Please help - need advice

[sajy]

Hello,

I really need advice but am not sure if this is the right section.

I am absolutely against circumcison and have always felt that my son should choose what happens to his body.

My son is three and over the past two years he has had a couple of episodes where blood comes from his penis (four times that I'm aware of). We took him the doctor but he couldn't find anything. We are on holidays at the moment and my son has now developed an infection in his penis and is now on antibiotics.

I'm trying to think of all the ways he could have developed this infection. He's in his cossies a lot by the pool and I wondered if that's what's caused it as this is the only thing that's different from when we are at home.

Anyway, now I'm wondering if this is going to be a regular thing. Should I assume he will be prone to infections?

I don't know what to do. If we decide to have him circumcised (I just can't imagine doing it) how is it done on a three year old? What's the least traumatic way and how will I cope when people judge me (say when we're at swimming lessons and he gets changed) I'd hate for people to think I did this because we simply felt like it, think it looks better or whatever the usual reason are people do this to their sons.

I really don't want to make this choice. I don't even want to think about it.

I'd really like to read your thoughts. Can I please get positive replies. I feel bad about this already and really hope someone can tell me some information that will help us.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Consult a paediatrician first to try to determine the true cause.

[333]

Consult a paediatrician first to try to determine the true cause.

:iagree:

Im sorry that your son has been unwell :hugs:.
:no: Its never easy to watch someone you love in pain. I sure a Paediatrician will be able to work out the problem. I believe some children just go through 'sickly' stages (due to other factors eg. anemia) and it may not be neccesary to circ.

Goodluck!:hugs:

[Christine T]

Hello,

I really need advice but am not sure if this is the right section.

I am absolutely against circumcison and have always felt that my son should choose what happens to his body.

My son is three and over the past two years he has had a couple of episodes where blood comes from his penis (four times that I'm aware of). We took him the doctor but he couldn't find anything. We are on holidays at the moment and my son has now developed an infection in his penis and is now on antibiotics.

I'm trying to think of all the ways he could have developed this infection. He's in his cossies a lot by the pool and I wondered if that's what's caused it as this is the only thing that's different from when we are at home.

Anyway, now I'm wondering if this is going to be a regular thing. Should I assume he will be prone to infections?

I don't know what to do. If we decide to have him circumcised (I just can't imagine doing it) how is it done on a three year old? What's the least traumatic way and how will I cope when people judge me (say when we're at swimming lessons and he gets changed) I'd hate for people to think I did this because we simply felt like it, think it looks better or whatever the usual reason are people do this to their sons.

I really don't want to make this choice. I don't even want to think about it.

I'd really like to read your thoughts. Can I please get positive replies. I feel bad about this already and really hope someone can tell me some information that will help us.

Circumcision won't solve anything. Have you been following the advice in the sticky:
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=70500

The advice is NOT to retract or clean inside. You are just introducing infections.

Blood coming from the penis isn't really a sign of infection. Where is the blood coming from?

[MumTotzlj]

i don't want to cause an argument i'm not pro of anti circ.

but my nephew was the same as your son he was 4 when he was circ i have to say that it was on the advice of a number of docs because of regular infections, which had nothing to do with how he was cleaned.

[Christine T]

All I was saying was that circumcision won't solve anything. it is hard to give advice because "infection" doesn't really mean anything and there is no evidence that infections are more common in intact boys. All circumcision does is damage the skin:
http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm

Recurrent UTIs are associated with congenital abnormalities of the upper urinary tract and are nothing to do with circumcision status.
http://www.cirp.org/library/disease/UTI/

Most infections are extremely rare and not recurrent and so on the incorrect assumption that circumcision will protect you from them it would be silly to circumcise your child when they are born.

[bubontheway2029]

Hello,

I really need advice but am not sure if this is the right section.

I am absolutely against circumcison and have always felt that my son should choose what happens to his body.

My son is three and over the past two years he has had a couple of episodes where blood comes from his penis (four times that I'm aware of). We took him the doctor but he couldn't find anything. We are on holidays at the moment and my son has now developed an infection in his penis and is now on antibiotics.

I'm trying to think of all the ways he could have developed this infection. He's in his cossies a lot by the pool and I wondered if that's what's caused it as this is the only thing that's different from when we are at home.

Anyway, now I'm wondering if this is going to be a regular thing. Should I assume he will be prone to infections?

I don't know what to do. If we decide to have him circumcised (I just can't imagine doing it) how is it done on a three year old? What's the least traumatic way and how will I cope when people judge me (say when we're at swimming lessons and he gets changed) I'd hate for people to think I did this because we simply felt like it, think it looks better or whatever the usual reason are people do this to their sons.

I really don't want to make this choice. I don't even want to think about it.

I'd really like to read your thoughts. Can I please get positive replies. I feel bad about this already and really hope someone can tell me some information that will help us.

You should get medical advice and do whatever is necessary to make sure your son is healthy. Dont worry about being judged, why would anyone judge you? And if they do, what does it matter?

:hugs:

[Jakois]

Consult a paediatrician first to try to determine the true cause.

:iagree:.

[2and2istrouble]

Get medical advice. Ignore anyone who tries to judge you for decisions you make in the best interest of your child. You can only be guided by what you think is best given the medical information you have.

[Roopee]

See a Doctor and if your not happy with the 'prognosis' see another one- find one you trust.

Good Luck to you and your boy:flowerz:

[PunkyDiva]

I would be getting testing of urine and ultrasounds of bladder and kidneys as numerous reasons for blood and infection, them making a decision based on all the facts of a diagnosis from a specialist.

Swabbing area with cup of warm water and couple of drops of tea tree oil in it can aid destruction of any outside bacteria.
Try and let him run around free of nappy or grundies as much as possible ion the meantime:D

Some children are allergic to chemicals in commercial nappies too, try and use organic ones or cloth or pure cotton grundies when rqd.

Hope you get some answers soon, poor wee mite. :hugs: