Age difference between first and second

[wonkey22]

Hi there

I know that the gap between my son and due date of my current pregnacy could be close but it does scare me a little that it will be only 14 months. Has anyone got any idea on best managing the time between the two.......AND A PRAM THEY RECOMMEND!!

Wonkey22:smiliedance:

[FourAngelKisses]

I had 15.5mths between my oldest kids, it took me about 2wks to get into a routine. I would change them at the same time and put them down for naps at the same time. When it came to feeding, I only had 1 highchair, but even when my daughter was a newborn, I would have to make her wait with a dummy while I fed my older child. It was either that or he would scream the place down.

Good luck!!!

[~Danni~]

Hey! im going to have 13 months between my two and i have no idea how were going to manage!!!!!!!!! We have opted for one of the prams were one sits in front of the other based on the fact that navagating our shopping center would have been crazy. We got one that they both can lie down in though cos i assume my first is still gonna need that as an option. Good luck:wave:

[FourAngelKisses]

Oh, I forgot to put in the pram bit. I had one of those English style prams and I brought a toddler seat for it. DON'T get one of those prams. DS1 weighed 25kg by the time he was 3 and trying to lift the pram up and down curbs, stairs etc with him and his 10kg sister in it was very hard. I personally would opt for a side by side pram.

[wonkey22]

Has anyone got the phil and ted pram???

[FourAngelKisses]

I've never heard of it??????????

[uptheduff]

my sons are 12 months, 10 days apart and TBH, i didn't find it as difficult as people said it would be! You just get into a routine, and get on with it!

As for prams, i have a babylove side by side one. I used to have a limo style one but i found it difficult to steer with my fat oldest son in the front lol. I also coudn't acess the basket very well. The side by side prams fit through a normal sized doorway, so you don't get too many problems going through the shops!

[Oscar's mum]

Has anyone got the phil and ted pram???


I have the Phil and Ted pram. I have only got one child at the moment though so I have not had too much use of it with the toddler attachment. Though a few times we used it with another child and it was great! I intend on using that pram when this next one arrives too!;)

[adsharp]

There is 14 months between my 2 boys! I admit it was abit daunting to begin with, but I wouldnt have it any other way now! I did find it hard though, cos Jordan my eldest, wasnt walking til he was 16 months, so for the first 2 months after Carter was born, I had to lug around 2 kids!!!
I have a double pram, but one in the back and one in front. That was brilliant, I have a friend who has the side by side double, and she says it is a pain, because you cant take it shopping or anything, it is way too wide.

[FourAngelKisses]

There is 14 months between my 2 boys! I admit it was abit daunting to begin with, but I wouldnt have it any other way now!

I agree with you there. My oldest 2 were like the best of friends growing up. Not so much now as they fight like cats and dogs, but before they started school it was great. I'm sure they will be really close again in a few years though, they seem to be finding their identities now.

[Tammy_O]

Hi Wonkey

I actually just posted a reply to you in the Darwin section. Anyway I am due in July with number 2 which will make it a 10.5 month gap between number 1 and 2. Can't really tell you how to handle it as like yourself I have no idea how I will handle it. I just look at the fact that yes it will be hard but when they start to get older it will get easier.

In regards to prams I bought a side by side steelcraft pram. I have no idea on the model of it. I looked around and it was the one that I preferred. Although I can't actually comment if it's any good or not as I haven't used it :fingerscrossed: so here's hoping it goes well. I have heard a lot of negative things about the limo style one in regards to that they are difficult to push with an older one etc.

Good luck with your pram shopping

[RuthK]

I have 18 months between my first and second and 21 months between my second and third.

And I have a Phil and Ted pram. A brilliant pram, has adapted to child and toddler and now toddler and baby, and when I need it, just toddler or just baby. Is easy to push, fits through department store aisles easily and packs away quickly and compactly. Can't rave highly enough about them! The carry cot insert they have for a newborn is long enough to last for well behind 6 months, much better than most other prams.

[Peaceangels]

My two are 14.5mths apart and I found the best way to cope was to stick to a pretty tight routine (especially with feeding, sleeping, bathing).

Trying to entertain a toddler while b/f is not an easy task, but I tried to set #1 up with an activity prior to feeding #2.

If you can get them to sleep at the same time during the day, at least you have some time to re-group, sleep or catch up on chores (or bubhub :D ).

The best advice I received was to also make some one on one time every day with my eldest (even if it was reading him a book each night before bed), I still do to this day (including an outing together each week), that along with teaching them both 'turn-taking' has helped keep fights to a minimum.

With regards to stroller's I used from the birth of #2 the McClaren twin stroller and found it fantastic - easy to put up/down, lightweight and easy to manouvre. The seat's fold down to sleep position and have great storage area underneath.

Pm me if you have any other questions. :)

[angel_one]

my last too (hopefully last) will hopefully be atleast 12 months apart, funny enough ds was due the 26th dec 05 and this one is due 25th dec 06! lol but ds was a little early so we'll see what happends.

i think it wont be that bad, maybe a little bit heatic in the begining, but once routine sets in things should be fine. i do think the hardest is right now (havent got much to compare it to though) as i have a almost 3 year old, 5 month old, and i am soooooo tired, as it is i get up feed kids, then end up on the couch napping! (which is fun with the toddler!- baby just naps too) i also think m/s, and cramps are worse this time round, so all in all i hope life after delivery is easier than right now!!

[bronny-jane]

my dd's are 15 months apart, was difficult for a few weeks.....now its a breeze they play so well together:D

[wonkey22]

Hi Guys

Thanks for your support and well wishes. I am suffering all day and night morning sickness and the idea of having another baby is really getting me down at the moment. I keep thinking that I won't be able to give my children the best quality of parenting I could if I had fallen pregnant later. I try not to be so silly but with vomiting, hubby trying to keep the house clean for me and no family within 3000km of me I feel so alone and useless. I know that other people are in the same situation but that thought doesn't make me feel better at the moment. Hopefully I wake up tomorrow with a whole different feeling.

Wonkey:(

[FourAngelKisses]

Have you tried the Blackmoors morning sickness tablets? They worked well for me.

You are a wonderful mother and you will do great with 2 kids....I have faith in you.

[EskimoMumma]

4 years between my kids! :o

[Terrible2+1cutie]

I have 15 months between my boys, i didn't know how i was going to cope having 2 kids 15 months apart let alone 2 cesareans really closely. I think you manage with whatever curves life throws at you. While i was feeding DS2 i use to get a book and get DS1 to sit up in the chair beside me and i would read to him. I use to just get DS1 to walk along side the pram or if i was going to a shopping centre get a trolley in the car park and put both kids in it. It wasn't till DS2 was 8 months old that he started sleeping at the same time as DS1. The only thing that i found hard was if both kids were sick and me having to get up and deal with 2 sick kids especially when DP was working but you manage. My kids are best of friends now and if you didn't know any better you would think that they were twins just with different birthdays cause they do everything together, where one is you will be sure to find the other one lol.

Catherine

Mum to Blaze and Bailey

[melsmidgets]

i have a 15 mnth gap between my 3. My DD was 15 months old when my twins were born. IT was hectic the firs twe kthe twins came home. But then i jsut kept DD in her normal routine of having lunch then a 3 hour sleep. This break in the middle of the day gave me time to wash bottles and make more up and do any cleaning that absolutely had to be done then have lunch myself and relax for bout half hour beforer she got back up but i was refreshed to keep going till nighttime.

As for the phil and ted pram, thats the pram i originally bought when i found out i ws pregnant again but then i found out it was twins so i had to return it. My friend has that pra for her 2yo and 6mo (using it since DS2 was born) andshe swears by it.

[melsmidgets]

i have a 15 mnth gap between my 3. My DD was 15 months old when my twins were born. IT was hectic the firs twe kthe twins came home. But then i jsut kept DD in her normal routine of having lunch then a 3 hour sleep. This break in the middle of the day gave me time to wash bottles and make more up and do any cleaning that absolutely had to be done then have lunch myself and relax for bout half hour beforer she got back up but i was refreshed to keep going till nighttime.

As for the phil and ted pram, thats the pram i originally bought when i found out i ws pregnant again but then i found out it was twins so i had to return it. My friend has that pra for her 2yo and 6mo (using it since DS2 was born) andshe swears by it.

[Mum&bubs]

There will be an 18 month gap between my little ones when the next one gets here. My sister has a double pram but only one of her kids uses it now as the other is much older & doesnt need one so we are just going to swap our prams around.

[tired*mummy]

Hi
My 2 daughters are 12 months and 10 hours apart. Chardonnay on Christmas Day and Ally on Boxing day the year after. Wasnt supposed to be that way. Ally was really due around the 20th April.

[FourAngelKisses]

LOL, expensive month!!

We have something similar in our family. I was born 14 days after my mums birthday and Jacob was born 14 days after mine. When he has kids he has to make sure he has one born 14 days after his.

[Aquamarine]

My first 2 sons are 17 months apart. At first it is a little busy but they are great mates now and I am so glad I had them that close.
I am due with my third bub in September and my oldest will be 4 and the second will be turning 3 in December.
As for a pram, I purchased a two seater limo, the prams with one in front and one at the back and I highly recommend it. You can get through all checkouts, it doesn't tip to one side when only one bub is in it and there is room for bags. Plus I find it as easy to put up and down as a single pram.
Good luck with everything and don't stress too much you will learn to manage.:yelclap:

[lukesmama]

Hi,
Im :fingerscrossed: hoping to have another bub when my DS goes off to big school.
I'm not that great with multitasking.....

He's 3 now so only a year or so to go!:smiliedance:

[iluvmeboyz]

my two are 3 yrs and months apart but i wanna have another next yr sometime