Drs that are supportive of 40+ pregnancy

[SixtiesChild]

When I told my GP I wouldn't mind another baby, she began talking sternly to me about the risks. Given that, I've had one high risk pregnancy, I'm still quite healthy really and am planning to get really fit first, but she didn't want to hear it.
This has put me off going back.
Has anyone had a similar experience?

[moonblossom]

Ummm who does this doctor think she is? I would find her offensive beyond words.

Change doctors...I know my doctor and hospital never thought twice at my age being 42 and pregnant.

You poor thing...Dont be put off just because of some idiot's insensitive comments...

[~Emmylou~]

Yep I'd tell her where to get off too.

Statistically there is a slight increase in risk. Which means that there are still plenty of women who conceive and birth over 40 without problem.

A few months ago I had a client who was 44 and having her first. Healthy baby, natural intervention free birth.

There are still good stories out there, believe in yourself :)

[SixtiesChild]

Thanks for the encouragement ladies, it's been playing on my mind a bit. She made out that the risks were really high after 40.

I'm definately not going back to her but will persevere with the plan and find a new Dr that is more understanding.
I won't let her ruin it.;)

[Tabby]

wonderful to see that shes not put you off!

My gp and Ob were fantastic and supported me 100% and I was 42.
They are out there just keep looking till you find someone that can offer you the support that you deserve.

good luck and hope you find a better gp soon.

[Ys_Woman]

Can I ask what the nature of the previous high risk pregnancy was and is it likely to happen again? If a pregnancy would endanger your life then I can understand the doctor being a bit hesitant to support another, but if not then I would either express disappointment re: the doctor's negative attitude at the next visit or find a more supportive doctor who won't judge.
My gp was less than thrilled when I fell pg last year..she rolled her eyes heavenward and made comments about my dh and I 'really loving kids' (like it was a bad thing???), but I stuck with her anyways..she is just old and grumpy..lol.
There are genetic risks for mums of any age, and certainly the risks get higher for older mums, but to be honest I have only heard of positive outcomes from over 40 mums in the past few years. Perhaps those with less than positive outcomes chat in another area? *shrugs*.
If you really want another bub then hold true to your own opinion..not those of your doctor or anyone else for that matter.
I wish you well.

Hugs,
Amy:)

[SixtiesChild]

Hi Y's woman,

I had a placenta previa ( grade 4 ) without bleeding of any kind which was quite extraordinary. And also PIH which I think was caused by the Previa.
Which in turn I feel was all started by my first c-section but who know really....???

I found this Dr a bit presumptuous in that she said that old age had kicked in :laughing: and after pregnancy had prescribed permanent medication for high blood pressure, which I knew wasn't right for me in the long run.
I knew I would need it until my body settled down.
But she just kept on insisting that it was old age.:laughing:....LOL
But I proved her wrong after I'd reduced my weight and came in with low blood pressure due to the tablets she'd prescribed.

The point being, that some of us know our bodies well and are prepared to make changes and whatever is neccesary. So I plan to reduce my weight further in order to reduce risk etc....
and try to restore my fitness which I know tends to decline with age.
I'm the sort that will run marathons when I'm a geriatric....you know the sort...:laughing:

[Zoe2]

Go ahead and do it, lots of Dr's couldn't give a hoot about your age [ I should know ].
Previa can happen to anyone.
Zoe.

[Littlenicky]

Hi Ladies, thought i would put in my pennies worth here. i guess if you are able to fall preganant natrually and are generally fit and hearlthy than age should not matter. A doctor should be supportive and not judgemental.
I am 44 and in need of donor eggs, which will be younger. We have had two unsuccessful attempts at IVF with a donor this year. My DH is concerned that we are getting too old and should draw a line a 45, to be fair on a child. I am torn between this desperate need to be a mother some how (I have no eggs of my own) and to draw a line under the roller coaster that is IVF.
Any thoughts on age using donor eggs.
Llittlenicky:bee:

[Josh]

Hi Y's woman,

I had a placenta previa ( grade 4 ) without bleeding of any kind which was quite extraordinary. And also PIH which I think was caused by the Previa.
Which in turn I feel was all started by my first c-section but who know really....???

I found this Dr a bit presumptuous in that she said that old age had kicked in :laughing: and after pregnancy had prescribed permanent medication for high blood pressure, which I knew wasn't right for me in the long run.
I knew I would need it until my body settled down.
But she just kept on insisting that it was old age.:laughing:....LOL
But I proved her wrong after I'd reduced my weight and came in with low blood pressure due to the tablets she'd prescribed.

The point being, that some of us know our bodies well and are prepared to make changes and whatever is neccesary. So I plan to reduce my weight further in order to reduce risk etc....
and try to restore my fitness which I know tends to decline with age.
I'm the sort that will run marathons when I'm a geriatric....you know the sort...:laughing:

I can understand your doc's thoughts, I have had pp grade 3 and 4, and I am still considering another child and I am almost 39, my grade 4 bub was born in june by c/s, and my doc has told me that I will probably get pp again for sure, but that hasn't deterred me, just go with what you feel is right.

[SixtiesChild]

Littlenicky,
To have the technology we have today is a marvelous thing.
I really hope all goes well for you with your donor eggs. I have heard of women becoming mums at 50 & beyond and we can tend to say that it's unfair on the kids, if the parents are older.
Bear in mind that there are no guarantees in life and some children are orphans and some parents abandon their children etc..... and lately when I hear of older parents going through many trials trying to have a baby, I believe that they are those that would make great parents.
Ideally it may be more desireable to have children while we're young, life just doesn't turn out like that for many people.
The eggs will be younger, so I think there is some advantage there.
The thing I would encourage (To any older mum) is to stay nice and fit and to look after you body, so that it works optimally for you, and your future children.
All the best. X


Jezzah,

I haven't spoken to many other women with experience of full previa, so thanks for your reply.
I am particularly concerned with problems such as placenta accreta which is a further comlplication they say tends to happen to mums that have had previas.
But you know our maternal instincts are so strong and I don't think that even that can deter me.
I wonder why then, women have had previas would be likely to have them again.
Do you know why it might be?