Do you worry about them being a only child

[tyler's mum]

I always wanted alot of kids but after having tyler i dont want any more. I dont think i could cope doin the hole birth thing again after having such a bad labour with tyler. Im a single mum and would never want to do it on my own again. Maybe i will met my mr right:rolleyes: one day and things may change but dont like my changes.

I worry that tyler will be lonely when she is older being a only child. She has a lot of love from the family and hopefully she will grow and and have some great close friends. However i cant help but wonder how she will deal with being a only child:confused:

[Ana Gram]

Recently I have because she has complained about being lonely and she has asked both her father and I for a sibling. But I'm afraid she is just going to have to get over it.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

yes i worry about coop being an only child. however i cant have another child unless i am in a stable relationship as i really couldnt do 2 kids by myself. i am only 22 but by the way i am going, its highly unlikely i will meet someone who will want to be with not just me but coop as well.

[Blueberry Crumble]

I felt like this about DS. But now Im pregnant, Im not worried, but it was a big reason (but not the only one ) why we are having another child. DS is so very sociable, and plays with kids everywhere we go- playgrounds he just flocks to the other kids, and loves the interaction. I think he is just one of these kids that would really feel it if he didnt have a sibling. Plus there is no other children in either of our families- no cousins nothing. So it was really up to us!

[SmileyBJ]

Yeah I do worry... & I still have hope though that I'll have more. However even if I had a partner I would still be scared to have another after what I went through being pregnant & alone with DS. Its a huge step & can't even think about having another at this stage! :(

[neostudded]

I worry about my son being an only child. He is used to being around lots of people.

Now that our situation has changed a bit he is looking a bit lost, he gets very upset when I need to do dishes or cook dinner and he cant have my full attention, I would love if he had a sibling to play with at those kind of times.

I would love another baby, but I don't want another baby. Honestly, I am not in a good enough situation to bring another human in to the world.

I would rather wait until I am ready but I do feel upset that my son is an only child, siblings are great fun.

[tyler's mum]

Tyler has always been a talker even as a baby. From the time she wakes up her mouth does not stop. The last few days she will just come up to me, mum or dad who ever and say 'can you talk to me' I will say what do you wanna talk about she just say anything just talk to me. I talk to her all day but it just seems like she is really lonely lately:confused:

[Benji]

My X and I were planning to have another baby before we broke up.

I can't imagine my life if I had have grown up without my brother. As much as we fought, we had so many amazing times together and I'd love for my son to one day experience that bond with a sibling.

Having said that, yep.. I'm single mother and I feel I'm just getting by with the one, although I am hopeful that I will meet a nice man one day and "settle down" lol.

[nugglyboysmum]

yes i worry about him being an only child.

BUT i would worry about him just as much if he were the eldest child of many.

Unfortunately i married a man who is just not made out for fatherhood, he doesn't have the patience or selflessness for any more children. As a father, i dont think hes all that. But as a friend and husband he is awesome and i can't imagine a better more caring loving husband. SO, as much as i like the idea of another child, its not whats best for our family, so the worry i have for DS being an only child is outweighed by the fact that DS will be part of a much happier family if he is an only child.

[aquarius]

i'm so glad i found this thread (and this only child forum) as i worry about this sometimes too, tyler's mum!

i always wanted two kids so they would be company for each other but i had bad experiences with pregnancy, labour, PND etc and i just don't think i could go thru it all again, and DH doesn't think he could do it again either so we'll just have the one child.

i do worry that she will get lonely as she gets older, my bro and i aren't hugely close but i do remember it was so good to have him to hang out with when we got stuck at boring family get-togethers or on family holidays!

also i have friends who were only children and they always go on about how lonely they were. once i asked my counsellor whether there was any evidence that only children were more difficult or spoilt or lonely or whatever and she told me that there had been a number of studies done but the results were quite mixed so no one could say for sure...

i have no idea what i'll say to DD when she starts asking for a brother or sister. also i worry about her getting jealous of her cousins in future and feeling left out, as DH and i both come from families where our siblings and cousins are breeding like rabbits so DD will see that all her cousins have siblings and she is the only who doesn't. also we might not be living in the same town as her cousins as she gets older so she might not see them much.

DH and i are pretty relaxed down to earth people from hardworking backgrounds so i'm not too worried about her turning into a 'spoilt brat' iykwim, but i guess she will have a lot of attention and toys and things being the only child, and i guess we'll just try and be sensitive to her needs and make sure she gets to meet lots of other kids and maybe let her friends spend more time at our house than most parents would, just so she has company and is not always stuck with boring old mum and dad :laughing:

sorry for the ramble!

[tyler's mum]

Tyler has always loved being around other kids she gets bored very easy at home. God only knows why she has so much things to do and play with here. It was'nt untill we were on hoildays that i relize just how much she loves kids. She didnt go to day care or play group for 2 weeks. She missed it so much and kept asking when could she go back to school. My sister is having a baby so maybe that will help but its still goin to be a few years untill they can play iykwim.

[aquarius]

yes maybe with your sister's baby coming along tyler will feel like she's a big sister and the new baby is her little sister - my friend's daughter did this when her little cousin was born, went around bragging to everyone that she had a new 'little sister'! the new baby will give tyler somewhere to focus her energy! she sounds like a bright little thing always on the go, must be tiring for you some days!

that's great she loves daycare and playgroup so much, it is a good omen that she will be able to make friends easily as she grows up and she won't be one of those lonely only children that we're all worrying about!

[tyler's mum]

Tyler said to me today is aunty baby still in her belly i said yes. She said i want her to come out now so i can hug her. How cute is that:yes:

[aquarius]

that's gorgeous :) that is going to be one loved-up baby when it comes out lol tyler will make sure of that!