thing called Bouncing Baby Play Place (http://www.babyonabudget.com.au/05/more_info.asp?prd=696) (click to see, oh by the way, I have one for sale LOL) anyway, it helped to stregnthen her legs I thought, and she loved it!

Personally, I would give your DD another couple of months before going off to a pead, but your her mummy and you know her best, do what you feel is right.

And all babies do develop at the own pace, try not to compare, as hard as it may be. I saw it in my twins, they were so very different, and developed at different rates. One was crawling for about 2 months before th other made any attempts to try.

[ToTeenyTots]

Tash was never interested in rolling and hated tummy time. She never appeared to be doing any preparation for crawling ie rocking on all fours etc but at about 9 months she crawled off. She never cruised around furniture or tried to stand up (except when I put her in the cot to sleep!!) and she walked at 11.5 months. So you may find that your little one will not be where you left her next time you look around.:eek: However if you are concerned then get it checked because the constant worring will get to you and you will focus on it more and more.

[zenifa]

:hugs: to you Kirsty and little Ava

I'm sorry to hear that you didn't have a good experience with the 2 physios you visited. Best of luck:fingerscrossed: for your upcoming appointment with the paediatrician.

As the others have said, each baby will develop at his/her own pace, and although this is frustrating to hear, Ava will roll, crawl, walk etc in her own time. I know it can be frustrating for you both, but hang it there, things will improve !!
You are a wonderful mother and are doing all that you can to help her, just remember that. :hugs:

[RachWA]

My ds also sat at 5 months and then didn't wont to do anything but sit. He hated tummy time and although he rolled at 8 weeks probably only did it 3-4 more times before 8 months. He would rather sit on one spot then be on his tummy to roll around. Then at 8 months he finally started commando crawling 2 weeks later proper on all four crawling and then by 10 months he was walking. (He was a very robust baby).

But as they say all babies are different - my dd now 4 months loves tummy time and is starting to pull herself around to toys, so I expect will crawl sooner than ds.

At my mothers group of 8 (all the same age) boys my ds was the first to walk at 10 months followed in progression to the last one at 16 months. I think you really just need to let them go unless you can see an obvious reason hindering the development.